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Just Banded,

I am sorry you had to go thru that with your mother in law. That is why I am SO glad ONLY my husband knows I was banded. I would love to tell everyone, but I can't handle having to defend my choice right now. I have to focus on changing how I think, feel, and react to food. I have to work on fixing my obession with food and not others ignorance toward the band and people that are banded. I was having problems with my stomache and people at work knew I was having surgery, because of those issue. I did not and would never tell them about the band. I don't need to watched or lectured. So at this point think the most important person that needed to know knows. As well as my BANDSTER BUDDIES. Oh, BTW did I say I LOVE THIS SITE!!

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I don't have anyone in my life who would dare to say those things to me...LOL I guess because they wouldn't like what I said back.

Heh. Me too. Plus I phrase things in a way that they can't really say the stupid stuff back.

Plus, sometimes you have to set boundaries with family so they don't treat you worse than they'd treat a stranger on the street.

oh, and I forgot to add that I have been successful about dieting and excercising my whole life- just not keeping it off!

I tell people I didn't have surgery to lose weight. I had it to keep it off. I've gone over 200 and lost back down to a reasonable amount several times, but it always comes back and I am too old to keep up that unhealthy pattern.

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like i always said;people in glass houses with nose jobs shouldn't throw stones !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-bee-otch

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