I thought it might be FUN to ask you all what the rudest comment you have had is and how you responded!

I'll get it started: Last weekend, I went for my hair appointment. I had not been for 9 or 10 weeks. When she saw me, she said, "You've lost a lot of weight...did you have gastric bypass?" I couldn't believe she would ask such a personal question...people sure are bold! I simply replied, "Nope, I didn't." And that was the truth! :redface:

I work in retail and was looking in a clothing rounder in the size smalls for a customer. There was a customer looking in that rounder and said to me " you know these are smalls". I was so mad.

The 2 that stick out to me:

1st- In elementary school, I was pretty chunky. Not super obese like now but heavy. I remember a kid saying something stupid to me like "I didn't know that whales could sit in chairs". I can't remember if I said anything to him but I do know that I cried at home that evening.

2nd- my ex husband and I met while we were both on shape and in the military. Over our marriage, a knee injury, depression, laziness, horrible marriage stress, his porn issues and gaining too much weight during a pregnancy all took their toll. When we were having a fight shortly before we split up, he told me that I "smell like a fat person sometimes". I bawled at that. I am a nurse. I have taken care of overweight people and know that certain areas can get a bit rank if not washed often and well. But because of that knowledge, I have always been a bit paranoid about my hygiene and I sure as h**l know that I was fine.

My sister recently told me out of anger that I was so fat I needed surgery to lose weight.

THAT....Did not end well....for her.

I was told once by an ignorant skinny little jerk that I was bigger than his wife when she was 9 months pregnant...thing was I was 8 months pregnant at the time but I guess I just looked fat.....I told my husband and he went looking for him...luckily for skinny jerk, he couldn't find him...wish I could meet him now and punch him in his ignorant face...

I hadn't seen a family member in many years and I had mentioned losing weight and he said "yea...what happened to you?"....and a couple years ago I was looking for a job after having my son and after a few interviews I was getting discouraged and another family member said "maybe they aren't hiring you because of your weight"...what's wrong with people?

I thought it might be FUN to ask you all what the rudest comment you have had is and how you responded!

I'll get it started: Last weekend' date=' I went for my hair appointment. I had not been for 9 or 10 weeks. When she saw me, she said, "You've lost a lot of weight...did you have gastric bypass?" I couldn't believe she would ask such a personal question...people sure are bold! I simply replied, "Nope, I didn't." And that was the truth! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/modern/001_tt2.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':redface:' />[/quote']

Haters gonna hate

Like everyone I have had my share of nasty comments but the most hurtfull was when I went back east to see my Mom who I had not seen in 3 years. Her Very FIRST words to me were (not hello' date=' not i have missed you but) BOY DID YOU GET FAT AGAIN.[/quote']

My mom is passed since 2002 but she was exactly like that. She would comment how fat I was before asking how I was. My mom was a great person however and I forgive her. I miss her everyday.

I was with my stunning Gorgeous Mother at her monthly Nail appointment. My mother has never had a weight problem and is 4'11 Im 5'1.

As I am a professional Singer, my mother tries to brag about me and was eager to introduce her nail tech who's daughter also sings. I go to shake her hand and she surprisingly states, WOW YOU HAVE BIG DAUGHTER!

Needless to say we never spoke of music

As mother and I drove off, she noticed I was humiliated! She said Honey, she meant your Tall!

Yeah Mom thats what she meant....:/

I was always really skinny as a child & teenager. I gradually gained weight after my first year in college.

My mom took me to the doctor cause she thought something was wrong with me since my chest sunk in. The doctor just said I was to skinny.

I had a guy say he I was to skinny & would never want to date me.

So now after being known as the "skinny" girl in school I am so ashamed I avoid all my past school mates at all costs. I don't post any current pics on Facebook, don't go to class reunions or get togethers.

My father n law was looking at a picture of me on the wall from when I was in high school at said to my mom (while I was standing there) "she'll never look like that again". I didn't say a word but to this day I can't stand the jerk. He always makes rude comments & acts like he doesn't mean anything by it.

