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We kinda had an uncomfortable moment recently when the woman who performs at the local music-for-kids performances, which Henry and I attended regularly while I was on leave, told my wife how cute she thought I was.

If the woman didn’t look like a gargoyle, it might have been really awkward for everyone involved.

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13 hours ago, abefroman329 said:

We kinda had an uncomfortable moment recently when the woman who performs at the local music-for-kids performances, which Henry and I attended regularly while I was on leave, told my wife how cute she thought I was.

If the woman didn’t look like a gargoyle, it might have been really awkward for everyone involved.

One thing being fat taught me is not to to shame other people about how they look.

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You know there are security settings on Facebook. You can make your profile private and only friend people you know. That would prevent random people from sending unwanted pix. And if any real friends send them, you can also block them. Just a thought....

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6 hours ago, BlueCrush said:

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Oh my! thanks for the group full frontal pic * laughing*

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Possibly TMI-ing the hell out of the thread on this one, but I went to a national industry event recently and had an amazing hookup experience with a guy I met there. Body-positive feminist from the drop and just incredibly affirming the whole time (and also damn attractive and volunteered the term “enthusiastic consent” in conversation unprompted). I’ve been pretty conscious of my body for about a decade now, and the entire experience was fabulous. No shyness, no “demure” instinct to cover up when it’s actually just hiding. No trying for “flattering” positioning or lighting. No searching for the hotel robe and hoping it fits.

I’ve lost around 90lbs so far, last time I was 20lbs above this weight I had the negative experience of guys suddenly catcalling me and just outing themselves as superficial assholes. It made me feel furious and cheap and like I wanted to live at the bottom of the sea. I don’t know if the way I carry myself has changed as well (or the five years makes a difference), but this time round I’m able to avoid most of the crappy experiences. And obviously hit the damn validation lottery with this last guy.

(...also the nonstop shagging knocked off a few more pounds, bringing me within a whisper of onederland, so hooray for aerobics.)

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1 hour ago, sideeye said:

Possibly TMI-ing the hell out of the thread on this one, but I went to a national industry event recently and had an amazing hookup experience with a guy I met there. Body-positive feminist from the drop and just incredibly affirming the whole time (and also damn attractive and volunteered the term “enthusiastic consent” in conversation unprompted). I’ve been pretty conscious of my body for about a decade now, and the entire experience was fabulous. No shyness, no “demure” instinct to cover up when it’s actually just hiding. No trying for “flattering” positioning or lighting. No searching for the hotel robe and hoping it fits.

I’ve lost around 90lbs so far, last time I was 20lbs above this weight I had the negative experience of guys suddenly catcalling me and just outing themselves as superficial assholes. It made me feel furious and cheap and like I wanted to live at the bottom of the sea. I don’t know if the way I carry myself has changed as well (or the five years makes a difference), but this time round I’m able to avoid most of the crappy experiences. And obviously hit the damn validation lottery with this last guy.

(...also the nonstop shagging knocked off a few more pounds, bringing me within a whisper of onederland, so hooray for aerobics.)

Good for you! All that random flirting has to lead somewhere!

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On 11/28/2018 at 16:19, BeanieSprouts said:



I've noticed this too, unfortunately not any welcome attention. :c Mostly just men sending me pictures of their genitalia on Facebook, to which I reply with pictures of hot dogs being sliced up.


Lol!!

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