I'm so so agitated from my family. Whenever I tell them I lost some weight I get very hurtful responses "that's ALL you lost"? or "You only lost 24 lbs??!! I thought you would have lost 30 by now"

It's mainly my mother and i'm really beginning to resent this :angry:

BTW, I have only been banded 2 months and had one fill. I am a very slow loser in general so to me this is an OK amount of weight loss

I'm working my @$$ off to make this surgery work and she's so discouraging.

BTW, she had gastric bypass and the pounds literally flew off so she's very not understanding.

i am 2 weeks post op....and i hope and pray that in 2 months i can say i lost 24 lbs!!!

you are doing awesome!!

I had the surgery 9/12 and I have lost 30 pounds. My family is supportive but I have a few people I wish did not know. I think some people get jealous and the only way to make them self feel better is to cut you down. You are doing great!

PattyGirl66 I want to add you as a friend if you don't mind... You seem like a cool lady! You always have alot of positive to add. Would that be okay?

You sure can sweetie!!! I am looking forward to seeing you around the threads, any questions you might have you are more than welcomed to shoot me off an email, I will do my very best to help you

I've been banded since March 2009. I lost over 80 lbs and you know I've had some of the most negative comments ever, going from a size 16/18 to a 0/2. When I got banded I knew the support for my decision would lay squarely on me and any thing else was a plus. My husband and children are the only ones who know I'm banded. Why because like many of you, my extended family and friends, which should be supportive, were not. :-(.

I'm happy that I made the decision and battle everyday to remain ; this truth in and of itself keeps me focused on me and not concerned about what others are saying. I really love my family and friends but I loved my life more and my health was what mattered.

Stay encouraged and don't look for others accolades because they won't wholeheartedly come as you might think. Do what you are doing for you and remember why you are doing it.

Blessing to you all. MizMizKay

i guess from now on I will NOT share any weight loss with her. No matter how much she begs/screams/yells at me. I'm so done with this

That sounds like the smart thing to do. It is unfortunate we all have friends and family who are unsupportive. I try to remember that they are the way they are because of them....not because of anything I did. We cannot pick our relatives but we can control the way they interact in our lives. You mother is insecure, jealous or resentful of you for some reason. That would motivate me more actually... But in the meantime I would politely say... Mom... I got this. I think its best if we do not discuss my journey. You will just have to see the results.

Good Luck

you are doing great! And 24 lbs in 2 months is nothing for the critics to complain about. Many people have misconceptions about lapband; they think its gastric bypass!

By the way, I opened this because i thought you were upset by the people on here who criticize others. I am glad to find that it was not! Best wishes and keep up the great work!!!Karen

Thanks everyone for the advice/encouragement

I already feel much better