Hello there, folks! I'm writing because I'm feeling nervous and chatty. My RNY surgery is tomorrow morning, and I'm sucking down some bone broth and trying to stay sane. I was wondering if there were any folks out there who are prior military? For those of you who are, you may know that extra weight has brought with it a special kind of shame. For me, it shorted my career. Even before that, as I struggled periodically with my weight, I always felt that I was being scrutinized in my uniform for not being the "model soldier". Even when I passed my PT tests with flying colors, there is nothing particularly pretty with seeing someone running in those horrible Army PT uniforms. If you have any jiggle, everyone will SEE it!

Anyhow, I just wanted to see if anyone may have a shared experience with being in the military and struggling with weight. Five years after I've hung up the uniform, I'm still dealing with the shame, and I want to see how others may have gotten past it.

I am not a military vet but just wanted to wish you well for your surgery tomorrow.

Thank you!! ?

Not a Veteran either. Thank you for your service! Wishing you a smooth surgery and recovery!!

I'm not military, but thank you for your service and good luck on your surgery!

I'm not military either but, Good Luck with surgery today ♥️

I'm an Army Veteran, I completely understand what you are talking about! I always was over on my weight, but passed tape. I was always worried about my weight. However, nothing beats the horror of saying you are a Veteran and at least THINKING you see a flicker of disbelief and disgust in the eyes of the person you're talking to. YES I understand the shame. The embarrassment of previously knocking out 50 push ups in 2 min, and then being 120 lbs overweight. I got you, girl! Well, I have lost 9O lbs, 30 away from goal weight right now. Still not feeling awesome, but it's slowly coming together. God bless you on your journey and be excited for what is to come!