Well, we've had a few people coming to "hawk their goods" on the LBT forum lately. The thing that strikes me as really dumb about these covert ads is that if they had just participated and had something to contribute they might have done some business here instead of alienating their market.

After referrals on threads from "real" members how many of us ordered the liquid vites and how many got some of those Protein chips? (And BTW, I loved 'em, but I will NOT be getting any more of the chips as I sat here and ate thru 3 entire packs when the box came! If you get a box DON'T open it alone!)

Anyway, as an active member I want to give an absolutely blatant and well-deserved product endorsement for someone who has contributed IMMENSELY on this board-- Our Own Fox-tailed Vixen, Delovely DeLarla.

As many of you know (& I guess the lucky Vegas bashers are gettin a peek) she has recently started a business offering "Intimate" articles. I ordered an item from her last week and I just have to say, OH MY LORD!!

In fact I think I have to GASP it. I won't go into item details or specific results here other than saying this could put Match.com outta business!

You can PM her if you are interested in more specifics & she has my permission to share which article I bought. It's a heckofa time for her to start this business as product comes from Louisianna--but even a more important time for her to have our support.

And please excuse me but I HAVE to say it, if orgasms burn calories I'm gonna have a heck of a loss this week.

Now that the thread is labeled "Adult Content", you know what you are getting yourself into by clicking on this thread...so if you find adult content offensive (unfortunately you probably need Lisa's party more than anyone!) DON'T READ IT. Geez...censor for yourself, for Pete’s sake.

I think a place where FF's (former fatties) and soon to be FF's can discuss sex is so important. There are many of us who have bloomed late in life and may have been too shy/embarrassed/scared to even think about our own sexuality. Now that our bodies are changing, we get bombarded with new challenges and opportunities all the time regarding sex. Bravo for talking about it. As my mom said, "Everyone deserves a good sex life".

Megan

On my knees, bowing to Megan. Wow, very well put.

Well, now that it's in the correct location, and labelled, I think we're on the correct side of a thin line. I think Megan makes a really good point. The short of it is, I WANT to be sexy and I don't know how. It's cool to have people to talk about this with, but I can understand where it might get to the point were it's gone too far.

If we set up a password protected area, the issue with that is that there's no age verification on the web, and all you can do is say "yes I'm 18", and the website thinks you are 18... so it is really better than just making sure you have a correct heading on the thread? lots of debates lately, but fortunately here they don't seem to turn into flame wars like on so many other forums (WLS related or not). We are a good group of respectful people

I like the ADULT CONTENT,and it being moved to the Lounge for the sake of no one being offended( which I'm not) and you are fully aware of it 's contents before entering, so it is your choice to read or not to read, to post or not to post.

I'm a mother of a different breed I guess, I have 3 teenage boys with whom I have never monitored their choice of television, movies, music or what internet sites they go to. I have a very open relationship with when it comes to SEX. I'd much rather have them feel comfortable coming to me and asking questions then trying to monitor them and the content the are looking at on the web, , they will find it on the web regardless so I'd rather be upfront about it. My boys have a very good role model in their father as to how to treat and respect a woman, my boys are fully aware of safe sex and practicing safe sex. This is something my husband and I believe strongly in and it is our responsibility as parents to teach the boys and allow them to feel comfortable coming to us about sex and it's totality. Sex was a 4 letter word in my house growing up, I could never go to my parents and talk to them openly about it, I refuse to have it that way for my boys.

Is DeLarla being profiled? I recall at least three threads that discussed swallowing men's semen after performing oral sex. There have been countless conversations about sexual positions, women that gag when performing fellatio, nutritional content of sperm, etc.

Penni, you of all people? You started the "Do you Swallow" thread and participated in the sperm thread. What's with the hypocrisy? If anybody crossed a line, it was crossed long, long ago. Exactly when did the topic of sex become inappropriate?

I get full-color, naked, pornographic pop-ups all the time. Any parent that thinks their kids are protected from X-rated material shouldn't allow their kids on the internet or in front of a television.

You know I never found this forum on enhancements for women (maybe men) distasteful in anyway lude or crude. I have been seriously thinking about getting something for myself long before we had Miss Delovely in the field of helping a girl out.

Omigosh-- I'm busy at work all day and what havoc this thread is reeking here on LBT!

