Mommies getting sleeved

[Yessican 42]

8 hours ago, Swimmer said:

I had two younger girls when I got sleeved too. I struggled with the same thoughts you are having and of course worried what if something happened to me during surgery. This was by far my biggest fear and issue prior to my surgery. The surgery went great, the recovery was relatively fast and less pain than I expected. It was rough about three days and quickly got better, but I had lower energy. It gets much better. Don't stress too much.

What I didn't realize at the time was this was a wonderful gift for them in the end. I knew I needed to get healthier and fitter to do more things. I knew I needed to lose weight to feel better about myself and enjoy life more. I felt like these things were all just so selfish. What I failed to understand at the time was what a gift I was giving them as well. See they were getting a much happier, active mom who was now focused on a healthy lifestyle. That benefited the entire family. They got a mom who was now willing to show up, be present, volunteer at school and be happy about life. They got a mom with a more positive and grateful mindset who stopped looking for the negative. They got a mom happy to get up in the morning, hang and play with them. I had energy and confidence now. I was teaching them how to live. I was teaching them in a much better way now. You see I didn't realize it then, but this sleeve has made me a better person, friend, mom and wife. I just thought I'd lose weight. It'll be ok and you can't make a better decision, I promise you. Cheers

Yes I understand exactly what you mean. Thank you so much for you encouraging words.

[GirlShrinking 110]

On 10/23/2018 at 11:08, Yessican said:

Hey guys, so I’m scheduled for nov 7. I’m a mom of two beautiful, energetic girls one is 6 and one is going to be 2. I’m having my worries of course about the surgery my biggest concern are my babies. I need this for me but I’m feeling a little selfish because I know they need me too. Just wanted to hear advice and other mommies that have been in this position, how was it, recovering and attending to them and everything in between.

I felt like this all the way to surgery 10/24. She’s 8yr old.. I had to leave her with my older sister who’s like a second mom to her. I’ve been face timing her and checking on her throughout the whole thing. I was so worried that she wouldn’t be taken care of but my sister has been super supportive.

Do you have family you trust that can take care of them while you’re healing?

In the end you’ll be thankful you did this for yourself especially when the kiddos reap the end rewards (when the time comes)

[NYJenn 1,461]

On 10/25/2018 at 16:29, Medowsweet said:

I am still in the "6 months of hoop jumping before I can have surgery" phase... But I am a single mom with a special needs (emotional/self control issues) 8 year old....

This is my biggest concern too:

What if I die?! (Very unlikely, I know, but still scary!)

What if I am totally out of commission for 6 weeks???

My kids sleeps in my bed and kicks me all night (on accident)... This is a concern.

I live alone, my family is local and helpful when I am sick or injured... Still... I live alone and am 100% responsible for a child.

So, anyway, this thread is very helpful and keep the mommy encouragement coming.

Would it be possible to use this time to start transitioning your son/daughter to their own bed? You will both sleep so much better.

[Medowsweet 52]

2 hours ago, NYJenn said:

Would it be possible to use this time to start transitioning your son/daughter to their own bed? You will both sleep so much better.

It would be a big change. She has her own bed but doesn't use it. We both sort of like the ritual of bedtime stories and falling asleep together.

Of course she kicks the blankets off gets cold snd literally tried to crawl under me like a blanket (hence the kicking- which is more like digging)

[Georgetown 253]

On 10/23/2018 at 11:08 AM, Yessican said:

Hey guys, so I’m scheduled for nov 7. I’m a mom of two beautiful, energetic girls one is 6 and one is going to be 2. I’m having my worries of course about the surgery my biggest concern are my babies. I need this for me but I’m feeling a little selfish because I know they need me too. Just wanted to hear advice and other mommies that have been in this position, how was it, recovering and attending to them and everything in between.

Yes this is about you first and for most but think about the gift of a healthy mommy that you’re giving them! Best gift of all! Good luck!

[NYJenn 1,461]

8 hours ago, Medowsweet said:

It would be a big change. She has her own bed but doesn't use it. We both sort of like the ritual of bedtime stories and falling asleep together.

Of course she kicks the blankets off gets cold snd literally tried to crawl under me like a blanket (hence the kicking- which is more like digging)

I don't know, it doesn't sound so peaceful to me, lol.

