Fat Shaming by Medical Practitioners

[nibble 201]

https://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-august-1-2018-1.4769487/how-fat-shaming-from-doctors-is-leading-to-misdiagnoses-for-obese-patients-1.4769569

This is an interesting article -- lots of education needed by physicians.

[Orchids&Dragons 9,047]

Yes, it is a major problem, in my opinion.

[Missouri-Lee's Summit 1,256]

@nibble I can't believe that I beat the librarian at her own game. Feels good, nibble. Eat my dust. Better luck next time.

[BostonWLKC 806]

I used to be so depressed after seeing my PCP. Some of the comments were just unfiltered...which I tend to like, but when it involves a sensitive subject, well, it hurts lol. However it was a main push in the WLS direction so ....

[Frustr8 7,886]

You mean besides:
Be careful, you might overbalance and fall off the table!
I see you're still walking- Did you by chance expect I'd float in?
Maybe you ought to sit,in the one without arms? I could sit in the armed one if it was more than 28 inches across!
Had one who stocked his exam room with flimsy folding chairs- always problematic when you weight 200+
Well you're not huffing and puffing MUCH- shut up or I'll blow your office down!
Didn't I tell you to loose weight? yeah but you wouldn't help me with diet plans or medication- yet you billed my insurance for dietary consultation- that does not include sneering or sniffing loudly.

[Frustr8 7,886]

not 28 but 18 inches measure it with my pocket tape- got used to carring one when I worked Fabric and crafts. Should have a sign like amusement parks only it should say " if you can't fit a seat this size, Go Away "
Same Ding Dong hands me a box of tissues one day, wouldn't need one if he' d air conditioned the waiting room instead of the examining rooms where you're half naked anyway or his own office in the back with the big mahogany desk.
Oh I've lived forever I have a millions of them.
A non- Bariatric dude, told me I shouldn't be pregnant if I was obese- sorry Dr Doofus but some of us do ovulate and sleep with our husbands. Besides I'm 8 1/2 months gone, a little late to call things off!

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6 hours ago, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:

Feels good, nibble. Eat my dust.

Sure, Missouri Lee, I'll eat your dust -- if it has Protein in it! Good find, girl. I'm glad there are several articles on this topic being published. Waay overdue. I think physicians must be required to get Continuing Education credits to maintain their license in the same way that teachers are required to do. Doctors are not taught how to communicate with patients well, if at all. A lot of work to be done in the medical field to get them up to speed!

[Snapple 42]

Yes, my husband is a physician and he is in love with the term "Morbidly Obese". Every time he uses that term I want to say "F-U, have you looked in the mirror?", but I don't because he would just claim it's a medical term and I'm "angry". Well, I wasn't angry until he used the term. And he could stand to lose a good 50 pounds as well. (or more)

[Frustr8 7,886]

Morbid obesity and he's a doctor? Perhaps he is matrimonially obese, or is he weight challenged or does he have obtuse self image and vision issues, after all,that's just him in the mirror, not 2 friends standing side by side. Sorry but I was married to one for 44 years that put me down and he was always 3 inchs taller, 30-50 pounds heavier yet I was the "Fat Cow" I overeact, makes me sad to remember. When he died,i mourned the man I married no the bitter judgemental oaf he grew into and I cried for the,potential he never realized, he could have been a wonderful husband, was a very well-behaved person until his true colors started showing , I blamed myself but I accept the blame no longer. He stifled my spirit and I had to reinvent,a sense of self worth after his death. Actually told me no one could like me for myself, I was on this earth on forebearance. Now I know Frustr8 is cool, she's pretty wonderful and I didn't have achieve it as an extension of HIM.

[Snapple 42]

33 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Morbid obesity and he's a doctor? Perhaps he is matrimonially obese, or is he weight challenged or does he have obtuse self image and vision issues, after all,that's just him in the mirror, not 2 friends standing side by side. Sorry but I was married to one for 44 years that put me down and he was always 3 inchs taller, 30-50 pounds heavier yet I was the "Fat Cow" I overeact, makes me sad to remember. When he died,i mourned the man I married no the bitter judgemental oaf he grew into and I cried for the,potential he never realized, he could have been a wonderful husband, was a very well-behaved person until his true colors started showing , I blamed myself but I accept the blame no longer. He stifled my spirit and I had to reinvent,a sense of self worth after his death. Actually told me no one could like me for myself, I was on this earth on forebearance. Now I know Frustr8 is cool, she's pretty wonderful and I didn't have achieve it as an extension of HIM.

THANK YOU!

My husband is tall and fit until he turns and there's the GIANT potbelly, and he has a GIANT umbilical hernia poking out of his belly button and then he wears tight shirts and tucks them in! It's awful and I've kindly hinted that he'd look better if he wore his shirt untucked but NOPE, his appearance doesn't matter because he's clearly the smartest person in every room.

He eats more food than anyone I know. Seriously. And he constantly pushed and still does push me to over eat and eat junk. He didn't want me to get surgery, fought me all the way, and only went to one appointment because I shamed him into going by telling him that the doctor commented about me never having any family with me and asked if I were going through this alone.

At this moment, I would not mourn his death at all.

[Frustr8 7,886]

@ Snapple, back when they put "Belly Bands" in hopes keeping umbilicus flat, they would put a quarter over top of the stump. Then someone decided that wasn't overly,sterile they went to a poker chip instead. Now what do for Dr Hubby's Tummy problem. I lay-prescribe him an,Abdominal binder , now about that hernia, hmm something between the poker chip and a yogurt lid, maybe,better yet a cottage cheese lid. Yep, just,might Work!

[Snapple 42]

53 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

@ Snapple, back when they put "Belly Bands" in hopes keeping umbilicus flat, they would put a quarter over top of the stump. Then someone decided that wasn't overly,sterile they went to a poker chip instead. Now what do for Dr Hubby's Tummy problem. I lay-prescribe him an,Abdominal binder , now about that hernia, hmm something between the poker chip and a yogurt lid, maybe,better yet a cottage cheese lid. Yep, just,might Work!

Whenever I see it, I ALWAYS think of those old snake in the can gags. Where the person opens the can and the slinky snake pops out! That's what I'm waiting to happen with his hernia, LOL.

He's VERY self conscious about it, but not enough to do anything about it. We're just all supposed to ignore it and not mention the snakes about to jump out of, the over pressurized can, LOL.

Thus said, there's a lot of things about him we are supposed to ignore and not talk about. Because he is Dr. Queen Bee and we are the worker bees.

Thank you for giving me a platform to discuss this. It helps to write my frustrations out as I'm really frustrated with him for very good reason that I won't get into on this board.

Edited August 5, 2018 by Snapple

[Missouri-Lee's Summit 1,256]

Wow. I had an umbilical hernia, but it was an incarcerated umbilical hernia. I had to have surgery (a laparoscopic mesh repair) a couple of hours after I arrived in the ER. Incarcerated hernias can turn gangrenous if untreated.

My husband is all about the "silent treatment". I've been married for 38 years.

[Frustr8 7,886]

How are you doing with your mesh? You hear such horror stories about on the,media, probably funded by personal injury lawyers. But I get scared for MY friends!

[Missouri-Lee's Summit 1,256]

I think the mesh problem was mostly with hips. I was going to say with hip people, but that would have carried a double meaning. NetFlix has a documentary about medical devices that hit the market before they're ready. One device was the DaVinci robot which is used in many laparoscopic surgeries, including mine. That said, the problem was mostly with doctors who practiced on fruit for a few hours and then tried it on patients. I know that my own doctor taught other surgeons how to use the DaVinci robot and has already performed hundreds of procedures using it, so I felt safe.