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I have a date

Sophie74656

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Sophie74656    1,572

Sophie74656
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Oh my god you guys I have a date. I've been texting with this guy all weekend and we really hit it off and have a lot on common. We agreed to meet on Tuesday. I'm so nervous. I'm going to go vomit.

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Valentina    2,642

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Vomit? First date? not good when done at the same time. :)

Relax.

Be smart.

Be happy.

Be yourself.

Baby steps, my friend. Baby steps...

Enjoy! :)

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Valentina    2,642

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I haven't been on a date in 12 years. I have no idea what to do

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Sure you do.

Take a deep breath, hold your head up high------ and ---------be yourself.

What will happen will happen if it is meant to happen.

You got this! Enjoy yourself.

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Zenlife    10

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Cool! Just breath ???? is normal to be nervous, where is the Date? This usually dictates whether there gunna be alot of full on face to face intimacy/talking.

Maybe not go to a buffet/all you can eat restaurant;-) he he don't mind me I'm only 2 weeks post op and hungry:-)

In my past dating I always take pressure off myself by thinking if it right one, it will flow, if not, it's okay, all experience.

Can be scary to step out of comfort zones, but it is when we can gain most:-)

Hope you have a nice time.

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gowalking    10,790

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The most important thing to remember is that you are not in control. Meaning even if it's a great date, you may not hear from him again. And if that's the case, you can't obsess over it. Just try to remember that you enjoyed yourself and on to the next one. ;)

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Sophie74656    1,572

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It's after work on Tuesday. We agreed on coffee or something casual. I haven't mentioned my sleeve to him yet

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Zenlife    10

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It's after work on Tuesday. We agreed on coffee or something casual. I haven't mentioned my sleeve to him yet

Oh I think that's a good one, coffee, nice and casual...

How do you feel about talking about the sleeve? I think it's a very personal thing. I probably wouldn't until down track. But that's just me.

Whatever you feel comfortable with.

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Sophie74656    1,572

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It's after work on Tuesday. We agreed on coffee or something casual. I haven't mentioned my sleeve to him yet

Oh I think that's a good one, coffee, nice and casual...

How do you feel about talking about the sleeve? I think it's a very personal thing. I probably wouldn't until down track. But that's just me.

Whatever you feel comfortable with.

I don't think it's first date information but if i feel like there could be potential for a long term thing i would mention it after a few dates

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The most important thing to remember is that you are not in control. Meaning even if it's a great date, you may not hear from him again. And if that's the case, you can't obsess over it. Just try to remember that you enjoyed yourself and on to the next one. ;)

I've thought about that. Even if I never hear from him after tomorrow, chatting with him has been fun and a nice little ego boost.

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The most important thing to remember is that you are not in control. Meaning even if it's a great date, you may not hear from him again. And if that's the case, you can't obsess over it. Just try to remember that you enjoyed yourself and on to the next one. ;)

I've thought about that. Even if I never hear from him after tomorrow, chatting with him has been fun and a nice little ego boost.

Yess - and now you get to ride that ego boost onto more dates with more guys! Run with it.

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Dr-Patient    830

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First date with someone? No need to mention your sleeve; it's none of his business. Whatever you order to eat, just talk and eat slowly. He won't notice.

Be careful. Don't give up the 'goodies' too soon. Have fun. Congrats on the new date. Hope it is successful and turns into more, should you desire.

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dede_mont    105

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I haven't been on a date in 12 years. I have no idea what to do

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Congratulations.. Have fun and stay relaxed.

Remember be yourself and don't let pressure to do things get to you. You have no one to impress but yourself.

HAVE FUN AND BREATHE!!!

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Sophie74656    1,572

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First date with someone? No need to mention your sleeve; it's none of his business. Whatever you order to eat, just talk and eat slowly. He won't notice.

Be careful. Don't give up the 'goodies' too soon. Have fun. Congrats on the new date. Hope it is successful and turns into more, should you desire.

Oh even if things go very well. It will be a long tme before anyone gets the goodies. I'm quself conscious about the skin thing

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