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Last night I really need a night out with no kids, we have 4, so I asked my oldest 14 to stay with the kids so me and my dh could go out to eat. I have been out to eat several times and I have been loser so I can usually eat more. Well now that I am so tight and can't eat as much I asked the waitress for a side salad with blue cheese dressing and a cup or French onion Soup with no croutons in it. She looks at me and says “that is it that is all you want”. I reply “yes, that is all I can eat” she then says “o I am so sorry you poor thing”! I was so embarrassed because she said it loud enough the next table heard which was full of old classmates that have no clue that I had the surgery! :thumbup: My husband loves it because are bill was only $19 and he loves that I am a cheap date :mellow:

Do you guys get this when you go out to eat? :rolleyes:

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We went out last night too. We thought the place was buffet, it was not. So my kids and my husband ordered and I ask for an extra plate. The waitress looked at me like are you kidding me. I could only eat a small end piece of flounder and 4 mini shrimp. Which ended with my trip to the restroom. I cannot not figure out when I am full yet. I could eat anything but in the last week I have gotten so tight. People do not have a clue when it comes to us do they.

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Laura - I'm only guessing that you live in the South (like me). Where else does a waiter/waitress express such concern and be so publicly vocal? (lots of chuckles here)!

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When my husband and I go out to eat I ask for a plate so I can eat a little off his plate. I don't know how many times the waitress has come back with the meal split half on each plate. Luckily my husband doesn't mind switching plates after I eat what I can off mine. I seem to get less annoying attention at least.

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when i first got banded and went to eat i would ask for a small plate like senior menu or kids plate. and get comments. now tho we ask to split and no comments are made. last night we had mexican and i had a lil peice of carne asada and couple bites of Beans. hubby ate the rest lol

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i enjoyed reading that Laura, we went to town today & i ordered a JP no butter with cheese & it comes with a side salad (no dressing) i ate 2 bites of the JP & that was it.. i couldnt eat anymore?.. so i gave it to hubby, he didnt order anything as he had a hearty Breakfast before we went out, so my meal betwee us cost $6, he said i can be as cheap as that all the time..so i grabbed his arm & went clothes shopping for me..LOL..bargain :laugh:

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I don't order much and take a lot home with me. Sometimes I just order the takeout box with the food so I don't overeat. But for me the funniest part is how hard it is for servers to believe that I don't want anything to drink with my meal. I've just given up and let them bring me the Water, it's too hard to get them to understand I really mean nothing to drink at all :-).

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I haven't done the restaurant thing as I haven't had my surgery yet. However, my doc gave me a special key ring that says I've had stomach surgery and if it's possible to have me order off the kids menu or have a smaller portion. It lists his name and telephone number. I look forward to using it and seeing the looks I get.

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OMG! It really stresses out a young over-achieving server when you don't order a drink. I have had them come back 4 or 5 times asking if I am SURE I don't want a drink! It's too funny!!

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We eat out probably once every couple weeks. I have learned how to order without being questioned over and over. I am sure the server doesn't like wasting their time having to come back over and over to ask and I surely hate being annoyed with.... Are you done? Is the food ok I can send it back? Do you want a drink... are you sure? Can I just get you some water!~?!?! OMG leave me alone people.

I always order one of the following cause it's a fail safe for me

Soup, salad, fruit cup, or something off the appetizer menu. When I order I always get a Water and never touch it. I swirl my food around some and ask for a container and always say I guess I wasn't as hungry as I thought lol

No one bugs me anymore when I order. I have great restriction though so about 1/2 a cup of soup and I am stuffed so I can see why they always think something is wrong with my food.

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It always makes me laugh when they come by and ask how everything is. I answer "it's great thank you", and they look at my plate and back at me like "well why aren't you eating it then!"

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