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I have not regretted my surgery for even a second! Prior to surgery I was very afraid that I might regret it.....but I was terrified of what all the extra weight was doing to me!!! I feel like I had my surgery "just in time.".....I truly believe I was just before something very serious going wrong with my health.

I feel like a completely new person!!! I'm doing things I haven't done in years and loving every minute of it. I'm walking almost 10 miles a day!!! and have actually started to add in a little jogging which I've never done in my life. I'll be 57 years old in December and I can't remember feeling this healthy in many many years....and I'm not even to my goal weight yet. I'm only a little over 3 months post op......if I feel any better when I reach my goal weight I don't know what I'm going to do with myself...haha I think zip lining is going to be in my future!! :D

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

I had second thoughts right up until laying in the cold operating room. I was thinking about jumping up and running.... But next thing I knew I was waking up in recovery.

I am so glad I didn't run, my quality of life has improved dramatically. Don't be a chicken!

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I had my surgery on 3/25. It was rough the first few weeks, head hunger is the worst and I didn't realize how much of a psychological journey this is. Anyway, 5 months gone and 65 lbs down, I don't regret a thing! Hang in there, you are correct to have doubts but rest assured, you are giving yourself the gift of life!

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It was rough the first few weeks, head hunger is the worst and I didn't realize how much of a psychological journey this is.

This is so, so true. I had very intense head hunger cravings the 1st two weeks. I'm now 3 weeks post-op and the head hunger has dissipated to some degree. It's not completely gone by any means, but it feels more manageable now.

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You put into words exactly how I feel and I'll add feeling alone and lonely. My surgery is 9/13. I don't have a time yet. Good luck and good health to you

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

I think your excitement says it all. 70 years old, loving my three year old sleeve, and wish we could have done it 20 years ago, especially my husband. Life changing happiness and would do it every year if need be!

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All of these comments have helped me so much. I have surgery in 4 days and the doubts started to creep in last night. I am currently sitting at the hospital waiting for preop and the butterflies are everywhere in my stomach.... Ugghh! I check in at noon on tuesday. Why do they do that to us?? I wish i was in first thing in morning.

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Good Luck tomorrow!!

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I never doubted myself and my decision, but I did go kinda all morbid, in that I made some last minute arrangements and instructions in case I didn't make it out of the OR.

I'm sure I looked like an idiot in that gurney being wheeled to the OR because I was grinning ear to ear with excitement. If I DID make it out, I knew that I would have a new lease on life. It was like being reborn. A "do over".

That was 10 days ago. Now I'm

Home, recovering, have had NO nausea, no sickness, very little pain after the first two days and things are fantastic! They will be for you, too.

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I'm about six months out and my only regret is not doing this years ago.

I feel great, I look great, it's amazing.

I had one small panic attack about a week before surgery. Ordering take out had become such a regular habit that I suddenly freaked that I wouldn't be able to order pizza/Chinese food or have other fast food stuff for a long time possibly forever. It then occurred to me that maybe the fact that I was panicking about food was an indication that I hade some problems with my relationship with food and that made me more sure that the surgery was the correct course.

Shrinking Kritta, on 26 Aug 2016 - 14:13, said:

Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

Yup....had a some times where I'd question myself.

Then the pain from my back would remind me that I needed to get serious amounts of weight off my frame very quickly as prescribed that the spine surgeon who would be having to sharpen his scalpel if I didn't do so.

I've had great success with losing weight in the past....just never kept it off. This time around I had to get it done. I simply had to.

Now....not quite a year later......I'm extremely grateful and glad that I did this.

There's been a near immediate relief felt with the weight coming off. Back injury healed.....feeling much better.....now off all blood pressure medications.....feeling much, much better.

I have great confidence that this sleeve is a tool that will be around for the rest of my days and helping walk the walk.

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You put into words exactly how I feel and I'll add feeling alone and lonely. My surgery is 9/13. I don't have a time yet. Good luck and good health to you

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Im 9/13 too! I am so excited and nervous! Best of luck. :)

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I honestly think my husband would be bedridden or worse if we had not had the sleeve. Forty years of diabetes was killing him. Calling rescue when he was unconscious was killing me. Three years, such joy, better health, laughing in our doctor's office yesterday was great. I was dead inside at 230 lbs, swollen ankles, couldn't breathe from the asthma, so I couldn't walk. At age 70 now, 3 years later, I only wish we had the sleeve 20 years ago, or more. Don't wait until your health is declining to change your life.

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

Hi! I'm 6 weeks post op now, but i had the same thoughts for the last 2 weeks before surgery. I was terrified, and unsure if im doing the right thing.

However, it was just cold feet. I went through with it, and although it's hard work, im very glad i did. 32 lbs down and developing good habits..

Good luck to you!

make it a great day

We're about the same time post op, I had my sleeve July 25th, less than a week before my 46th birthday. I do not regret it at all. I go tomorrow to Dr for my first "official" weigh in. Feeling nervous. If my scale is right I'm down 30lbs since a week after surgery and down 39lbs since the start of my journey.

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I have had a few surgeries, most in regards to my back. I have had to have them to deal with pain. I think a part of me feels more anxious about this surgery because I can choose to not have it. I feel I have a choice about this but when I read other ppl's message on here, it reminds me that I have a choice of letting one of many problems I have due to being obese just continue to kill me slowly. I chose life through the sleeve surgery!

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