I want to be left alone

[venomousflowers 56]

I'm stressed out and angry at the fact my mom invited my little cousins to come and stay a whole two weeks. I am already anxious and depressed and, when my family is around, my mom is extra annoying and micromanaging.

My meds aren't working right and I can't sleep. This man in my apartment complex is being very sexual towards me and my mom won't listen to me.

I am ready to explode.

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[Valentina 2,642]

Forgive me for asking, but how old are you?

I'm not trying to be rude, but my response would be different depending on your age.

I'm listening. Really.

[venomousflowers 56]

Forgive me for asking, but how old are you?

I'm not trying to be rude, but my response would be different depending on your age.

I'm listening. Really.

I'm 22, my mom lives with me.

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[Gracious_woman 3]

If mom lives with you, respect her but make firm rules for her to live by and be willing to let her move if she does not like it. Your home YOUR rules!

[Valentina 2,642]

I'm stressed out and angry at the fact my mom invited my little cousins to come and stay a whole two weeks. I am already anxious and depressed and, when my family is around, my mom is extra annoying and micromanaging.

My meds aren't working right and I can't sleep. This man in my apartment complex is being very sexual towards me and my mom won't listen to me.

I am ready to explode.

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I'm sorry that you are feeling anxious and depressed. Neither of those two conditions are pleasant to live with.

First---the man in your apartment complex: Don't allow his behavior! Report him. Call the police, your case worker and your complex manager. Call your area crisis center--call 911. What do you mean, "my mom won't listen to me"? Is your apartment lease in your name or your mothers? I'm not understanding why your mom not listening to you is keeping you from reporting your neighboring creep. Guarantee, if this bastard is acting inappropriately with you, he is doing the same to other women--other girls much younger than you. Did you know that the average sex offender commits his offenses an average of 100 times BEFORE he is convicted??

If your meds are not working, make an app'tment with your doctors and have your meds adjusted. Sometimes it will take several attempts to get "the mix" corrected before the right combination is found---ESPECIALLY after bypass. Your malabsorption could be the culprit. Don't settle for not feel "right". Keep after your medicine regime until you feel "well".

If you really do not want your cousins to visit, did you have that conversation with your mother? I'm not fully understanding the dynamics of the household. Is your mother not allowed to invite family for a visit? How much time would you have to spend with you cousins when you leave to go to work?

I guess not knowing anything more, it's difficult to know how to support you. I'm sorry for that. I do not like to hear of a family under such stress and apparent turmoil.

Try to remember this: "A son is a son until he takes a wife. A daughter is a daughter for rest of her life". Any mother will tell you the truth contained in that quote.

I wish you well. I hope you will address the issues you mentioned. At 22yrs you owe it to YOURSELF to take care of YOURSELF. You made a huge decision to have a bypass almost a year ago and I applaud you for taking responsibility for your obesity and addressing it. I am now suggesting that you do the same with your other life issues--which are way too heavy for someone of your tender years, but they are what they are.

Take a deep breath and move forward----always forward.

You're in my thoughts.

Please, keep posting.

I really do care and I am always ready to listen.