MeganA

I don't know where the heck I was when this thread originally appeared. I'm a single girl, and I've often had many of the thoughts that you all bring up.
One of my best friends is a guy, and I can see it in his eyes that he's more attracted to me now that I've lost weight. I don't know how to feel about that- he's been my best friend through lots of stuff...I can count on him, I love him to death...but I'm a little pissed off that now I might be becoming girl friend material. Hmmm....
I get hit on so much more now. I've told my friends and they all say, "It's because you're more confident, that's all!" and I just want to scream and say, "No it's not you bozoo's ..I was TOO FAT TO FLIRT WITH!". But, because they love me for who I am, they don't really see that.
Before I had surgery I had a couple of guys who were "hanger-on-ers". They both liked bigger women and thought I was a hunka burnin' love- great to screw, just not date. After banding I kicked them to the curb because my self esteem has blossomed and I no longer think that is all I deserve.
Now I never call a guy first. I expect to be taken out on a date- not go hang out somewhere...It's funny how when you raise your standards the right people rise to the occasion and the wrong ones get left in the dirt.
Megan