"You don't seem big enough for surgery..."

[BlueCrush 408]

"You don't seem big enough for weight loss surgery..." Well, I was over 50bmi, so if that's not, then what exactly IS "big enough"?!?

...or what I currently get is, "you're getting too skinny... you've got to stop losing!" Well, I JUST got out of obesity for the first time in 20+ years and am at 29bmi, so I'm not exactly, "too skinny."

Ever notice how 99% of the time it's other obese people who make these comments? I suppose misery loves company, and the healthier you get, the worse the other obese people in your life feel about themselves as they see us improving our lives, gaining confidence, and getting attention.

I just wish some others could be motivated to pick themselves up instead of trying to bring us down when they see our success.

[okayestmom 232]

I did not keep my surgery a secret, so I have heard some feedback on my decision from co-workers and friends. My friends know me well, so no questioning my decision there. Co-workers mostly had questions about the procedure and what it does. Many people told me they did not think I was overweight and seemed surprised when I told them I am in fact obese and it is already starting to cause health problems (BP and sleep apnea). I also advised both my parents had type 2 diabetes and that I am trying to avoid that. I never noticed that much before the surgery, but I am noticing now that so many people are over weight. Maybe this is seen as the new norm. Maybe because some over weight people do not have the health issues associated with obesity they believe everyone should feel as good as they do? I don't know, but the few times I have shared my actual weight with a co-worker they seemed shocked. We all carry our fat in different places and hide it with flattering fat clothes when we can.

[BostonWLKC 806]

I get “don’t lose anymore weight, you won’t look good.” Some even ask my weight and then say something like “oh you look like you weigh less than that.” Um ok.
I think that’s the reaction to seeing the rapidness of WLS

I just crossed into normal BMI and goal is the middle of the range. I don’t think that’s crazy.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Well this goes back to our past topic Surgery-the easy way but yours truly think week experienced above posters first- cousin statement, friend,soon to be demoted to. mere acquaintance, Funny you don't look YOUNG enough for surgery! WTF? All I could think to say was to say with a sarcastic tone in my voice " How sweet and kind of you to say that, Phyllis-Anne!" Half of it she broke my over sensitive ❤, but the red-headed half wanted to scream YOU JUST CURDLED,THE MILK OF HUMAN LINDNESS IN MY SOUL, but the whipped puppy side of baby Frustr8 won and I slink away although I wasn't the one doing anything wrong.😧