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SOME OF THESE COMMENTS UNDER THESE THREADS ARE CRAZY ... EVERYONE'S EXPERIENCE WITH SURGERY IS DIFFERENT HOW CAN YOU BASH SOMEONE FOR FEELING HOW THEY FEEL??????!!!!!!! ONE THING I DO KNOW IS THAT AFTER I GET MY SURGERY AND I EXPRESS HOW IM FEELING AND YOU COME FOR ME IN A NEGATIVE WAY IM GONNA LET YOU HAVE IT AND THEN IM GONNA BLOCK YOU.....

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SOME OF THESE COMMENTS UNDER THESE THREADS ARE CRAZY ... EVERYONE'S EXPERIENCE WITH SURGERY IS DIFFERENT HOW CAN YOU BASH SOMEONE FOR FEELING HOW THEY FEEL??????!!!!!!! ONE THING I DO KNOW IS THAT AFTER I GET MY SURGERY AND I EXPRESS HOW IM FEELING AND YOU COME FOR ME IN A NEGATIVE WAY IM GONNA LET YOU HAVE IT AND THEN IM GONNA BLOCK YOU.....


I know exactly how you feel. I just want to be more positive and pray I can do better. I'm here for ya if you need someone to talk too


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I am so sorry for the negativity you've felt.

Conversely, if another poster "comes at you" in a negative manner, you've only emboldened the person by lashing back at him/her. You've just informed the poster that he/she got to your head.

Internet trolls love to spread negativity. They love peoples' meltdown reactions even more. Don't give them the satisfaction of letting them see you sweat. Just ignore...

Also, some people interpret bluntness as negativity. A blunt, no-nonsense post is not always synonymous with negativity. Some people only want warm, fuzzy responses that reinforce their bad choices (e.g., "You ate a whole pizza? Don't you worry 'bout a thing. Everything's gonna be alright!").

Good luck to you, and again, don't let people see you sweat. :)

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I would argue that in some instances, negativity is a good thing and that it can be crucial to have a balance. If all you want is people blowing sunshine up your butt, that can have negative consequences. Sometimes, we need to face hard truths which are the key to achieving success with our programmes. We have to face these hard truths to change the habits that caused us to need this surgery in the first place.

You want REAL positivity? Use the feedback, both positive and "negative" to take your surgery further and achieve your goals!

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I know exactly how you feel. I just want to be more positive and pray I can do better. I'm here for ya if you need someone to talk too


Tiffani

It was your thread that actually made me post this some of the comments were outta line .. I'm not about that life I'll cuss somebody ass out coming for me the way they were coming for you..... it's so sad because you already feel away for even telling people who actually know you saying negative **** to you but when somebody you probably will never meet think they can say whatever and it be ok is crazy to me.....

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I am so sorry for the negativity you've felt.
Conversely, if another poster "comes at you" in a negative manner, you've only emboldened the person by lashing back at him/her. You've just informed the poster that he/she got to your head.
Internet trolls love to spread negativity. They love peoples' meltdown reactions even more. Don't give them the satisfaction of letting them see you sweat. Just ignore...
Also, some people interpret bluntness as negativity. A blunt, no-nonsense post is not always synonymous with negativity. Some people only want warm, fuzzy responses that reinforce their bad choices (e.g., "You ate a whole pizza? Don't you worry 'bout a thing. Everything's gonna be alright!").
Good luck to you, and again, don't let people see you sweat. [emoji4]


I hear what you saying...

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Just block people. My block list is a mile long. I don't care. These people are just fonts on screen, you don't have to deal with them unless you want to. There are too many people who are genuinely trying to connect and seek support to bother with the crazies on here.

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It was your thread that actually made me post this some of the comments were outta line .. I'm not about that life I'll cuss somebody ass out coming for me the way they were coming for you..... it's so sad because you already feel away for even telling people who actually know you saying negative **** to you but when somebody you probably will never meet think they can say whatever and it be ok is crazy to me.....

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Well I truly appreciate this thread. I agree I did kind of go off on people but at the time I was in sooo much pain I just wanted someone to say it's ok. I always tried be genuine and raw. My aunt and best friend is getting this surgery and I want to be the best example I can be. So again thank you so much and I have nothing but love and support for you.


Tiffani

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Well I truly appreciate this thread. I agree I did kind of go off on people but at the time I was in sooo much pain I just wanted someone to say it's ok. I always tried be genuine and raw. My aunt and best friend is getting this surgery and I want to be the best example I can be. So again thank you so much and I have nothing but love and support for you.


Tiffani

And I'm just like you. I never met you in my life so to think someone is gonna cyber bully me into thinking that I'm dumb for the way I'm feeling they are absolutely out of their mind. People don't understand there is no difference between me on the internet and off. People get all scared when the other person speaks back and defend themselves. Sorry that was a little rant but I understand


Tiffani

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