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I've always been extremely independent but not always by choice. Just sort of throw way the cards fell I suppose. Now I am 12 days out from sleeve surgery and have so many mixed emotions, mostly excitement to start this next big journey in my life that I've been so desperately waiting for. And yet the saddest emotion I have is complete loneliness. Anyone go through this alone? And how did it turn out for you? Did it make the process more challenging or make you even stronger and more determined?

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Do you have a local support group for folks going through WLS? Might be a good place to make a friend or two to share the experience with?

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That is rough, Luckeevee. I lean on my bestie and my family so much...I know flying solo must be a huge challenge. I admire your strength in doing this for yourself. Can't be easy without much help.

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How are you feeling? How did the surgery go for you?

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I too am alone, I'm 21 days out from surgery, and I find support and answers in groups like these. I'm focusing on my diet and exercising. I know I'm kinda new at this, but I definitely think it's making me stronger. You can do this. We are all here for you, 24/7. Good luck!

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You don’t have to be alone. Make delicious delicacies. But the best quality small meals instead of quantity meals and live your life. I’m already planning on buying expensive cuts of meat and seafood and eating the appropriate sized portions with fruits and veggies. You can have delicious meals for the rest of your life and live like you always have. This surgery only provides you with the tool you need to lose weight but it doesn’t change or fix any life problems you may have had prior. If that may be the case talk to your doctor & maybe seek counseling. Good luck & congrats on your surgery.

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Maybe you can find a buddy on here or at a meetup. There's also Instagram. My mom and niece will be supporting me but sometimes we need someone going through the same thing.

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I went through the surgery by myself. The few people I told are not particularly supportive. Does the hospital by you have a support program? Mine has been very helpful. ObesityHelp is a great site if you want good advice.


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I too am alone, I'm 21 days out from surgery, and I find support and answers in groups like these. I'm focusing on my diet and exercising. I know I'm kinda new at this, but I definitely think it's making me stronger. You can do this. We are all here for you, 24/7. Good luck!

Thanks for sharing.. I think that's how I stumbled upon this app.

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I went through the surgery by myself. The few people I told are not particularly supportive. Does the hospital by you have a support program? Mine has been very helpful. ObesityHelp is a great site if you want good advice.




Thank you for sharing I had never heard of that site. Sorry you went through this alone too.... Have you been successful?

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Hi i just wanted to say good luck and if you want to chat please feel free to send me a message... no one should have to go through this alone if there is an online community here to support you! My name is Sharon :)

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((hugs)) Talk to your surgeon and find a support group. I agree--we all need people and a support network. It's even better if they are or have gone through similar situations!! Saying prayers of peace for you dear friend!

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