So I had weight loss surgery on September 2nd of last year and have lost, like, 53 pounds and I should have lost 80 by now and I have been more anxious and depressed since my surgery.

So I'm having a depression slump and I am looking at old pictures of me and crying because I really miss being able to eat to cope with my depression. Right now, even though I know its not true, I feel like I am utterly alone.

I know I have family and friends in other states but I feel alone, I feel like no one loves me or cares about me, I feel like I can't get better mentally and its an awful feeling because I am not sure how to cope anymore, I don't know what to do to cope.

I cannot over eat so I don't try to and writing and reading and crocheting doesn't help, makeup isn't even helping despite me doing a bunch of it. This is one thing most gastric bypass surgery patients go through, they're somewhat depressed because they can't eat like they used to and food is no longer fun.

Its not fun to go out and eat, its not fun to go to family gatherings and eat, its not fun to go on trips and eat. Eating in general is no longer enjoyable for me. I mean, yeah, food like my kale and fruit smoothie is enjoyable but things like cake, chicken, beef, hot dogs, Chinese food, etc (which I don't even eat anymore) isn't fun...

this surgery took away the joy in eating and I am happy I had the surgery but at the same time I miss being able to look forward to going out to eat, not looking forward to waiting 30 minutes before drinking or playing guess which foods your stomach can't tolerate today.

I'm sorry for this but my depression has gotten worse since the surgery so its a win lose for me but at least I'm getting healthy, I guess. I just feel like I cannot cope at points and I want to revert back to self harm, which I haven't done since 2013.

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So I had weight loss surgery on September 2nd of last year and have lost, like, 53 pounds and I should have lost 80 by now and I have been more anxious and depressed since my surgery.

So I'm having a depression slump and I am looking at old pictures of me and crying because I really miss being able to eat to cope with my depression. Right now, even though I know its not true, I feel like I am utterly alone.

I know I have family and friends in other states but I feel alone, I feel like no one loves me or cares about me, I feel like I can't get better mentally and its an awful feeling because I am not sure how to cope anymore, I don't know what to do to cope.

I cannot over eat so I don't try to and writing and reading and crocheting doesn't help, makeup isn't even helping despite me doing a bunch of it. This is one thing most gastric bypass surgery patients go through, they're somewhat depressed because they can't eat like they used to and food is no longer fun.

Its not fun to go out and eat, its not fun to go to family gatherings and eat, its not fun to go on trips and eat. Eating in general is no longer enjoyable for me. I mean, yeah, food like my kale and fruit smoothie is enjoyable but things like cake, chicken, beef, hot dogs, Chinese food, etc (which I don't even eat anymore) isn't fun...

this surgery took away the joy in eating and I am happy I had the surgery but at the same time I miss being able to look forward to going out to eat, not looking forward to waiting 30 minutes before drinking or playing guess which foods your stomach can't tolerate today.

I'm sorry for this but my depression has gotten worse since the surgery so its a win lose for me but at least I'm getting healthy, I guess. I just feel like I cannot cope at points and I want to revert back to self harm, which I haven't done since 2013.

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I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Are you being treated for your depression? If not, I highly recommend that first thing tomorrow you call and make an appointment with your PCP and call your surgeon's office to see if you can get a referral to a good therapist who works with bariatric patients. You do not have to go through this without help.

In the meantime, try taking a warm shower or bath, and get a good nights sleep.

Be gentle with yourself.

We are here to help.

@ I can totally relate to what you are going through! I am only 2 1/2 weeks out from my bypass but I'm already feeling like, "What am I going to do now"? food was such a big part of my life before and now it's like there is a big, empty hole which used to be filled with food! I used to eat for anything and everything. I ate when I was happy, when I was sad, lonely, depressed, excited, bored. You name it --- I ate for it! Now, I don't know what to do with myself. I know I can't do this by myself. My husband, family & friends are supportive, but I still feel like they cannot relate to what I am going through. However, I've decided to go to see a therapist. Hopefully, this will help me get some perspective. Have you thought about therapy?

So I had weight loss surgery on September 2nd of last year and have lost, like, 53 pounds and I should have lost 80 by now and I have been more anxious and depressed since my surgery.

So I'm having a depression slump and I am looking at old pictures of me and crying because I really miss being able to eat to cope with my depression. Right now, even though I know its not true, I feel like I am utterly alone.

I know I have family and friends in other states but I feel alone, I feel like no one loves me or cares about me, I feel like I can't get better mentally and its an awful feeling because I am not sure how to cope anymore, I don't know what to do to cope.

I cannot over eat so I don't try to and writing and reading and crocheting doesn't help, makeup isn't even helping despite me doing a bunch of it. This is one thing most gastric bypass surgery patients go through, they're somewhat depressed because they can't eat like they used to and food is no longer fun.

