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How's your life changed since surgery? How many of you have gone from a 5 to a 10? Haha. How has your confidence changed? Your dating life? The looks? Opportunities?

I want to hear all the changes. It gets me excited and makes me feel amazing hearing all the success stories. I can't believe I'm living in my own success story.

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I'm not a 10, but I definitely shot up several digits. I now have guys chatting me up all the time. I had a guy follow me through a grocery store and another ask me out while pumping gas.

I'm 44 and spent most of my life fat, so this is pretty new. If I were on the market, I'd have no trouble meeting men now.

I have been looking for a new job. I am a degreed professional, but looks still count for so much. I am in the interview stage with a major sportswear company. Over the phone, they made it clear they wanted to hire someone who "lived their lifestyle." Translation: they hire people who look fit, who physically represent their brand. I would not have made it past the first in-person interview 90 pounds ago. That's a fact.

I feel great. Now, I'm not the biggest person in any room. I'm fact, I'm one of the smallest, which, ironically, makes me feel more visible. People don't avoid looking at me anymore.

This surgery was one of the best things that had ever happened to me.

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I definitely get good comments. I'm by no means where I want to be but I've always been confident so nothing has changed there.

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I'm not a 10, but I definitely shot up several digits. I now have guys chatting me up all the time. I had a guy follow me through a grocery store and another ask me out while pumping gas.

I'm 44 and spent most of my life fat, so this is pretty new. If I were on the market, I'd have no trouble meeting men now.

I have been looking for a new job. I am a degreed professional, but looks still count for so much. I am in the interview stage with a major sportswear company. Over the phone, they made it clear they wanted to hire someone who "lived their lifestyle." Translation: they hire people who look fit, who physically represent their brand. I would not have made it past the first in-person interview 90 pounds ago. That's a fact.

I feel great. Now, I'm not the biggest person in any room. I'm fact, I'm one of the smallest, which, ironically, makes me feel more visible. People don't avoid looking at me anymore.

This surgery was one of the best things that had ever happened to me.

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Based on your previous posts and the above post I'm going to say that you want to work with a company located in Beaverton.

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I'm not a 10, but I definitely shot up several digits. I now have guys chatting me up all the time. I had a guy follow me through a grocery store and another ask me out while pumping gas.

I'm 44 and spent most of my life fat, so this is pretty new. If I were on the market, I'd have no trouble meeting men now.

I have been looking for a new job. I am a degreed professional, but looks still count for so much. I am in the interview stage with a major sportswear company. Over the phone, they made it clear they wanted to hire someone who "lived their lifestyle." Translation: they hire people who look fit, who physically represent their brand. I would not have made it past the first in-person interview 90 pounds ago. That's a fact.

I feel great. Now, I'm not the biggest person in any room. I'm fact, I'm one of the smallest, which, ironically, makes me feel more visible. People don't avoid looking at me anymore.

This surgery was one of the best things that had ever happened to me.

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Based on your previous posts and the above post I'm going to say that you want to work with a company located in Beaverton.
Lol. Indeed. I have an interview in Beaverton set for next week. It would be fantastic to get it.

Tomorrow I'm interviewing in Hillsboro...at one of the Farms. But they don't care so much about appearance. Too many engineers.

Wish me luck!

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As someone with absolutely zero self-confidence that got used being labelled as the "fat funny guy", it feels kinda weird being 'skinny'. Some of my friends and relatives tell me my humor feels way more sinister with this much weight gone, that I look "colder", pretentious and more distant as well, but at least they say "But damn, now you sure are good-looking!"

The thing that changed the most outside of that is that nowadays people will actually sit next to me in a train or a bus, people talk to me more, and I spotted people checking me out and/or smiling at me, or even some girls flirting with me.

Of course to all of that my only answers are either misplaced nihilism, shyness and/or a faked lack of interest.

I think, my main problem, is that years of obesity have made me paranoid and self-esteemless (not sure if it's a good term). I don't trust people that well except for a few good friends. If someone comes to me and tells me a compliment or show real interest, my first reaction is to think 'uhoh, they're probably fucking with me right now, must be a bet", even though I perfectly know I fit the "social" physical norms.

So yeah, my global feeling regarding this is between "Wow, cool"/"I have never gotten this far, what should I do" and "Why is it all so complicated for me to be a normal human being".

Other thing that changed is my wardrobe, I sold/gave almost all my old clothes in which I was floating like a ghost, and bought nice clothes. Wearing a "Medium" size rather than a XXXL sure gives me more opportunity to buy new outfits.

That's about all I can say for now I guess :)

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I have gotten a lot of comments online - I've been in such a good mood that my friends think that I've been replaced by a pod person.

At the NYE party I got a lot of attention (which I hate), but thankfully no one was interrogative as to the reason for the weight-loss.

No comments at work yet, but I expected that, since we're a professional office.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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I'm not a 10, but I definitely shot up several digits. I now have guys chatting me up all the time. I had a guy follow me through a grocery store and another ask me out while pumping gas.

I'm 44 and spent most of my life fat, so this is pretty new. If I were on the market, I'd have no trouble meeting men now.

I have been looking for a new job. I am a degreed professional, but looks still count for so much. I am in the interview stage with a major sportswear company. Over the phone, they made it clear they wanted to hire someone who "lived their lifestyle." Translation: they hire people who look fit, who physically represent their brand. I would not have made it past the first in-person interview 90 pounds ago. That's a fact.

I feel great. Now, I'm not the biggest person in any room. I'm fact, I'm one of the smallest, which, ironically, makes me feel more visible. People don't avoid looking at me anymore.

This surgery was one of the best things that had ever happened to me.

Sent from my SM-G925V using the BariatricPal App

Based on your previous posts and the above post I'm going to say that you want to work with a company located in Beaverton.
Lol. Indeed. I have an interview in Beaverton set for next week. It would be fantastic to get it.

Tomorrow I'm interviewing in Hillsboro...at one of the Farms. But they don't care so much about appearance. Too many engineers.

Wish me luck!

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@@Vinasu & @, I went on a tour of the Roloff Farm in Hillsboro a year ago in October, such a beautiful area!!! We drove around on the backroads looking at other farms too, reminded me of something out of a movie.

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I considered buying a Semi out in Yamhill a couple of years ago and I got to explore that whole area. I agree that it is a beautiful area. @@Montana Gal

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My boyfriend make comments all the time (not that he didn't before) but it makes me feel nice when he says things like "you're getting so much smaller" when he hugs me. We had a great physical relationship before, but he seems to pay even more attention to me now! Haha

I get comments from the girls at work, and people at church. It's super nice when people notice!

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@@Vinasu & @, I went on a tour of the Roloff Farm in Hillsboro a year ago in October, such a beautiful area!!! We drove around on the backroads looking at other farms too, reminded me of something out of a movie.

I was joking a bit. Intel is the top employer in Hillsboro.

Their campuses are Jones Farm, Hawthorne Farm, and Ronler Acres :-)

I just got back from Hawthorne.....It's not so beautiful (across the street from Costco), but a new job would make up for it!

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