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chynadoll619    247

chynadoll619
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Basically what the title says.. Now I'm having surgery on Wed with no one there I live out of state away from family.. And the person who was supposed to be there for me threw this is in jail, I'm stressed out hurt mentally and physically and now nervous.. I need some tips on how to manage post op all by yourself self.. Thank you

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LisaKay    77

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sorry for all your troubles. You CAN do This! I went to Mexico and had mine done. No one could go with me so i did it alone. Even flying 2 days after surgery alone. The laparoscopic surgery really is quick healing. I was able to do everything slowly but i could. I did not have kids only myself to attend to. Have everything you need for eating after surgery pre made and ready before surgery. I was walking a mile by day 5 and off all pain med. You can do this. Have your cell phone and talk to people for encouragement! I wish you the best.

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RobbieBG    14

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I am sorry you are having such a hard time. First off, I would inform your surgeon of your situation. I am sure he/she would want to know your what you are facing in your life at this time, before your surgery is performed. This is major surgery and we all want to have a smooth and safe recovery. Wishing you the best. Stay strong,

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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I'm single. I had surgery and live alone. It isn't hard. Just have premise Protein Shakes.

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Berry78    4,259

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The surgery will be the easy part. Make sure you will be safe/have a plan for if the person gets out of jail.

I also went to Mexico by myself, and had no troubles. When I got home, I wasn't alone, but instead of them taking care of me, it created MORE work for me taking care of them. You'll be just fine!

Do make sure you have a ride home from the hospital, and enough food on hand that you don't need to shop for a few days. Get your approved foods (drinks, really) list now, so you can prepare.

Good luck!

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Rivka7NV    40

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You are stronger without him than with him. I am doing this alone. You can do this alone. Don't bring him back for your recovery thinking you will be able to get rid of him later or that he has changed. I guarantee you that your stomach will become a target the first time he gets angry or resentful.

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Honda64    1

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You are stronger without him than with him. I am doing this alone. You can do this alone. Don't bring him back for your recovery thinking you will be able to get rid of him later or that he has changed. I guarantee you that your stomach will become a target the first time he gets angry or resentful.





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pfisher    72

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I can't say anything that hasn't already been stated here. You are strong and you can absolutely do this! Wishing you all the best. Please speak with your surgeon or nurse about the situation. And please be safe! Keep us posted.

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Navigating the Wilderness    824

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Wishing you the best of luck and a quick recovery. Don't forget to use us as your 'bariatric family' during this time.

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AllenKnight    0

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On 6/10/2017 at 9:32 AM, LisaKay said:

sorry for all your troubles. You CAN do This! I went to Mexico and had mine done. No one could go with me so i did it alone. Even flying 2 days after surgery alone. The laparoscopic surgery really is quick healing. I was able to do everything slowly but i could. I did not have kids only myself to attend to. Have everything you need for eating after surgery pre made and ready before surgery. Some more free papers about domestic violence rehabilitation helped me. Have your cell phone and talk to people for encouragement! I wish you the best.

You're a strong person, thanks for encouragement and I hope now everything is ok on your life path.

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