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Dinks97420    52

Dinks97420
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I got the call today that everything has been approved and surgery is tentatively schedule for 9/1. I'm so excited!!! I wanted my surgery this week so I could have an extra day off before going back to work with the long holiday weekend.

When I tell my husband, who has been very supportive, he is upset that it is on his long holiday weekend. And wants me to schedule it out another 3 weeks!!! Ugghh! I have been waiting so long now I don't want to put it off any more...

Feeling kind of let down....not sure what I'm going to do.

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Dinks97420    52

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No he wants to be there but was planning on being out of town... It will probably come to him getting over it. Just frustrating. Kind of popped my happy bubble

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Pazza    199

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That would pop a happy bubble! Good luck getting back in the groove.

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cbonet    336

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Remind the good news is all of the future long weekends you'll have together sharing fun, love and wellness. Best wishes to you both.

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ella37    455

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Seems like he might want it on a long weekend so he can be around to help out?

Is there anyone else you can enlist to be your helper for a few days?

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Jen-2+1    131

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I would want the closest date available also. I am going to be scheduled for September and have to work around a wedding.

Could you just delay until after the long weekend without waiting three weeks? Is his trip something that he can put off until you are feeling better or is it a once a year kind of thing? If it is something like that I would probably delay since it will be easier for you to delay a few days/weeks than for him to change.

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

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KristenLe    5,979

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I would be disappointed if I were him as well. Do you have children that you will need his help with? If not - maybe he can still go away. You'll probably be in the hospital until Saturday. I would almost rather my SO not be around those first few days. He tends to hover when I don't feel good and I'd rather be by myself. Your husband may have been caught off guard and will come around to being ok with plans changing.

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Dinks97420    52

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No we don't have small children. Our only son is 27 so that helps. Im still going through the pros and cons of the two times so i haven't made a decision on which i will take. I have worked myself up to counting on the surgery being the week before labor day and the more and more i look at my work schedule maybe waiting until the 22nd would be better. I manage a national estuary and the two weeks after the 1st i have two key employees out on vacation and i will need to cover. It doesn't give much wiggle room if i have issues or not ready to be back yet. .....

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KristenLe    5,979

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@@Dinks97420 It sounds as though the 22nd would be better for everyone. You will be exhausted from surgery and still be concentrating on getting enough fluids/protein. Even if there are no complications - I don't think you'll be ready to go back 5 days later.

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highfunctioningfatman    2,675

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I understand the desire for that week, that is why I scheduled mine then. I definitely understand the excitement as well. That being said, if I hadn't paid for flights it wouldn't bother me if something came up for my wife and I needed to change plans. In your case it sounds like you will be better off with work and your husband to wait. What estuary do you manage?

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