Its not fun to go out and eat, its not fun to go to family gatherings and eat, its not fun to go on trips and eat. Eating in general is no longer enjoyable for me. I mean, yeah, food like my kale and fruit smoothie is enjoyable but things like cake, chicken, beef, hot dogs, Chinese food, etc (which I don't even eat anymore) isn't fun...

this surgery took away the joy in eating and I am happy I had the surgery but at the same time I miss being able to look forward to going out to eat, not looking forward to waiting 30 minutes before drinking or playing guess which foods your stomach can't tolerate today.

I'm sorry for this but my depression has gotten worse since the surgery so its a win lose for me but at least I'm getting healthy, I guess. I just feel like I cannot cope at points and I want to revert back to self harm, which I haven't done since 2013.

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I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Are you being treated for your depression? If not, I highly recommend that first thing tomorrow you call and make an appointment with your PCP and call your surgeon's office to see if you can get a referral to a good therapist who works with bariatric patients. You do not have to go through this without help.

In the meantime, try taking a warm shower or bath, and get a good nights sleep.

Be gentle with yourself.

We are here to help.

I take two antidepressants, have been since 2011. My depression only got worse after the surgery, the antidepressants are hardly helping. I didn't know there were therapist that work with bariatric patients only, I'll call my surgeon tomorrow and see what can be done. Thank you so much.

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So I had weight loss surgery on September 2nd of last year and have lost, like, 53 pounds and I should have lost 80 by now and I have been more anxious and depressed since my surgery.

So I'm having a depression slump and I am looking at old pictures of me and crying because I really miss being able to eat to cope with my depression. Right now, even though I know its not true, I feel like I am utterly alone.

I know I have family and friends in other states but I feel alone, I feel like no one loves me or cares about me, I feel like I can't get better mentally and its an awful feeling because I am not sure how to cope anymore, I don't know what to do to cope.

I cannot over eat so I don't try to and writing and reading and crocheting doesn't help, makeup isn't even helping despite me doing a bunch of it. This is one thing most gastric bypass surgery patients go through, they're somewhat depressed because they can't eat like they used to and food is no longer fun.

Its not fun to go out and eat, its not fun to go to family gatherings and eat, its not fun to go on trips and eat. Eating in general is no longer enjoyable for me. I mean, yeah, food like my kale and fruit smoothie is enjoyable but things like cake, chicken, beef, hot dogs, Chinese food, etc (which I don't even eat anymore) isn't fun...

this surgery took away the joy in eating and I am happy I had the surgery but at the same time I miss being able to look forward to going out to eat, not looking forward to waiting 30 minutes before drinking or playing guess which foods your stomach can't tolerate today.

I'm sorry for this but my depression has gotten worse since the surgery so its a win lose for me but at least I'm getting healthy, I guess. I just feel like I cannot cope at points and I want to revert back to self harm, which I haven't done since 2013.

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I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Are you being treated for your depression? If not, I highly recommend that first thing tomorrow you call and make an appointment with your PCP and call your surgeon's office to see if you can get a referral to a good therapist who works with bariatric patients. You do not have to go through this without help.

In the meantime, try taking a warm shower or bath, and get a good nights sleep.

Be gentle with yourself.

We are here to help.

I take two antidepressants, have been since 2011. My depression only got worse after the surgery, the antidepressants are hardly helping. I didn't know there were therapist that work with bariatric patients only, I'll call my surgeon tomorrow and see what can be done. Thank you so much.

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You may need to have your meds adjusted if they aren't helping.

There are therapists who work with bariatric/WLS patients but there aren't many. Your surgeon's office would be where I would start to see if you can find someone.

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Did they adjust your meds after you had bypass to account for the malabsorption? Someone I know who is bi-polar was steered away from the bypass by their Psychiatrist, because it is too hard to manage the drugs they need post-op since there is no way to really measure how much you are absorbing of the meds.

I didn't have the bypass but I had the sleeve last July and I still enjoy food and eating out with friends. I think you have to change your attitude about food. I really love cooking now after surgery more than before surgery. I enjoy the process of preparing food and the challenge of creating variety and meeting my dietary needs.

Hi there. We are our own worst enemies. I am a mental health warrior and have been fighting my battle for a long time. Two things I've noticed since I was sleeved in November of 2015.

1. I had to switch my medicine. What I previous had been on for a while that was working well stopped working completely. I was a mental mess.

2. Exercise is an absolute must for mental support. The less I exercise the more my symptoms set in. And I HATE exercise but have learned it's necessary to my mental well being.

Talk to your Dr. And hang in there. You totally got this. I believe you can overcome this. We are here for you.????

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@ I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've had anti-depressants stop working for me after a huge event in my life. The only anti-depressant that hasn't stopped, is Lexapro. It's just that Lexapro is a bit more expensive depending on insurance. I wish I could snap my fingers and help you feel better, but all I can do is be here for you and give you some words of comfort. Do you have friends that you can spend time with? I've noticed that spending time with my friends and laughing helps SO much.

