Last night I really need a night out with no kids, we have 4, so I asked my oldest 14 to stay with the kids so me and my dh could go out to eat. I have been out to eat several times and I have been loser so I can usually eat more. Well now that I am so tight and can't eat as much I asked the waitress for a side salad with blue cheese dressing and a cup or French onion soup with no croutons in it. She looks at me and says “that is it that is all you want”. I reply “yes, that is all I can eat” she then says “o I am so sorry you poor thing”! I was so embarrassed because she said it loud enough the next table heard which was full of old classmates that have no clue that I had the surgery! :thumbup: My husband loves it because are bill was only $19 and he loves that I am a cheap date

Do you guys get this when you go out to eat?

We went out last night too. We thought the place was buffet, it was not. So my kids and my husband ordered and I ask for an extra plate. The waitress looked at me like are you kidding me. I could only eat a small end piece of flounder and 4 mini shrimp. Which ended with my trip to the restroom. I cannot not figure out when I am full yet. I could eat anything but in the last week I have gotten so tight. People do not have a clue when it comes to us do they.

Laura - I'm only guessing that you live in the South (like me). Where else does a waiter/waitress express such concern and be so publicly vocal? (lots of chuckles here)!

When my husband and I go out to eat I ask for a plate so I can eat a little off his plate. I don't know how many times the waitress has come back with the meal split half on each plate. Luckily my husband doesn't mind switching plates after I eat what I can off mine. I seem to get less annoying attention at least.

when i first got banded and went to eat i would ask for a small plate like senior menu or kids plate. and get comments. now tho we ask to split and no comments are made. last night we had mexican and i had a lil peice of carne asada and couple bites of beans. hubby ate the rest lol

i enjoyed reading that Laura, we went to town today & i ordered a JP no butter with cheese & it comes with a side salad (no dressing) i ate 2 bites of the JP & that was it.. i couldnt eat anymore?.. so i gave it to hubby, he didnt order anything as he had a hearty breakfast before we went out, so my meal betwee us cost $6, he said i can be as cheap as that all the time..so i grabbed his arm & went clothes shopping for me..LOL..bargain :laugh:

I don't order much and take a lot home with me. Sometimes I just order the takeout box with the food so I don't overeat. But for me the funniest part is how hard it is for servers to believe that I don't want anything to drink with my meal. I've just given up and let them bring me the water, it's too hard to get them to understand I really mean nothing to drink at all :-).

I haven't done the restaurant thing as I haven't had my surgery yet. However, my doc gave me a special key ring that says I've had stomach surgery and if it's possible to have me order off the kids menu or have a smaller portion. It lists his name and telephone number. I look forward to using it and seeing the looks I get.

OMG! It really stresses out a young over-achieving server when you don't order a drink. I have had them come back 4 or 5 times asking if I am SURE I don't want a drink! It's too funny!!

We eat out probably once every couple weeks. I have learned how to order without being questioned over and over. I am sure the server doesn't like wasting their time having to come back over and over to ask and I surely hate being annoyed with.... Are you done? Is the food ok I can send it back? Do you want a drink... are you sure? Can I just get you some water!~?!?! OMG leave me alone people.

I always order one of the following cause it's a fail safe for me

Soup, salad, fruit cup, or something off the appetizer menu. When I order I always get a Water and never touch it. I swirl my food around some and ask for a container and always say I guess I wasn't as hungry as I thought lol

No one bugs me anymore when I order. I have great restriction though so about 1/2 a cup of soup and I am stuffed so I can see why they always think something is wrong with my food.

It always makes me laugh when they come by and ask how everything is. I answer "it's great thank you", and they look at my plate and back at me like "well why aren't you eating it then!"

My husband is going to love that going out to dinner is going to be a lot cheaper!