Sorry, I didn't mean to cause trouble. I tried to be (perhaps enticingly) tactful in my post. When I initially posted, it was because I was so happy with this product and wanted to share the information with members who might not be aware of this avenue open to them. And I honestly think--as I pretty much said--that people who just come here to advertise were alienating users while I felt other members would want to know if an active, contributng member was an avenue for ordering something that might be desirable to them. I tried to change the title early on, but could not get it to change.

Thank you (Penni?) for moving this to the lounge for me. I don't tend to pay much attention to the area I'm in since I log on and just click "New Posts." But seriously, if you ask me, there isn't a better way to get a teenager to click on something than putting "Adult Content!"

Calm down dahlin DeLarla, Penni's just trying to keep the peace. Getting too upset (anyone) about this is just silly.

So let me segue into an exchange I had w/ my 17-yr old son a few months back. One night I watched some show about teenagers and this "friendship with benefits" phenomenon and how teens are having afterschool sex orgies. I've always been pretty upfront w/ both my sons re sex. As a single, dating mom I have been discreet, but realistic. My kids are great, but my youngest is a total doll (curly lockes & dimples) and girls just love him. The group he runs with is fairly conservative (we're not church-goers, but many of his friends are) so I don't worry tooo much (& to be truthful, there's not a whole lot one can do to control a 17 year old w/ a car), but this show got me thinking--and worrying about the dangers...So anyway, we're sitting there the next night watching TV together and during a muted commercial I blurt out to him, "So JUST TELL ME--are YOU HAVING SEX?!"

He kinda blinks, pauses, looks me straight in the eye with a little devilish grin and says, "Welllllll.... not on a regular basis."

Followed by, "Chill, Mom."

Maybe you have to be a parent of a teenager to understand how "put in my place" I felt!

From the mouths of babes.... let's chill everyone.

Fine, compromise. Any adult type threads dealing with things that are adult and mature and non conservative filly fally should be addressed as "adult content".

I am not going to be the first to jump on any bandwagon to beg someone to stay as we have all had our tiffs. It is all about being mature enough to work through it. Take a break if you want, that is what I did. But if you can't manage to get along in a public forum then what does that say about life skills? Everyone has an opinion and I respect each and every one as just that, THEIR opinion. You are entitled to it and you have the right to speak and be heard. Anyone wanting to run for the hills because they can't handle my opinions as well, then so be it.

If you don't want to read about it, DON'T READ IT!! It isn't some car crash that looky loo's are slowing down for. Pass it up and move on. Geesh.

Some of us talk about sex and the band as it relates to each other. For example: like Penni had started, the swallowing thread. It is a real concern for some of us with the band. If someone doesn't address it, how do we know? Or sex after surgery, how soon?

Or even toys... many of us have been so obese that we couldn't even enjoy sex because of the difficulty. Sex is natural and needs are needs. Why not be excited and enthusiastic that you can finally enjoy a normal sex life.

I understand that some are more conservative than others. And I respect that too. But no one is forcing you to read it. But you keep coming back don't you? See... your reading this now.

So if this thread totally offends you, I suggestdon't move to Europe because it is on prime time TV. Also suggest don't live in the USA because we have freedom of speech.

Like I said, I don't think this was all graphic and nasty. It was about information and such. It wasn't even about Lisa peddling her wares. She didn't have to. We did.

And I agree, it should be in the lounge. I never noticed it either.

To all that have voiced their opinions, for or against, I commend you for using your voice to speak up. Being more assertive and being more empowered is what it is all about.

Delarla,

You don't have to disagree with me about masturbation. Those are national statistics for the US. I didn't say I personally followed the statistics in my experiences. I was about 9.

And yes (for all of you wondering) I had a totally normal like childhood. But I did live in a liberal and very open environment where sex wasn't bad and could be discussed openly.

ANYONE ELSE NOTICE THERE HAVE BEEN OVER 1,000 VIEWS IN JUST 3 DAYS???????

Livin' like a freak on the edge,

The short of it is, I WANT to be sexy and I don't know how. It's cool to have people to talk about this with, but I can understand where it might get to the point were it's gone too far.

Mari, the first place to start if you want to be sexy is to THINK YOU ARE SEXY. The most important sex organ is the brain, not the dangly bits, not the hidden bits.

Some times you have to start small. Positive afermation (sp?) are very very important. put a sticky note or write in lipstick on your mirror "I am sexy" or "you sex kitten you!" or something like this. Even if you don't believe it at first, fake it. (the only time I ever advocate faking it is when you are learning it...)