I have been asked when I'm due several times when I wasn't pregnant.

Wow this was quite the read. I've felt alone and as it turns out...I'm not alone on this!

1) I was late for work one day due to a doctors appointment. I always parked in the same parkade. The lady at the gate asks why I'm late. I say had a doctors appointment. She asks oh are you expecting. I just said no...drove to my stall and burst out crying.

2) at dinner with a bunch of family and complaining (quietly) to my mom that I had to buy a size 22 pants. My much larger cousin pipes up (very loudly) to the whole table...ya right a size 22!! Like I was lying about a plus size.

3) meeting my one true love again during his divorce. Called his house to speak with him only to have his daughter tell me he was at his girlfriends house. I was always the girl that was smart but not to be dated. (I will find him again after I've lost all the weight!)

4) my boss (who is short and.overweight) telling me that he was worried about my weight gain. I asked him that we must have met in a past life...my name used to be kettle and I'm sure that his name was pot?

5)recently vacationed to kauai with my best friend. She made a huge deal over me wanting dessert...embarrassing. I finally had enough and said you're right. Then I think she feels bad and requests the dessert menu. After all that!! We didn't end up ordering anything. There were three things I wanted to do but couldn't because of weight restrictions. Ziplining, tubing adventure, and a helicopter tour.

6) the best for last. Going to a retail store to shop for my mom with my dads credit card. A sales clerk walks up to me and explains that they don't sell anything over a size 14. (I was maybe a 16/18 at the time.) I left the store totally humiliated and in tears. I will NEVER shop in Suzy Shier...EVER!

There are many others that come to mind now that I'm listing them. I'm going to focus on me now...and feeling great about myself no matter what. I will go back to Kauai and do all the things I couldn't do...including ordering a dessert...even if I only have one bite. Its my decision and no one will make me feel bad. Ever...again. I'm super pumped about my decision. Perhaps my friend was jealous about it and lashed out in kauai? I told her that it was my last kick at the cat and I was going to go out with a bang. She seemed upset...the one person I thought would be the most supportive has been the least supportive! Oh well...up and on...my true journey starts on May 14th...I'm currently on liquids to prepare!

Thanks for sharing all...sorry this is so long.

Wow this was quite the read. I've felt alone and as it turns out...I'm not alone on this!

1) I was late for work one day due to a doctors appointment. I always parked in the same parkade. The lady at the gate asks why I'm late. I say had a doctors appointment. She asks oh are you expecting. I just said no...drove to my stall and burst out crying.

2) at dinner with a bunch of family and complaining (quietly) to my mom that I had to buy a size 22 pants. My much larger cousin pipes up (very loudly) to the whole table...ya right a size 22!! Like I was lying about a plus size.

3) meeting my one true love again during his divorce. Called his house to speak with him only to have his daughter tell me he was at his girlfriends house. I was always the girl that was smart but not to be dated. (I will find him again after I've lost all the weight!)

4) my boss (who is short and.overweight) telling me that he was worried about my weight gain. I asked him that we must have met in a past life...my name used to be kettle and I'm sure that his name was pot?

5)recently vacationed to kauai with my best friend. She made a huge deal over me wanting dessert...embarrassing. I finally had enough and said you're right. Then I think she feels bad and requests the dessert menu. After all that!! We didn't end up ordering anything. There were three things I wanted to do but couldn't because of weight restrictions. Ziplining, tubing adventure, and a helicopter tour.

6) the best for last. Going to a retail store to shop for my mom with my dads credit card. A sales clerk walks up to me and explains that they don't sell anything over a size 14. (I was maybe a 16/18 at the time.) I left the store totally humiliated and in tears. I will NEVER shop in Suzy Shier...EVER!

