Hi everyone, I was sleeved going on a year ago and am at my desired goal weight 135. Ive lost 75 pounds and am very happy about it. Im a size 8 and am the size I was in high school. Most family and friends give me compliments but some people are starting to tell me now that my face is looking too thin and then they go one to talk about how when they lost weight their faces started to look sickly and sunken in. They have all gained weigh since then.

I don't really feel that this is the case for me-sunken face-,and quite frankly i can be very critical of myself on my own. It actually hurts my feelings because there is nothing I can do about it. Its not like im going to gain weight just to make them happy! Im so grateful that i had the opportunity for this surgery and that it was a success. Normally when people tell me about my face looking small, I say "if that's the only repercussion to this surgery- Ill take it.!" Theres a part of me tho that wants to get angry and lash out and critize them and their looks, but I do not. Im grown and know better, and respect others.

I honestly don't like people who think its ok to criticize others on things they cannot change. those are not my kind of people. However , some of these people Im very close with and are family.

Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do?

Here are my before and after pics.

You're very pretty - I don't think your face looks sunken at all! You look healthy and happy!!

You look amazing. You're face is perfect for your new body!

Good god! You are what I strive to be

Wow! You look great[emoji53]!

At 300+ I still dream of looking like your before picture so to,look like your after picture I'd bend down and kiss the very ground I was standing on. No you don't look gaunt or scrawny, you look in pefect proportion and what's more happy and healthy. Thank you for sharing them with all,of us.

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You look stunningly beautiful!

Wow! You look great[emoji53]!

Sorry - I didn’t mean to use a sad face emoji! Typing too fast I guess. You really do look awesome!!!!

It will take some time for people
To accept and get used to the new you. I do believe another persons weight loss can be threatening to some people, especially if they are struggling with their own body image.

The important thing is how you feel about yourself. Try to look at their comments with empathy, as for the ones struggling, you’ve been in their shoes.

After weightloss the face does fall a bit. Over time it will tighten back up as you get healthier and the weight redistributes. After wls a lot of people go through a period of looking a little off due to just the drastic period of underrating their body has gone through. Over time you will start to normalize if this is the case. From your Photo you look amazing to me!

Remember people are just fragile and sometimes they say mean things, but they still love you. It’s okay to tell them you don’t like it, and then let it go.

You look great!

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You look amazing!!! Ignore the negative comments from others and only keep the positive people around you.

LOL. Tell em to suck it! You look gorgeous!!