Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Girl here. Being surprised isn't an option for me. For one, I hate surprises. For two, I wouldn't have been able to not prepare.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Girl here. Being surprised isn't an option for me. For one, I hate surprises. For two, I wouldn't have been able to not prepare.

Same here, being 'surprised' isn't an option. DH and I have already been fighting about this. He does NOT want to know, he wants the excitement of finding out when it's born.. mmk, but I will be excited when I find out in December. We don't see eye-to-eye, but I told him I respect his decision not to know-- but I AM finding out. He keeps begging me to wait, I don't know why he cares what I do if I don't tell him. Because of him though, I can only tell a small handful of people so it doesn't accidentally get out. He doesn't care about decor, I already picked out a boy & girl set.. so when I find out, I will order whichever set and in my last month I will decorate the room and keep the door closed so he doesn't know.

I want to know nooowwwwww. :tongue2: I'm scared the girl set won't be available by time I find out, and I am so in love with it. In fact, I'll be a bit disappointed it's not a girl if it's a boy, simply because I want to order this set. :crying: :biggrin:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

initially i didnt want to know ... there are so few true surprises now..

DH wanted to know .. and umm, i'd bug the crap out of him if he knew and i didnt so, i changed my mind... plus, it will really help with planning...

BUT...

it seems i have a modest (and stubborn) little one ... we go in for another ultrasound next Monday.... my thoughts are its a boy, but who knows??

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yeah I was much the same. I was finding out, no doubt. Being surprised never even crossed my mind. DH didn't want to know. I told him "Ok, I won't tell you, but don't you think you'll get cues from the stuff I'm buying?" Then the morning of my first US he couldn't wait to find out, he was more eager than I was. So then the mission to find non-pink began...

At the US I could tell right away that we were looking at baby's genitals, and for a second I thought we were having a boy because there were three distinct little "tic tacs" on the screen... I figured one twig, two berries = 3. Then the sonographer says "Oh, see those three bumps? That's what we see with girls." So we went from "Oh it's a boy" to "Oh it's a girl" in the span of about 5 seconds.

I too, before the US, had already bought boy bedding and girl bedding. I kept the boy bedding (actually it's kinda neutral - earty green, khaki, cream...) because I really like it and you never know when it will come in handy. Took the original girl one back, didn't like it as much as I thought I would (ordered it online). Found one in a store that I loved, and that was about $800 - eek. Then found it for around $400. Then found a tiny boutique that advertised it as "discontinued" on their website, sale $210, but they didn't take phone or internet orders. Then I found a local store that price matches online retailers. They normally sell it for about $580 in their store, but gave me the $210 price. Score!

I *really* wanted a girl when I first found out I was pregnant, and before when we were TTC. Then I started thinking about it and would have been fine either way. Then they told me I wouldn't make it past my first trimester, and I didn't care, as long as it lasted. So I was deeply tickled to learn it was a girl, but there was a tiny portion of me that had adjusted to the thought of a boy.

BTW - I might be in really early labor. I can't tell. It's so different from what we were told to expect, but also so different from anything I've felt previously. Hmmm...

(I love that "X" and "Y" and "Z" are signs that labor is imminent. I mean, really - isn't pregnancy a sign that labor is imminent??!!)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

BTW, here are some pics of what you see with a girl. Might be kinda hard to make out. The first one - she looked like a Gummy bear. Imagine you're looking at the bottom of a gummy bear, almost as though you're under a glass floor looking up at it. The two little "stumps" shooting out on the right are her legs. The two bright white dots were her hips IIRC. Then there's three little things that look kinda like teeth or tic-tacs. Those are apparently her girl parts.

Second picture - a little more clear now. Similar bottom-up viewing angle, only she has actual legs & not just stumps. It's a little more clear that the three tic-tacs are girl parts.

Third picture was from my 4D ultrasound, a little over a month ago. Fully formed. Very puffy, which I've since learned happens with newborns.

post-205294-13813137786208_thumb.jpg

post-205294-13813137786489_thumb.png

post-205294-13813137786895_thumb.jpg

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • KeeWee

      It's been 10 long years! Here is my VSG weight loss surgiversary update..
      https://www.ae1bmerchme.com/post/10-year-surgiversary-update-for-2024 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Aunty Mamo

      Iʻm roughly 6 weeks post-op this morning and have begun to feel like a normal human, with a normal human body again. I started introducing solid foods and pill forms of medications/supplements a couple of weeks ago and it's really amazing to eat meals with my family again, despite the fact that my portions are so much smaller than theirs. 
      I live on the island of Oʻahu and spend a lot of time in the water- for exercise, for play,  and for spiritual & mental health. The day I had my month out appointment with my surgeon, I packed all my gear in my truck, anticipating his permission to get back in the ocean. The minute I walked out of that hospital I drove straight to the shore and got in that water. Hallelujah! My appointment was at 10 am. I didn't get home until after 5 pm. 
      I'm down 31 pounds since the day of surgery and 47 since my pre-op diet began, with that typical week long stall occurring at three weeks. I'm really starting to see some changes lately- some of my clothing is too big, some fits again. The most drastic changes I notice however are in my face. I've also noticed my endurance and flexibility increasing. I was really starting to be held up physically, and I'm so grateful that I'm seeing that turn around in such short order. 
      My general disposition lately is hopeful and motivated. The only thing that bugs me on a daily basis still is the way those supplements make my house smell. So stink! But I just bought a smell proof bag online that other people use to put their pot in. My house doesn't stink anymore. 
       
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
      Surgery was in August of 2023. A bill shows up for over $7,000 in January. WTF? I asks myself. I know that I jumped through all of the insurance hoops and verified this and triple checked that, as did the surgeon's office. All was set, and I paid all of the known costs before surgery.
      A looong story short, is that an assistant surgeon that was in the process of accepting money from my insurance company touched me while I was under anesthesia. That is what the bill was for. But hey, guess what? Some federal legislation was enacted last year to help patients out when they cannot consent to being touched by someone out of their insurance network. These types of bills fall under something called, "surprise billing," and you don't have to put up with it.
      https://www.cms.gov/nosurprises
      I had to make a lot of phone calls to both the surgeon's office and the insurance company and explain my rights and what the maximum out of pocket costs were that I could be liable for. Also had to remind them that it isn't my place to be taking care of all of this and that I was going to escalate things if they could not play nice with one another.
      Quick ending is that I don't have to pay that $7,000+. Advocate, advocate, advocate for yourself no matter how long it takes and learn more about this law if you are ever hit with a surprise bill.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Some days I feel like an infiltrator... I'm participating in society as a "thin" person. They have no idea that I haven't always been one of them! 🤣
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • ChunkCat

      Thank you everyone for your well wishes! I totally forgot I wrote an update here... I'm one week post op today. I gained 15 lbs in water weight overnight because they had to give me tons of fluids to bring my BP up after surgery! I stayed one night in the hospital. Everything has been fine except I seem to have picked up a bug while I was there and I've been running a low grade fever, coughing, and a sore throat. So I've been hydrating well and sleeping a ton. So far the Covid tests are negative.
      I haven't been able to advance my diet past purees. Everything I eat other than tofu makes me choke and feels like trying to swallow rocks. They warned me it would get worse before it gets better, so lets hope this is all normal. I have my follow up on Monday so we'll see. Living on shakes and soup again is not fun. I had enough of them the first time!! LOL 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×