I got the call today that everything has been approved and surgery is tentatively schedule for 9/1. I'm so excited!!! I wanted my surgery this week so I could have an extra day off before going back to work with the long holiday weekend.

When I tell my husband, who has been very supportive, he is upset that it is on his long holiday weekend. And wants me to schedule it out another 3 weeks!!! Ugghh! I have been waiting so long now I don't want to put it off any more...

Feeling kind of let down....not sure what I'm going to do.

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So why does it bother him bc he doesn't want to be there to help? Tell him to get over it....

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No he wants to be there but was planning on being out of town... It will probably come to him getting over it. Just frustrating. Kind of popped my happy bubble

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That would pop a happy bubble! Good luck getting back in the groove.

Remind the good news is all of the future long weekends you'll have together sharing fun, love and wellness. Best wishes to you both.

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Seems like he might want it on a long weekend so he can be around to help out?

Is there anyone else you can enlist to be your helper for a few days?

I would want the closest date available also. I am going to be scheduled for September and have to work around a wedding.

Could you just delay until after the long weekend without waiting three weeks? Is his trip something that he can put off until you are feeling better or is it a once a year kind of thing? If it is something like that I would probably delay since it will be easier for you to delay a few days/weeks than for him to change.

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

I would be disappointed if I were him as well. Do you have children that you will need his help with? If not - maybe he can still go away. You'll probably be in the hospital until Saturday. I would almost rather my SO not be around those first few days. He tends to hover when I don't feel good and I'd rather be by myself. Your husband may have been caught off guard and will come around to being ok with plans changing.

No we don't have small children. Our only son is 27 so that helps. Im still going through the pros and cons of the two times so i haven't made a decision on which i will take. I have worked myself up to counting on the surgery being the week before labor day and the more and more i look at my work schedule maybe waiting until the 22nd would be better. I manage a national estuary and the two weeks after the 1st i have two key employees out on vacation and i will need to cover. It doesn't give much wiggle room if i have issues or not ready to be back yet. .....

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@@Dinks97420 It sounds as though the 22nd would be better for everyone. You will be exhausted from surgery and still be concentrating on getting enough fluids/protein. Even if there are no complications - I don't think you'll be ready to go back 5 days later.

I understand the desire for that week, that is why I scheduled mine then. I definitely understand the excitement as well. That being said, if I hadn't paid for flights it wouldn't bother me if something came up for my wife and I needed to change plans. In your case it sounds like you will be better off with work and your husband to wait. What estuary do you manage?