Roller Coaster Freak Show

[jenondaway 33]

3 hours ago, frust8 said:

I havent had this yet but it sounds so much like mine and late hubby's family. I can see an Aunt rear back on her haunches and announce,"but that relish tray is lower calorie, " Doesn't matter you're on a liquid diet, they would think they'd gone the extra mile. I hope you gave that murdered potato a good Christian funeral, he'd been tortured enough. That poor vegetable suffered martyrdom. This is the same branch,of his family whose favorite line is "at least shes pretty,in the face" when they applied it to me one day I wanted to ask "Do you want me to chop my head off,so you can look at me whenever you want?" I also took it to mean the rest of my body was plug ugly. Ah relatives! Jenonway, what can you do?

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LOL - you're so right. The first time I met my husband's grandmother she had been interviewing housekeepers and the aunts liked one in particular and she said no to her. When they asked her why she said that "fat people don't make good housekeepers because they can't fit in small spaces"....yep, that happened.

[jenondaway 33]

2 hours ago, cheryl_gut said:

I am sorry But the murdered potato made me laugh out loud. I have my first family dinner tonight and I think it’s going to be a similar disaster. FIL is making country ribs and steak neither of which I have ever been able to Chew because they are so tough. And I am still on soft foods still.

Good luck!! Stay strong.

[jenondaway 33]

2 hours ago, sillykitty said:

Just popping in to say I know what you're feeling. I'm 4 weeks post op today, down only 17 lbs, and gained two in the last week. I also wanted a fast start to the weight loss!

I was at a work event last week where most meals were family style. Definite a lot of comments by my associates on how I was barely eating (none of them know about the surgery). Uncomfortable having that much attention focused on my plate!

We're surgery twins! We share the same surgery day. Sorry you're also sharing some of the same frustrations though.

Having been out of work for the last four weeks, I've already been getting messages from some of my clients that when I'm back we need to go out to lunch, drinks, etc. (They also don't know.) So I'm figuring out my strategy for that.

[sillykitty 10,705]

25 minutes ago, jenondaway said:

We're surgery twins! We share the same surgery day. Sorry you're also sharing some of the same frustrations though.

Having been out of work for the last four weeks, I've already been getting messages from some of my clients that when I'm back we need to go out to lunch, drinks, etc. (They also don't know.) So I'm figuring out my strategy for that.

We are, we even have the same ticker!

So some a few tips on eating with people you whom don't know about the surgery I learned last week. Having only a tiny amount of food on your plate definitely attracts the most attention. Anything shared as well, they will notice you're not eating your share. So have a normal-ish plate of food, take small bites, and move the food around will attract the least attention.

drinks are hard. In my industry drinking is the norm, and I'm known to like to drink, having a high tolerance. So nursing a watery drink was also commented on. I also think that last week's drinking, which was very little compared to normal hurt my weight loss, despite still having low calories. So I'd suggest avoiding drinking if you can at all. If you can't avoid having a drink, definitely try to go low cal, (I was in Hawaii, Mai Tais were a mistake). I'd probably do vodka soda in the future. If the carbonation bother you, you can stir to get rid of the bubbles.

Anyone who asked why I wasn't eating I just gave some variation of my tummy is acting up, or I've had some stomach issues lately etc. It's easy for people you see occasionally. I had to go into more details with my boss, whom I ate every meal with. I gave him a vague story about GI surgery, and that it's a prolonged recovery.

[jenondaway 33]

1 hour ago, sillykitty said:

We are, we even have the same ticker!

So some a few tips on eating with people you whom don't know about the surgery I learned last week. Having only a tiny amount of food on your plate definitely attracts the most attention. Anything shared as well, they will notice you're not eating your share. So have a normal-ish plate of food, take small bites, and move the food around will attract the least attention.

drinks are hard. In my industry drinking is the norm, and I'm known to like to drink, having a high tolerance. So nursing a watery drink was also commented on. I also think that last week's drinking, which was very little compared to normal hurt my weight loss, despite still having low calories. So I'd suggest avoiding drinking if you can at all. If you can't avoid having a drink, definitely try to go low cal, (I was in Hawaii, Mai Tais were a mistake). I'd probably do vodka soda in the future. If the carbonation bother you, you can stir to get rid of the bubbles.

Anyone who asked why I wasn't eating I just gave some variation of my tummy is acting up, or I've had some stomach issues lately etc. It's easy for people you see occasionally. I had to go into more details with my boss, whom I ate every meal with. I gave him a vague story about GI surgery, and that it's a prolonged recovery.

LOL - I hadn't even noticed the ticker. Our numbers are quite similar as well.

Your ideas are solid. Thanks for the pointers. I used to be a pretty hardcore drinker, however back in 2010 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. When that happened, I cut back my drinking a LOT, so cutting it out completely wasn't that difficult. Those closest to me already knew I was quitting for other reasons so that should be easy.

My boss and two closest coworkers know about my surgery so that's not a problem. It will be clients and brokers that will notice, so I like the idea of ordering a normal size meal. Heck, if I do that I'll have leftovers that will serve as multiple meals for me over the next couple days anyway. LOL

Keep in touch!!