Feeling alone....Surgery in 4 days

[FabulousFun87 22]

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

[allwet 868]

17 minutes ago, FabulousFun87 said:

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

Fab, i did have someone with me and when i woke up from surgery i looked at them and said go home and i went right back to sleep till like 10:30 that night. i then started on the liquids with sugar free popsicles and then started walking and that went on till like 4:30 a.m. then i had a nap till my Dad brought my wife back to pick me up.

So you can see i was alone most every hour i was awake. Is it better with support, yes

is possible by yourself, yes

you can do this. The first days are the hardest but each day gets easier and it gets better real fast.

If you have never had a surgery it is hard to guess how your body will react and everyone reacts a little different.

you could be going full speed by the weekend or maybe more slowly like getting over the flu but you will get there and the results will be worth it.

good luck

[Chrisb428 626]

47 minutes ago, FabulousFun87 said:

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

If it means anything, I along with all of the others on the site, will be here for you. You can do this!!!!

[Mattymatt 491]

8 hours ago, FabulousFun87 said:

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

I was worried when I read the first line of your post. I am glad you have someone that is taking you to and from the hospital. Maybe your roommate will hang around and just visit you after surgery? Maybe ask him?

[FabulousFun87 22]

I have a hard time asking people for favors. Plus I know he is busy

[Matt Z 4,138]

8 hours ago, FabulousFun87 said:

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Firstly, congrats!
Secondly, you've got everyone on this site backing you up. I can fully empathize with the feelings of being alone in this, but you aren't. You'll have your surgical team there taking care of you! Whenever you start to feel alone or scared, just remember all the reasons you are doing this for yourself, remember that everyone here is waiting for you to post how things went and are ready with our advice, well wishes and support for when you need it. Other's have gone alone as well.

I had my wife and mother waiting, and to be honest, I don't think it would have made any difference to me if they were not there. Once I got called back, I only saw my wife for maybe 10 mins before I was wheeled into the OR, and when I was in Recovery, there wasn't much they could do besides sit there next to me, I felt bad honestly. And once visiting hours were over, things really didn't change, my surgical and recovery staff kept me occupied / attended to as needed... I can totally understand the mindset, but personally it could have gone either way and it really wouldn't have mattered in the long run.

Good Luck, Stay Strong, You Got This!

[Mattymatt 491]

Just now, FabulousFun87 said:

I have a hard time asking people for favors. Plus I know he is busy

This isn't really a favor. He is kind of a friend anyways, yes? I am surprised he hasn't offered or insisted on visiting you after surgery. Shoot, if it was me I would've insisted.

[browneyez42 280]

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

All of us will be here for you!

Sleeved on April 25, 2018
HW: 256
SW: 238
CW: 220
GW: 165

[Sanchez40 15]

I’m also here for you too, you can do this girl!! We are living our best life.

[browneyez42 280]

Well surgery is scheduled for June 7th.....4 days away.

I currently don’t have anyone going with me to the hospital while I’m having surgery, is that normal? I don’t have any family here and I also haven’t told any of my friends. Only person who knows is my roommate, because he is going to pick me up from the hospital after surgery.

Kinda feeling alone, but I think I can do it.

Any others go through this process alone?

How are you feeling?

Sleeved on April 25, 2018
HW: 256
SW: 238
CW: 220
GW: 165

[Em_Jay75 81]

2 more days, you have lots of support and well wishers! Hang in there and remember why you're doing this. You got this 💪🏼

[Chrisb428 626]

Please keep us all posted as to how it goes!