I wanna have sex again.....

[MsTipps 314]

So now that I'm officially back on the market, I am meeting new people and going on dates etc.... that's all great.

Now my ex and I have split I would like to think that I will meet someone that I wanna get up close and personal with.

He had a vasectomy so the baby thing wasn't something we had to worry about...

My question is, after RNY, is the absorption thing a problem when it comes to the contraceptive pill?

I have a 3 and 5 year old and I really don't want any lil surprises!

Implants and the jag don't work for me. The coil sorta freaks me out so I think the pill is my preferred option, if it actually is an option.

[LakeishaNicole 42]

I’m on birth control and I haven’t had an issue. I had sex a month after surgery and it was AWESOME!!!! Seriously the weight loss actually increased my sex drive (not that it wasn’t already high). I can do more than before. I did have a hiccup and didn’t use protection. But I did not get pregnant so I believe the pill is the same as it was before.

[MsTipps 314]

Awww that's very reassuring. Thank you.

I've always had a high sex drive and after surgery, it got even higher. My husband could never really keep up but I was always completely faithful.

Now we've split (for a completely separate issue) and I'm single again, I still have my high sex drive but now I can see other people etc.

I've made an appointment with the local family planning clinic for advice as it'd be a disaster to end up pregnant at this stage. I just really wanted to know what other people's experiences were as most doctors have no clue about gastric bypass surgery etc.x

[Frustr8 7,886]

Warning 🌏 I am a widow, will be,marking,my widow- versity of 6 years on July 4th. I have been told widows like our sisters the divorced are reputed to be " it to trot" well I have had 2 knee replacements because my weight wore them out,not sure I could canter let alone gallop but,i think there are go many trail-walks left in me . And as I lose weight I will only grow friskier And ornier . Shall I aspire to give a few good men an ❤attack or stroke? Not to necessarily brag but I did give as good as I got -Mattress-Mambo-wise. Not ready to tally hang up my spurs, will my pretty cowgirl boots with the pink camp insets fit under your bed? Even better, do you by chance have a mattress in the back of yonder pick-up? I'm well past menopause so we can play without paying the piper!
Stupid 45 year old PCP without looking up from his clip board
Hmmm-- are you still Sexually Active ?
My answer: No but I do live in hope!😝
He choked, serves him right, he brought the subject up. I probably would have kept it a secret had he not asked!
So Baby you don't have to light my fire, just help me fan the flames!💥💥💥💥

[newmebithebypass 713]

you can try the nuva ring assuming there is nothing structurally wrong down there speciffically speaking i use it when i feel esspecially freaky its worked 100% of the time but im probably a bad testimonial i only have one ovarian pathway now and have pcos to begin with so womp womp but try that if you are worried about the pill

[KimTriesRNY 1,853]

I was told birth control pills were not as effective post gastric bypass.

[LakeishaNicole 42]

I was told that also. However I’m 3 almost 4 months post op and haven’t had a hiccup. Not saying that it’s not possible but I use condoms and birth control. I’m about to just be celibate but that’s a whole bother conversation lol. If you are going to have sex just protect yourself all around.

[TakingABreak 2,733]

On ‎06‎/‎24‎/‎2018 at 9:29 AM, MsTipps said:

So now that I'm officially back on the market, I am meeting new people and going on dates etc.... that's all great.

Now my ex and I have split I would like to think that I will meet someone that I wanna get up close and personal with.

He had a vasectomy so the baby thing wasn't something we had to worry about...

My question is, after RNY, is the absorption thing a problem when it comes to the contraceptive pill?

I have a 3 and 5 year old and I really don't want any lil surprises!

Implants and the jag don't work for me. The coil sorta freaks me out so I think the pill is my preferred option, if it actually is an option.

You could talk to your doctor about NuvaRing. It's inserted vaginally and shouldn't be affected by the mal-absorption issue. This is what I am using. I decided to go this route, because my surgeon specifically warned me about the chances for pregnancy with oral contraceptives after RNY due to absorption issues.

[Bryn910 519]

I am worried about this too; for now I still take the pill (6 weeks and some days post op) and we use condoms but condoms make me super dry quickly. I made an appointment to see my gyno and I believe I will be asking about the pill, patch & nuva ring.

Really don't like the idea of implants or IUD's; besides, at the 2 year mark post-op, we will be trying for kids

[MsTipps 314]

So I had a chat with the family planning team... absorption is an issue with the pill so I've gotta get a coil dreading it!!!! x

[TakingABreak 2,733]

3 minutes ago, MsTipps said:

So I had a chat with the family planning team... absorption is an issue with the pill so I've gotta get a coil dreading it!!!! x

did you ask about Nuva Ring? Maybe its not something you want to do, but its not affected by absorption. It's absorbed through the vaginal wall.... Its working great for me, at the moment anyway. I personally would never do an IUD.

[MsTipps 314]

They didn't say it was an option... might ask at my face to face appointment xx

[TakingABreak 2,733]

3 minutes ago, MsTipps said:

They didn't say it was an option... might ask at my face to face appointment xx

Sometimes you've got to bring up your options to them. Doctors are really methodical about medications they prescribe. Sometimes I think it has to do with their relationships with pharmaceutical companies and reps, but regardless, I doubt they didn't bring it up because its not an option. Nuva Ring is very common form of BC for WLS patients.

IUD's are a more permanent solution and my sister has one, and she bleeds two times a month. She is extremely irregular now, and has always had a regular period before. Plus, you have to be dilated for them to insert, which I heard hurts pretty bad, regardless if you've had children before. It should be treated as a last resort.

Edited June 28, 2018 by AshAsh1

[Melisa35 0]

Hi! So, I have a hormonal IUD (Mirena) and, hoo boy do I love it. Small pinch when they put it in, which sucks, but nothing more that what it feels like to get a shot. One of the best side effects of a hormonal IUD is that it can stop your period. I am lucky enough to have that side effect. I haven't had a period in 3 years.

Anecdotally, I think it's a great choice and I have been VERY happy with mine.

[insta_adventurer 1,046]

On 06/28/2018 at 23:39, Melisa35 said:

Hi! So, I have a hormonal IUD (Mirena) and, hoo boy do I love it. Small pinch when they put it in, which sucks, but nothing more that what it feels like to get a shot. One of the best side effects of a hormonal IUD is that it can stop your period. I am lucky enough to have that side effect. I haven't had a period in 3 years.

Anecdotally, I think it's a great choice and I have been VERY happy with mine.

I also went ahead and got an IUD. I did not want to risk getting pregnant too soon after surgery. I had the Kyleena IUD placed two months ago.

I’m not going to pretend it didn’t hurt like heck, but it was over quickly. Also- my first period since having it placed was about two and a half weeks. It was a little lighter than normal, but still required the use of a sanitary product.

My gyn said it is completely common to have irregular or longer periods for the first 3 to 6 months. So I am crossing my fingers and hoping it gets shorter/lighter as time goes on!