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Still Waiting...starting To Lose Hope!!

I am 2 months in on my 6 month medicare required diet. The waiting is killing me and now I am starting to wander if it is worth it. I know without the surgery, I will never be healthy, but I am stll having doubts. This is a great site, but seeing all the people who are almost at their surgery date is making me sad. I want so bad to be where they are, but I am feeling like it just isn't gonna happen for me. Anyone else in the same situation?

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  • ilikebunnies
    ilikebunnies

    I totally understand and was feeling the same way in month 2-3. I almost gave up because I would have all these negative thoughts. Don't let it get to you, baby steps. I read a quote on here that h

  • Christina2013
    Christina2013

    Thanks SOOO much everyone!!!! I am so thankful that complete strangers take time out of their busy lives to help others! You all have given me the strength to push on! Thank Again to all who responded

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I started my six month diet (for Aetna insurance) May 16th so I am right there with you. It is frustrating and makes me wonder if they think we will change our minds in the six months?? I have also met others on here that have a year wait- it makes me glad I only have six months. Good luck to you and hopefully the time will fly by :)

i had to Wait all yr for this go to Mediciade to be able to get in for the lapband at the kansas clinics and finally three weeks ago I had my first consulation and now im waiting on my mediciade to approve which it will but the wait is nervy cause Im like u I want to start my new life,It will come just got to have patience :D

I totally understand and was feeling the same way in month 2-3. I almost gave up because I would have all these negative thoughts. Don't let it get to you, baby steps. I read a quote on here that helped me..."don't focus so much on the end, fall in love with the journey." Think of where you will be in 6 months if you don't pursue it. Keep at it and stay on here it is a great place to get support.

I would feel the exact same way in your shoes, but look at it like this: You're only 4 months away from finishing the required supervised diet. That will go by SO fast!! If you quit now, in 4 months you're going to be kicking yourself going "ugh I could be banded right now!"

I was banded in January and my mom decided she wanted it too. However, she also had to have a 6 months doctor supervised diet for approval. She has blown it off over and over. Recently she commented on how good I look and how great I've done losing weight, but then added "I'll always be fat, I'm never going to lose this weight". I said to her "Mom, if you had started the diet 5 months ago when you originally looked into it, you'd only be 1 month from surgery now. So why not quit procrastinating and just do it before another 6 months waste by?"

Don't quit now, you're so close!!!

Hang in there!! Think how long you have been overweight, and how 6 months is nothing in the scheme of things! Just enjoy your summer, and once August rolls around you will be ready to go!!! Good luck, stay strong and think about that cute little girl, do it for her!!!

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Thanks SOOO much everyone!!!! I am so thankful that complete strangers take time out of their busy lives to help others! You all have given me the strength to push on! Thank Again to all who responded!!!

Iv been waiting 10 months now and got to a point of loss interest as well so i decided not to strive for surgery but push to become healthy! Any way possible! I would lose gain lose lol but not being so entwined in surgery seem to speed time! Best of luck!

Mis73 I am 64 and thank God I take the chance and had surgery. You tell your Mom she'll never know if she doesn't take a chance, any weight loss is good and will lengthen your life expectancy!

I lose slowly now but, I am still losing lbs & inches - YAHOO..... wearing a size 12 now. I would never have gotten this far with surgery -never.

Time passes no matter what you do. Why not continue on? In 4 months you will either be done with the 6 month requirement or you will be 4 months older wondering if you should have finished it, and no where closer to being banded or healthier.

If it makes you feel any better I had a surgery date that was like a week away and had to postpone due to an unresolved blood clot. I was DEVASTATED. I used that time to really work on my food habits. To continue exercising.

It's easy to see surgery as a finish line, considering all the tests and appointments you have to go through. Surgery however is the starting line. The band will not magically reduce the food you can eat. It can take 6 months before you get restriction. This will be a will power diet until then.

Maybe you should buy a digital food scale and start weighing you food now. You will need a food scale after surgery anyway. Put yourself on a 1500 cal diet and start exercising. This is a lifestyle why not start now?

yvw and I love it on here

Wow, 2 months in!! I am finished with my required 6 month diet, but I have one more consult due to clotting disorder ( shouldofbeen taken care of during my 6 month but I can't change it) anyways, when I spoke to the surgery scheduler, they were booking out in September - from NOW! I'm not even sure once I have this consult what date I will be looking at, it will be a year in September for me. :/

dionaw

It did go by pretty fast for me though, trying to make sure I make the right food choices, getting into an exercise program, reading a lot on here, watching Utube videos for inspiration, and losing some weight on my own - you can do it!

dionaw

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