Hi everyone, I was sleeved going on a year ago and am at my desired goal weight 135. Ive lost 75 pounds and am very happy about it. Im a size 8 and am the size I was in high school. Most family and friends give me compliments but some people are starting to tell me now that my face is looking too thin and then they go one to talk about how when they lost weight their faces started to look sickly and sunken in. They have all gained weigh since then.

I don't really feel that this is the case for me-sunken face-,and quite frankly i can be very critical of myself on my own. It actually hurts my feelings because there is nothing I can do about it. Its not like im going to gain weight just to make them happy! Im so grateful that i had the opportunity for this surgery and that it was a success. Normally when people tell me about my face looking small, I say "if that's the only repercussion to this surgery- Ill take it.!" Theres a part of me tho that wants to get angry and lash out and critize them and their looks, but I do not. Im grown and know better, and respect others.

I honestly don't like people who think its ok to criticize others on things they cannot change. those are not my kind of people. However , some of these people Im very close with and are family.

Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do?

Here are my before and after pics.

My doctor said that often we'll look sunken immediately after weight loss -- it's part of the process -- and that it'll slowly fade just a bit to settle into something that looks healthier. For now, ignore the haters (and to me, you look more than fine!!)

You look great! I can only pray I look half this good when my journey is complete!

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I agree with deactivatedfatgal... you look great! Don't let others bring you down. Especially since some of it could be from there own insecurities an them being intimidated by your weight loss an beauty that leads them to try and pick at you to feel better.

honestly! you were pretty adorable in the first picture. The second is better because you look happier, like more engaged with the picture and whoever is taking it.

As for your family, sounds like mindless lashing out because you're succeeding where they failed. They don't mean to be discouraging -- at least not most of them consciously. Ignore it and breeze on.

I work for the DoD and we have small stores in our buildings that are run by the Council for the Blind. Now, only one of the stores is run by someone blind. All the others are run by individuals that are almost blind. Well, I was told by one of the guys that I look sickly, sunken face and that I need to gain weight. This was about a month after WLS. I was like WOW!

Don't listen to them. You are gorgeous! I'd say they are jealous!

First thing first....you look GORGEOUS! As long as you're happy, that's the only thing that matters. We don't live our lives to make other people happy. Stay fab, dahling!

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Girl you look great!!!

Great kid keep up the work

It's a mind game. This is normal for people who are used to seeing you at a larger size to think your face looks too thin. Someone who just met you will not see you that way.

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It's a mind game. This is normal for people who are used to seeing you at a larger size to think your face looks too thin. Someone who just met you will not see you that way.

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This is true. I have a friend who had the bypass and i felt she looked ill compared to what i was used to seeing. But after awhile I adjusted to the new and so much more happier her. Like stated above... people who don't know you won't see it that way. You look fabulous.

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Wow you are such a lovely lady. Your face looks perfectly in proportion to your body. Maybe a non confrontational way to address the rude comments is "I feel good about my choices & my journey, and I need positivity & support from those around me"

You look stunning! Sorry 'bout the naysayers (especially since they're close to you). You seriously look great though. Give them time and they'll come around.

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What??!! You look amazing!!! Anyone who is telling you that you don't must be jealous or have issues.
Congrats on your amazing success....you are an inspiration!

You look so fit and healthy. I have seen thin sunken faces and yes, it can be a part of the process or even the end result. A side affect of betterment on occasion. You are not in this group though. No way.