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suzannelturner    10

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

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chelly_pea    5

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I think your supposed to loose 1-2lbs a week, the more you weigh though initially the more you lose , weight loss will steady it's self out. Don't be disheartened, your on the road to success and already you weigh 35lbs less! I'd say that was a result! :-) x

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☠carolinagirl☠    18,721

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

i think its super fantastic

so be happy for yourself. i sure am proud of you

nothing like people saying things to ruin our day

head up

chin up

shoulders back

high heels on...you got this :)

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honk    780

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As previously noted 1 to 2 pounds a week is what most doctors expect. Someone's start weight is also going to affect how quickly they lose. I have lost 100 pounds pre op so I've been a slower for loser. It also took me 6 months to get restrictions. Overall I average half pound a week or less at this point. Another thing to consider is activity level. Often people who do a lot of exercising lose faster. Even though I exercise 1 to 2 hours a day 7 days a week I'm still a slow loser.

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PattyGirl66    1,243

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

Hi Suzanne, your weight loss is right on target! Excellent job! OMG, the things people say when they have absolutely NO clue to what they are talking about! MY goodness, -35 lbs is a lot of friggin' sticks of butter hon! ((hugs))

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4sweeties    63

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I think 35 pounds is a lot!!!! That's the weight of my son and he is heavy to carry around.

I also heard about 1-2 pounds per week. You are doing that.

I'm sure you feel better than you did 35 pounds ago?

Next time say, did you express this negativity to her also?

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this sucks    557

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I wish that people had a "mute"button that I could use when they say stupid things! 35 pounds is great, no matter what your acquaintance says!

Be proud of yourself because you know- you can lose weight, but you can't lose stupidity!

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2muchfun    8,927

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I think your friend is lousy with math. Pay no attention to mathematically impaired people.

tmf

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sarawray    44

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I also had my surgery on Aug 9. To this day I have lost about 30 lbs. It makes me feel better to see everyone say that is about right. Yay!!!!.

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line-dancer    810

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I got my lapband on aug 20 and have loss 35 lbs so tell that person to go eat cake...your just fine and don't tell her again keep her guessing.

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LadyLeigh2012    76

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I had heard 1-2 pounds a week is expected and/or about 10 pounds per month … so either way you are right on target! :D

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suzannelturner    10

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Gosh! I love this website!! You guys have made me feel so much better!!!!! Thank you all so much!!! :)

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