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I couldn't go through with it! Embarrassed

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NPR    11

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Sigh...

The last time i posted here I was asking everyone for prayers because I was on my way to Tijuana, Mexico for surgery.

On my way there I started to have serious second thoughts about the surgery and I decided that the surgery just was not right for me. My BMI is 30.4 and I could not justify going through with it. The changes to my life style would be life changes that I didn't feel were right for me. I felt as if I could try harder on my own to lose the unwanted weight without having to have the surgery. The Hair loss that happens to some and the life time of Vitamins just did not feel right for the 30 or so pounds that I need to lose.

I may not be successful in my weight loss journey, but I feel this is the best choice for me right now.

This is in no effort to sway someone from having surgery, or to criticize anyone for doing it. I understand and applaud those that have it and because of it are happier. I wish all of you luck and I thank you for being there for me when I needed it.

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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I don't think surgery is a good option to lose 30 pounds so you made the right choice.

check out https://www.reddit.com/r/keto/

you can probably drop that weight in a few months with Keto, and keto is an easy way to eat for the rest of your life.

Good luck.

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24601    210

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I understand. It is a big decision when you are not super high BMI. I was very torn too. Best wishes on your journey!

edited for spelling.

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VSGAnn2014    12,992

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Do not be embarrassed.

But don't ignore your health either. Decide now how you ARE going to get healthier and live a healthy lifestyle.

Very best wishes.

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KristenLe    5,979

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@@NPR I have to admit I'm happy that you didn't go through with it. WLS is not meant for someone who needs to lose 30lbs. You risk complications and the possibility of losing too much. I know how scared you were and I'm glad you were strong enough to say no. Good luck in your weight loss - I'm sure you will do great on your own!

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jaxmom    643

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As usual, VSGAnn2014 says it the best. :)

You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. You made a decision that you felt was right for you.

Look at it this way- you are now educated about the surgery and the whole process so if later in life you decide its for you, less research!

I hope you at least got to enjoy Mexico for a few days. :)

Don't beat yourself up. There is no point. Relax and enjoy the summer.

Take care.

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Sarellen5    27

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No need to be embarrassed you have to do what is best for you and if it isn't feeling right then you made the right choice.

Do not beat yourself up and keep moving forward to a healthier positive place!

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sgc    538

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A lot of people get surgery to get down to a 30 BMI.

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Mangolicious    27

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I "postponed" mine too. I was scheduled for today and couldn't go through with it. I need way more than 30 lbs, but my success at the pre-op liquid diet taught me I have the will power to do anything I set my mind to. I may never reschedule. Only time will tell.

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