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Are those with surgeries soon skipping holiday gatherings due to eating restrictions or Covid fears? How are you navigating the holidays this year?

I thought the Christmas celebration this year would be with immediate family only. Now, it's turned into a sit-down dinner, 75+ person blowout. I'm nervous because I'll be on the liquid diet and will be having surgery in just a couple of weeks.

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Hey!! I am a week post-op and I can start soft foods tomorrow. Honestly the first week was rough, and I originally didn't wanna go to families either because I either thought it would mess me up mentally or just make me feel weird only having fluids. But even now I can have Soups and stuff and I prefer my Protein Shakes. For me though I could eat so much before and now I eat 3-4 bites of cheese and broccoli Soup and I'm full. So honestly it doesn't bother me, and I'm 14lbs down in 1 week. So this whole journey is becoming more and more motivating and you kind of just start to blur things out that you may have thought would have made you uncomfortable. It's an amazing journey. Good luck on yours hun.

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Are those with surgeries soon skipping holiday gatherings due to eating restrictions or Covid fears? How are you navigating the holidays this year?
I thought the Christmas celebration this year would be with immediate family only. Now, it's turned into a sit-down dinner, 75+ person blowout. I'm nervous because I'll be on the liquid diet and will be having surgery in just a couple of weeks.

Hey!! I am a week post-op and I can start soft foods tomorrow. Honestly the first week was rough, and I originally didn't wanna go to families either because I either thought it would mess me up mentally or just make me feel weird only having fluids. But even now I can have Soups and stuff and I prefer my Protein Shakes. For me though I could eat so much before and now I eat 3-4 bites of cheese and broccoli Soup and I'm full. So honestly it doesn't bother me, and I'm 14lbs down in 1 week. So this whole journey is becoming more and more motivating and you kind of just start to blur things out that you may have thought would have made you uncomfortable. It's an amazing journey. Good luck on yours hun.





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I mean, for me it would depend heavily on whether "a few weeks" is within 14 days or not - and on your general health.

If it were me pre-surgery, before I dealt with my head and the mental side of being obese, I'd honestly be reluctant to go. Not because of covid, but because of the change of plans from family to 75+ people.

Somehow, being obese in such large settings always made me want to cancel. Covid would be a welcome excuse for me, but it wouldn't be the real reason I'd want to cancel.

Maybe some of that is at play here? I mean, I'd be pretty pissed if someone just changed my Christmas without asking me. :)

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If it were me with 75+ people expected, I'd be staying away. Only for the increased risk of covid just before surgery.

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42 minutes ago, Hop_Scotch said:

If it were me with 75+ people expected, I'd be staying away. Only for the increased risk of covid just before surgery.

Yeah, I mean we're all going to get it, but if it's within 2 weeks of surgery, it'd be a shame.

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3 hours ago, MiniGastricBypassDude said:

I mean, for me it would depend heavily on whether "a few weeks" is within 14 days or not - and on your general health.

If it were me pre-surgery, before I dealt with my head and the mental side of being obese, I'd honestly be reluctant to go. Not because of covid, but because of the change of plans from family to 75+ people.

Somehow, being obese in such large settings always made me want to cancel. Covid would be a welcome excuse for me, but it wouldn't be the real reason I'd want to cancel.

Maybe some of that is at play here? I mean, I'd be pretty pissed if someone just changed my Christmas without asking me. :)

It's at my mother-in-law's. It was supposed to be a chill, small Christmas with the 6 of us and it snowballed. Yes, it'll be within 10 days of surgery. I'm nervous about the number of people and I'll be on the liquid diet and don't want the "Why arent you eating?" question. Normally, I'd go to town so it'll be obvious. My immediate family knows, but not everyone who will be there.

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4 hours ago, WatsonMommy21 said:

Hey!! I am a week post-op and I can start soft foods tomorrow. Honestly the first week was rough, and I originally didn't wanna go to families either because I either thought it would mess me up mentally or just make me feel weird only having fluids. But even now I can have Soups and stuff and I prefer my Protein Shakes. For me though I could eat so much before and now I eat 3-4 bites of cheese and broccoli Soup and I'm full. So honestly it doesn't bother me, and I'm 14lbs down in 1 week. So this whole journey is becoming more and more motivating and you kind of just start to blur things out that you may have thought would have made you uncomfortable. It's an amazing journey. Good luck on yours hun.

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Congrats on the surgery! It sounds like your doing really well. Thanks, good luck to you too.

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14 minutes ago, DoodlesMom said:

It's at my mother-in-law's. It was supposed to be a chill, small Christmas with the 6 of us and it snowballed. Yes, it'll be within 10 days of surgery. I'm nervous about the number of people and I'll be on the liquid diet and don't want the "Why arent you eating?" question. Normally, I'd go to town so it'll be obvious. My immediate family knows, but not everyone who will be there.

I'm sorry they're being so inconsiderate, or at least it feels like they are to me.

Is there a way to see the small gathering for like afternoon hellos and and a cup of coffee, but then excuse yourself before everyone (literally, lol) arrives? It could be a sad night alone for you, but yeah, that's a risk I think I wouldn't run so close to surgery.

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3 minutes ago, MiniGastricBypassDude said:

I'm sorry they're being so inconsiderate, or at least it feels like they are to me.

Is there a way to see the small gathering for like afternoon hellos and and a cup of coffee, but then excuse yourself before everyone (literally, lol) arrives? It could be a sad night alone for you, but yeah, that's a risk I think I wouldn't run so close to surgery.

Thanks. 😀😀😀 I didn't think of that. I'll see if I can make it happen.

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For pre op, I’d probably skip since covid is going around. If I was post op, I’d go ahead and go.

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On 12/21/2021 at 11:24 AM, DoodlesMom said:

Are those with surgeries soon skipping holiday gatherings due to eating restrictions or Covid fears? How are you navigating the holidays this year?

I thought the Christmas celebration this year would be with immediate family only. Now, it's turned into a sit-down dinner, 75+ person blowout. I'm nervous because I'll be on the liquid diet and will be having surgery in just a couple of weeks.

Hey, I just wanted to let everyone know that I didn't attend any of the holiday parties. I was sad at the time. Since then, I've heard about 8 attendees wound up with a nasty flu. They've had to cancel their New Year's Eve plans. I'm so glad I didn't chance it.

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