Find something that makes you feel sexy. For some women it is wearing lipstick because it makes us aware of our lips and all the nerve endings there. Some of us like to wear silk scarves, again, the neck has lots of nerve endings. Some like to wear sexy panties, not so much for the nerves but the idea. Some like to not wear any panties. Do this in the privacy of your home or room, some place safe at first. Is this making sense? It's all about the brain.

One of the lessons I learned through belly dancing is terribly, terribly important. To be a great belly dancer, you have to have attitude. I mean ATTITUDE. You have to get up in front of people and be hot shit. You have to KNOW you are devistatingly gorgous. Have you ever seen a belly dance who didn't think she was all that?

Even when I'm not dancing I know I'm sexy. I've internalized it. Oh and trust me, if I can do this, any one can, even you.

I monitored my son's movie & TV watching. But not for sex, but for violence. I want my son to have a fulfilling sex life, everyone deserves that. Sex is a sacrament, a gift from the God and Goddess. I want him to have a fulfilling sex life, but I don't ever, ever want him to kill anyone. I just chose to not have such things fill his psyche as a child. I didn't let him watch porn, but I hope you get the idea.

Heh, last summer my son told me that he's the laughing stock of his peer group--he can't watch slasher movies...

Vines,

I have always admired your sense of self. Your self confidence and your determination. You convey convictions and a hard core sexy bitch attitude!! I may not always see eye to eye on some topics with ya but damn I respect the hell outta ya!

Wow, can't believe I missed this party. Wow. So glad I found this thread because I think this type of stuff needs to be discussed. I am a woman who has spent so much of her life hiding behind a thick wall of fat thinking herself unbeautiful, unlovable. If I can lose some weight and regain a sense of my sexual self, then the lapband has been a little miracle.

I dislike censorship in all it's forms. I appreciate that this has been moved and labeled and that it wasn't deleted outright. Props to the mods and owner of the site for allowing it to stay.

Oh and DeLarla, you have mail.

(edited to say: when I saw the label "adult content" what thread do you think I couldn't click fast enough? lol!)

love this thread, i need a catalog in a big time way. set me up!

i need BOB (battery operated boyfriend) in my life these days since damn hubby left me

Something I've noticed since I've been losing weight is that it really is about attitude. I have friends/coworkers who weigh the same as I do and bitch and moan about how fat they are and how nothing looks good...while I revel in my new body every day and feel sexier than I ever have in my whole life. I get hit on all the time, men run to open the door for me, I have more women that want to hang out with me than I ever have.

My take on how to feel sexy:

Find something about yourself that you think is really sexy...not what you think a man will find sexy, but what YOU find sexy. For me, it's my eyes. I know that I can make a man melt just by how I look at him.

Before I walk into a room where I know there will be single men, I take a minute and think about making out with that guy from my past that was SOOO good at it...not the bump and grind stuff, but the passionate kisses and the labored breathing...all of a sudden my face is flush, I'm licking my lips, and feeling very friendly. It's amazing what it does for me.

Get some freekin' clothes that fit. Even if it's one pair of pants and one shirt...when you want to feel sexy- wear it! And for Pete's sake girls, get some cute shoes,too! I know it feels weird to buy clothes when you know you're going to lose more weight- but you deserve to look and feel sexy NOW not just when you're a certain number on the scale or size of pants.

I'm an open book so if anyone has questions, please ask anything.

Megan

I forgot to mention a couple of things...

Look every man in the eye as you pass by him. At first, just look. If you're uncomfortable, look away. As you become more comfortable, maintain eye contact and smile. You will be amazed at the results- men will smile at you! When I first tried this, I was shy and realized that I have spent 31 years of my life looking at my shoes. It was soooo hard!!!! Now, if I pass a man on the street or in a bar...anywhere really- I ALWAYS look them in the eye and smile. Sure, some guys are dicks and don't meet your eyes, some guys are shy and look down, but man, when you make eye contact with a man and he smiles back- ZING!!!! Instant confidence.

The other idea is to flirt. Flirt like crazy. That doesn't mean act like a floozy. It means little things...like gently touching a forearm to get a man's attention, holding a handshake just a second too long, catching a man's eye, then looking down, then back up again really quick...then letting a sweet little shy smile creep across your lips.

This might sound really bad, but it's true and it worked for me- but start by flirting with guys you don't find the least bit attractive. That way, it's about perfecting your skills, and not anything else. Once you get more comfortable, you'll find it that much easier to do when you actually see something you like! This works, I swear!

I practiced these things in front a mirror for weeks before I actually tried it in public...practice makes perfect!

Megan