I've just had potentially life changing bad news...how to cope, before it would of been food.... Got my band now...comforter has gone.. :-(

Call a friend or family member? Or if you're comfortable sharing your news here, there's prolly many people that can relate. Or go for a long walk and just let your mind wander.

For me - I scrub my bath tub and then take a hot long bath enjoying my hard work.

Wishing you peace...

am sorry for whatever happened

when i am upset/sad/mad...i go take a walk.......and a hot bath works wonders also

again, am sorry...hang in there okay

Call a friend or family member? Or if you're comfortable sharing your news here' date=' there's prolly many people that can relate. Or go for a long walk and just let your mind wander.

For me - I scrub my bath tub and then take a hot long bath enjoying my hard work.

Wishing you peace...[/quote']

Thank you for your kind words.just found out my grandma has terminal cancer ....find out next week how long to live :'( we are a very close nit family ...oh boy what I would do for a 1 kilo bar of choc right now

am sorry for whatever happened

when i am upset/sad/mad...i go take a walk.......and a hot bath works wonders also

again' date=' am sorry...hang in there okay[/quote']

(hugs)

I'm so sorry to hear that you received bad news. I think talking with a person you trust would be therapeutic. I would also suggest prayer if you're religious. Anything to take your mind off of food would be helpful, such as the gym or a walk, that would raise your endorphins. God Bless you.

Sort of going thru what you are. My brother has cancer is undergoing extensive treatment but we aren't sure how long he has. He has had cancer for 2 yrs now and was in remission then about a month ago they found a tumor behind his belly button. I'm deeply religious so prayer is my salvation and I trust that God will heal him or if it is His will take him home, I'm not to question. You will be in my prayers and I wish you peace during this difficult time. Cherish these times with her, make every moment last and remember her and be there for her in good and bad, she will need you for comfort. Make her last days memorable. Lots of hugs to you.

Kerry, ((((sending virtual hug)))

First, be hopeful. It feels a lot better to be hopeful than to live in dispair.

I lost my mother last summer after a long drawn out terminal illness. Something that comforted us all was talking to her a lot. Asking about as many memories as possible (and record them--I wish I had, because that is what I miss the most, her voice! I even used to call up her cell phone just to hear her voice until her contract ran out). Think of as many fun memories as you can and talk about them, not just with Grandma, but everyone in the family. Even as Mom was on her deathbed, we sat around her and laughed and cried. When I was alone with her, I asked Mom about the day I was born, she talked for 2 hours!! She loved talking about it. Ask about what her proudest moment in life was, what she is most proud of about her kids, things like that. Surround her with love. In the month we had left with Mom, we laughed, cried, said everything we needed to say. Don't hold anything back because it needs to be said. Use this time wisely. Tell her what she means to you. When you feel like you need comfort, call your family, call a friend, go for a run, or just plain cry.

It's ok to cry. It's part of being human. It's something we food addicts avoid--emotions. We need to learn to handle them---which means not stuffing them down. It's ok to let them out.

PS One thing my mother craved was the human touch. Hug your grandmother, hold her hand, massage her feet! Enjoy every moment you can with her. I wish you and your family the best.

I'm so sorry to hear this. It really touches my heart. I lost my grandma last year in July. We were extremely close. She was more like my mother and best friend than my grandma and it still hurts to this day. I know that I don't know me but my heart truly goes out to u and if u need someone to talk to that understands the close relationship with a grandma....I will listen. Hearts & thoughts

Sorry to hear of your pain. choc won't help the family member who is ill. It won't help you deal with the pain. Feel the pain, write out your feelings on paper, talk to someone, a professional, if necessary and go with the flow. Best of luck on your journey.

(((HUG)))

So sorry to hear that you are facing one of life's challenges. I, too, was hit with a whopper on Wednesday when my BF experienced some chest pains, went to the hospital, and was in surgery undergoing a quintuple bypass operation within hours.

I can't say I didn't want to dive into the sugar. But thank you lapband for not letting me.

I don't have any advice, really, as we all have to find a non-food solution to sad times. I'm increasing my physical activity which helps distract me while I wait for my visiting hours to see him.

Wow, this thread has really struck a chord with me! Tomorrow I see my specialist to get the results of my biopsy so I can really empathise with the OP and others who have shared their stories. Thank you. It does help to know that we are not alone on these journeys.

Now, if I can just get good news, and the all clear to exercise again, I can start being the strong one for the rest of my family again!!

Hang in there everyone

Wow' date=' this thread has really struck a chord with me! Tomorrow I see my specialist to get the results of my biopsy so I can really empathise with the OP and others who have shared their stories. Thank you. It does help to know that we are not alone on these journeys.

Now, if I can just get good news, and the all clear to exercise again, I can start being the strong one for the rest of my family again!!

Hang in there everyone[/quote']

Positive thoughts with you hun x

Thank you to every one for caring and sharing x big love to you all x

Wow- I am very sorry about your Grandma. You have gotten lots of good advice here. I would add that you want to stay strong, for your Grandma, for you, for the rest of your family. Chocolate won't help you stay strong. Eating according to your plan will. If you are working out, try to keep that up. It's a great stress reliever. And of course, feel your feelings, cry, talk about it. Don't bury your feelings in food. I know all this is easy to say, I wish you the best and again am very sorry.