May I ask, why did you choose to get this surgery? To get healthier? To look better? Both?

@ I can totally relate to what you are going through! I am only 2 1/2 weeks out from my bypass but I'm already feeling like, "What am I going to do now"? food was such a big part of my life before and now it's like there is a big, empty hole which used to be filled with food! I used to eat for anything and everything. I ate when I was happy, when I was sad, lonely, depressed, excited, bored. You name it --- I ate for it! Now, I don't know what to do with myself. I know I can't do this by myself. My husband, family & friends are supportive, but I still feel like they cannot relate to what I am going through. However, I've decided to go to see a therapist. Hopefully, this will help me get some perspective. Have you thought about therapy?

I used to go to therapy before my surgery when I lived in Nebraska. I stopped going after the surgery because I had to move. Now that I am in Florida, it seems like I can't get in to see a therapist because of my insurance. I am going to see one at a clinic but that won't be until the 18th.

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I agree about the exercise. My exercise of choice is swimming. I always feel so much better after a swim. Plus, sunlight also helps me, so swimming outside is doubly pleasurable.

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Did they adjust your meds after you had bypass to account for the malabsorption? Someone I know who is bi-polar was steered away from the bypass by their Psychiatrist, because it is too hard to manage the drugs they need post-op since there is no way to really measure how much you are absorbing of the meds.

I didn't have the bypass but I had the sleeve last July and I still enjoy food and eating out with friends. I think you have to change your attitude about food. I really love cooking now after surgery more than before surgery. I enjoy the process of preparing food and the challenge of creating variety and meeting my dietary needs.

Well, since I moved to a new state, my new aprn couldn't seem to understand the malabsorption thing and she put me on lower dosages of Zoloft and welburtrin because she doesn't want me to gain weight from them.

I am also on risperdone and have been since 2011 and its hardly working anymore. I noticed that when I take capsule medicine, it works way better.

I told my aprn that and she switched me to visatril for anxiety and it has been doing an okay job up until now and I was on a new antipsychotic called vraylar but my insurance company said it needs to be approved so I'm waiting for that.

She won't do anything, my aprn, so I am stuck and I am trying to change the way I think about food but its hard, I just don't find it enjoyable anymore at all.

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Hi there. We are our own worst enemies. I am a mental health warrior and have been fighting my battle for a long time. Two things I've noticed since I was sleeved in November of 2015.

1. I had to switch my medicine. What I previous had been on for a while that was working well stopped working completely. I was a mental mess.

2. Exercise is an absolute must for mental support. The less I exercise the more my symptoms set in. And I HATE exercise but have learned it's necessary to my mental well being.

Talk to your Dr. And hang in there. You totally got this. I believe you can overcome this. We are here for you.????

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Thank you.

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@ I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've had anti-depressants stop working for me after a huge event in my life. The only anti-depressant that hasn't stopped, is Lexapro. It's just that Lexapro is a bit more expensive depending on insurance. I wish I could snap my fingers and help you feel better, but all I can do is be here for you and give you some words of comfort. Do you have friends that you can spend time with? I've noticed that spending time with my friends and laughing helps SO much.

May I ask, why did you choose to get this surgery? To get healthier? To look better? Both?

I don't have any friends here in Florida, I'm trying to meet people and I had the surgery to become healthy and to get rid of diabetes and acid reflux, and those are gone now. I do want to look better but I have a hard time even thinking I look good.

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I agree about the exercise. My exercise of choice is swimming. I always feel so much better after a swim. Plus, sunlight also helps me, so swimming outside is doubly pleasurable.

I exercise. I walk for an hour everyday and I do yoga as well. Yoga makes me feel better sometimes.

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You need to find someone that understands how the body works after bypass. You probably need higher not lower doses.

Exercise is great, but a chemical imbalance in the brain is an imbalance and it needs to be addressed medically, with real science not Bro science. I would hate to see you fall into a deeper hole.

I don't think sunlight and exercise are bro science: they do help with brain chemistry.

@ I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've had anti-depressants stop working for me after a huge event in my life. The only anti-depressant that hasn't stopped, is Lexapro. It's just that Lexapro is a bit more expensive depending on insurance. I wish I could snap my fingers and help you feel better, but all I can do is be here for you and give you some words of comfort. Do you have friends that you can spend time with? I've noticed that spending time with my friends and laughing helps SO much.

May I ask, why did you choose to get this surgery? To get healthier? To look better? Both?

I don't have any friends here in Florida, I'm trying to meet people and I had the surgery to become healthy and to get rid of diabetes and acid reflux, and those are gone now. I do want to look better but I have a hard time even thinking I look good.

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Congrats on getting rid of your diabetes and acid reflux! I bet you feel better about that! I think you may suffer from low self-esteem, though. Why did you move to Florida?