I completely understand wanting to snuggle your little one, I too let my kiddos sleep with me from time to time when my husband is away for work. But you'll be in a lot of pain post-op and finding a comfortable position to sleep is crucial as you need rest in order to heal. I saw Peg Dawson (guru for ADHD moms) speak and she said one of the first obstacles a child overcomes is independently is falling asleep in their bed (not sitting with them or laying with them) and how important it is that we as parents allow that rite of passage to occur. That it's important to their growth as a person and their executive functioning skills. I thought that was so powerful.

Best of luck to you.

[Yessican 42]

54 minutes ago, GirlShrinking said:

I felt like this all the way to surgery 10/24. She’s 8yr old.. I had to leave her with my older sister who’s like a second mom to her. I’ve been face timing her and checking on her throughout the whole thing. I was so worried that she wouldn’t be taken care of but my sister has been super supportive.

Do you have family you trust that can take care of them while you’re healing?

In the end you’ll be thankful you did this for yourself especially when the kiddos reap the end rewards (when the time comes)

Yes, thank god. That’s true. Thank you

[Yessican 42]

3 hours ago, Georgetown said:

Yes this is about you first and for most but think about the gift of a healthy mommy that you’re giving them! Best gift of all! Good luck!

Thank you!

[J San 1,071]

I didn't read through all the post and am sure it has been said but it won't to read it again.

The recovery time is minimal compared to the amount of time you will have being able to do "whatever" for those two babies. Your not being selfish, your looking out for their future. One where you can be there for them and not feel held back due to your weight or health. Take the small amount of time now so you don't have to deny them at anytime. Best to you!!!

[Medowsweet 52]

11 hours ago, NYJenn said:

I don't know, it doesn't sound so peaceful to me, lol.

I completely understand wanting to snuggle your little one, I too let my kiddos sleep with me from time to time when my husband is away for work. But you'll be in a lot of pain post-op and finding a comfortable position to sleep is crucial as you need rest in order to heal. I saw Peg Dawson (guru for ADHD moms) speak and she said one of the first obstacles a child overcomes is independently is falling asleep in their bed (not sitting with them or laying with them) and how important it is that we as parents allow that rite of passage to occur. That it's important to their growth as a person and their executive functioning skills. I thought that was so powerful.

Best of luck to you.

Yeah, she super doesn't fall asleep on her own. I was thinking of laying in bed with her till she falls asleep but her tiny bunkbed isn't supposed to hold more then 250 lbs.

I don't even know how to get her to fall asleep without me. I don't mind sleeping with her but I WOULD like her to be able to sleep in her own bed for a few short weeks when I will be in a lot of pain. Then she can go back to sleeping with me if she wants.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Sitting in a chair, lying on the floor next to her bed, hold onto herbyand until she falls asleep. Make a chart, don't use food as reward but maybe a Mommy and me manicure/pedicure, maybe a Bracelet, there are ever so many little treats, let her feel she earned them by being a Big 👧. Think a little, you know her better than we do. And we're proud of your commitment to being a healthier Mom for Her!

[ForMyChildren 11]

Hello I am a single parent to a 6yo, 4yo and 2yo. As a parent this is not selfish. It is for their benefit as well as yours. It means more time with your angels, more quality time as you get healthier and this is your chance to be the best version of you for you to teach them they can do anything they want. Best of luck being the best you can be and showing your children how to reach for anything you want. Wishing you love and light in your journey.

[Fatsuitbegone 6]

I'm loving all the positive mommie posts

[Medowsweet 52]

On 10/27/2018 at 1:35 PM, Frustr8 said:

Sitting in a chair, lying on the floor next to her bed, hold onto herbyand until she falls asleep. Make a chart, don't use food as reward but maybe a Mommy and me manicure/pedicure, maybe a Bracelet, there are ever so many little treats, let her feel she earned them by being a Big 👧. Think a little, you know her better than we do. And we're proud of your commitment to being a healthier Mom for Her!

I know what she likes more then anything: LOL surprise dolls.

Maybe stickers towards an LOL ball

[Frustr8 7,886]

And maybe your little Medowsweet Jr will have have a smoother transition toward Big Girl-hood. And you are a Good Mama and are making good steps toward a happier healthier Future.-🎑👩&-👧