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I'm reading everyone's food enjoyment, even the Jimmy John's unwich that sounds amazing, but I am the 1% who can't eat anything. I'm 5 months post-op and to date I'm down 97lbs. I don't exercise because I'm a full time working corporate mom who is also in college full time. I don't know if this is the right place to post, but I had a break down 2 nights ago. I've been faking that I'm happy to hubby, and became a girly girl with new clothes and makeup to try and make me happy. I only threw up once early post-op. I literally cannot eat any real food. My stomach doesn't tolerate anything. I have to eat mild and bland food if I want solids. liquid has become my life, and I swore I would never have to live off of Protein Shakes, but it's all I can tolerate. There's a handful of real food, but it has to be fresh. No sauce from a store bottle/restaurant like BBQ, spaghetti sauce, and anything Asian. I get really ill. I tolerate Hershey's chocolate tho, to a degree. But a *bite* of my kids pizza has me sick. And when I get really hungry it physically hurts in my stomach and back. I'm so miserable and regret the bypass. I can't see my bariatric doctor because they are only open when I work. If this is my life now...... I can't. I'm so tired of the "but Sis, it was worth it, right?" F that. I crave everything even more probably because I can't have it. I keep trying. It fails. Hubby is very frustrated and hates every night when discussing dinner plans I tell him to pretend I'm not here. He feels guilty, like he's not being considerate. Oh and alcohol... Any more than 6oz of wine causes me to black out and not remember anything just as if I was plastered.

It wasn't supposed to be this way.

I'm not sure of the purpose of this post. I just need someone to talk to that is relatable.

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I'm so sorry you are having this problem. Somehow you need to get in and see your surgeon asap. Sending you love and good vibes....

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I was unbelievably sick months 3-5 and couldn't get in to see my doctor because I was on jury duty and couldn't leave court. I called them on my lunch break and they called me back after I got out of court. They were able to order some tests that I could have done on the weekend at the hospital. So, it is worth it to try to at least call your doctor. Mine was able to change my meds around and find some Vitamin deficiencies that helped some (those changes at least made me feel better enough that I didn't cry every day in pain). I eventually started to feel some better. But, really, if I could go back and not do this, I would.

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28 minutes ago, kfaery215 said:

I'm reading everyone's food enjoyment, even the Jimmy John's unwich that sounds amazing, but I am the 1% who can't eat anything. I'm 5 months post-op and to date I'm down 97lbs. I don't exercise because I'm a full time working corporate mom who is also in college full time. I don't know if this is the right place to post, but I had a break down 2 nights ago. I've been faking that I'm happy to hubby, and became a girly girl with new clothes and makeup to try and make me happy. I only threw up once early post-op. I literally cannot eat any real food. My stomach doesn't tolerate anything. I have to eat mild and bland food if I want solids. liquid has become my life, and I swore I would never have to live off of Protein Shakes, but it's all I can tolerate. There's a handful of real food, but it has to be fresh. No sauce from a store bottle/restaurant like BBQ, spaghetti sauce, and anything Asian. I get really ill. I tolerate Hershey's chocolate tho, to a degree. But a *bite* of my kids pizza has me sick. And when I get really hungry it physically hurts in my stomach and back. I'm so miserable and regret the bypass. I can't see my bariatric doctor because they are only open when I work. If this is my life now...... I can't. I'm so tired of the "but Sis, it was worth it, right?" F that. I crave everything even more probably because I can't have it. I keep trying. It fails. Hubby is very frustrated and hates every night when discussing dinner plans I tell him to pretend I'm not here. He feels guilty, like he's not being considerate. Oh and alcohol... Any more than 6oz of wine causes me to black out and not remember anything just as if I was plastered.

It wasn't supposed to be this way.

I'm not sure of the purpose of this post. I just need someone to talk to that is relatable.

Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm worried about you, It shouldn’t be this way.

Your health comes first. Make an appointment even if you must take a day off work.

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🔼AGREED🔼

Sorry you are having a rough time. You have to get to your Team ASAP. It's critical now especially if its causing breakdowns.

Get Well Soon 💜

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