There are many others that come to mind now that I'm listing them. I'm going to focus on me now...and feeling great about myself no matter what. I will go back to Kauai and do all the things I couldn't do...including ordering a dessert...even if I only have one bite. Its my decision and no one will make me feel bad. Ever...again. I'm super pumped about my decision. Perhaps my friend was jealous about it and lashed out in kauai? I told her that it was my last kick at the cat and I was going to go out with a bang. She seemed upset...the one person I thought would be the most supportive has been the least supportive! Oh well...up and on...my true journey starts on May 14th...I'm currently on liquids to prepare!

Thanks for sharing all...sorry this is so long.

Wow this was quite the read. I've felt alone and as it turns out...I'm not alone on this!

1) I was late for work one day due to a doctors appointment. I always parked in the same parkade. The lady at the gate asks why I'm late. I say had a doctors appointment. She asks oh are you expecting. I just said no...drove to my stall and burst out crying.

2) at dinner with a bunch of family and complaining (quietly) to my mom that I had to buy a size 22 pants. My much larger cousin pipes up (very loudly) to the whole table...ya right a size 22!! Like I was lying about a plus size.

3) meeting my one true love again during his divorce. Called his house to speak with him only to have his daughter tell me he was at his girlfriends house. I was always the girl that was smart but not to be dated. (I will find him again after I've lost all the weight!)

4) my boss (who is short and.overweight) telling me that he was worried about my weight gain. I asked him that we must have met in a past life...my name used to be kettle and I'm sure that his name was pot?

5)recently vacationed to kauai with my best friend. She made a huge deal over me wanting dessert...embarrassing. I finally had enough and said you're right. Then I think she feels bad and requests the dessert menu. After all that!! We didn't end up ordering anything. There were three things I wanted to do but couldn't because of weight restrictions. Ziplining, tubing adventure, and a helicopter tour.

6) the best for last. Going to a retail store to shop for my mom with my dads credit card. A sales clerk walks up to me and explains that they don't sell anything over a size 14. (I was maybe a 16/18 at the time.) I left the store totally humiliated and in tears. I will NEVER shop in Suzy Shier...EVER!

There are many others that come to mind now that I'm listing them. I'm going to focus on me now...and feeling great about myself no matter what. I will go back to Kauai and do all the things I couldn't do...including ordering a dessert...even if I only have one bite. Its my decision and no one will make me feel bad. Ever...again. I'm super pumped about my decision. Perhaps my friend was jealous about it and lashed out in kauai? I told her that it was my last kick at the cat and I was going to go out with a bang. She seemed upset...the one person I thought would be the most supportive has been the least supportive! Oh well...up and on...my true journey starts on May 14th...I'm currently on liquids to prepare!

Thanks for sharing all...sorry this is so long.

When talking to a "friend" after a long time and recieved the usual "i cant get over how much weight you've lost" I finally said I had the band done and her response was "oh you took the easy way out, no diets worked for you?" ... Now we allll know how having the band is harder than ANY diet and more controlling than any bypass.. So i just blank stared and said "let me put a tight ass rubber band around your stomach and tell me how easy you feel, keep your opinion to yourself because you have not the slightest idea how difficult it can be, but worth every second, and id do it all over again because its f**king awesome and dont be jealous because i had the jewels to do it- Thank You, and excuse me I have a delicious protein shake to buy" and just walked off... Simpletons

Sorry about three posts in a row.folks...my phone froze last night...and after all that typing too! I panicked and hit submit 3 times apparently.

My bad!

_{everyday growing up was a struggle, each and everyday I had to face not only kids in school , teachers (yes teachers), strangers, and yup family members I was the youngest of 5 kids and my life was hell every single damn day. I gotta say I must be made of steel for me to still be sitting here. I don't like to toot my own horn but ......toot friggin toot in every jerk off that went outta there way to make my life not worth living each and everyday.... may God have mercy on you. p.s I know this isn't what you asked for but I just cant bring myself to relive all the nasty things that were done to me. may you all find inner peace.}