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Reina00    13

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Thier a freaking joke!! My number one person that is suppose to be my support system is always accusin me and I'm bearly 3rd week post op if this is what it's going to be like for the rest of my life Awwwww help no so far I'm doing great I haven't cheated

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2012    359

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What do you mean? Are you sad or angry all of the time? What is going on?

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vlp1968    83

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What is your support accussing you of? Of course he/she shouldn't be accussing at all. That is not supportive. My father is like that. Makes comments about my weight and what I eat. I have tried to tell him politely and respectively that it is not helpfull. He just doesn't seem to be able to help himself. Anyway- sounds like you are sticking to the post op diet- good for you! Keep posting here, you will find tons of support and advice.

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Reina00    13

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I was In The kitchen getting sum pineapple juice cuz my Dr told me it was the best to help my tummy go well my mother is yelling from her bed room get out of the cookie jar and it set me off!! I feel like she's just on my back for everything I understand she gave me sum of the money but its enough of her stressing me out like that!!

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Kinley7390    80

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Did you try to have a heart to heart with your mother and explain that you were only getting pineapple juice and that it is something your doctor recommended? It's hard to advise not knowing what type of relationship the two of you have, but that would probably be a good first step before the animosity and misunderstandings worsen. Good luck!

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Reina00    13

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Oh our relationship is super close she awsome but I'm her support system for everything she goes thru maybe its just me!! But I guess I've just been all about me and my recovery these past couple weeks and everyone just depends on me I'm the type of person that will give her last min of the day to help and these days I've been selfish!! Thanks for listenin to me I needed to vent!!

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Banjo257    920

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Mothers and daughters. Argh!!! Parents that loan $$$ sonetimes attach guilt strings. I am 48, married 22 yrs with 2 teenagers, and I still get tried like I'm 9 by my mother. Try this..... Don't put energy into trying to get her to change. When stressed or pushed to wanting to scream, exercise!! Do anything walk! Dance in your room with the music cranked! When was your surgery? Have you lost? Are you feeling well?

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Kinley7390    80

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Oh our relationship is super close she awsome but I'm her support system for everything she goes thru maybe its just me!! But I guess I've just been all about me and my recovery these past couple weeks and everyone just depends on me I'm the type of person that will give her last min of the day to help and these days I've been selfish!! Thanks for listenin to me I needed to vent!!

Venting is good and necessary sometimes! Sometimes the closer you are to people, the easier it is for them to hurt you just because they are comfortable enough with you and trust you enough to feel that they can say anything - this includes being critical at times if the mood hits them because they know you'll love them anyway... I think it's great you had the surgery and made yourself a priority for once. Sounds like you do a lot for your Mom in the way of emotional support. It's okay to take your turn! Hope things work out.

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Kinley7390    80

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Mothers and daughters. Argh!!! Parents that loan $$$ sonetimes attach guilt strings. I am 48, married 22 yrs with 2 teenagers, and I still get tried like I'm 9 by my mother. Try this..... Don't put energy into trying to get her to change. When stressed or pushed to wanting to scream, exercise!! Do anything walk! Dance in your room with the music cranked! When was your surgery? Have you lost? Are you feeling well?

When someone drives you crazy - walk, dance exercise! Great advice! Love it!

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Reina00    13

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I had surgery Oct 19 since preop 480 i am now 419 in less the three mts thank yall so much for the advise I'm 30 almost 31

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vlp1968    83

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You are not being selfish by taking care of yourself. Think of how much more you'll have to give family and friends as you loose more weight- congrats on what you've lost so far!. You will continue to have more energy, be more confident et...

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