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I met someone out dancing...we are going to dinner later this week. I never get asked out, it's a Seattle thing, so this is a good thing to experience!

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Congrats! Have a great time and let us know how it goes!

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@@CowgirlJane - Pulling for you. By the way, be sure to give yourself credit for not giving up and being open for opportunities. Through all the ups and downs you are only really out when you quit trying.

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Well, it's just a date... but I guess like alot of people I have trouble meeting someone in real life (hence the online dating) so it is refreshing actually.

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Congrats to you cowgirlJane!

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Don't do anything I wouldn't do. ;- )

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Good for you! Have fun!! :)

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This post makes me happy.

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I dressed up - looking hot without hoochy...haha. I have a decent body for a 51 year old and am okay flaunting it to a man I am interested in. Much to my relief, he showed up dressed great... just perfect. I felt like we were the couple that makes middle age look not too shabby. :)

We went out to this really amazing brand new place.... hard to explain but it was like a huge complex with multiple restaurants, bars and even a 91 degree swimming pool!! (we didn't go swimming). We toured the place, laughed, and talked, had a few drinks and a yummy dinner... all good.

He was such an attentive gentleman, helped me with my jacket, treated me like a princess. It felt so wonderful. Tall, dark, handsome, age appropriate, funny, great conversationalist - I mean the kind of person you could visualize spending time with.... just too good to be true isn't it?

So, we get to the end of an amazing like 3 hour date and I say. " I had a wonderful time" and he says "Me too, I really enjoyed your company more than you know" Than I say "I would like to see you again". (I am a big believer in stating my interest and letting him decide what to do with it.) Then there is an odd pause.... and he says his schedule can be difficult. I thought.... okay, weird, I guess my magical evening wasn't a mutual experience. Then it dawns on me... "your married aren't you?" Yup

Can you effing believe it? Apparently wifey is out of town this week. Can you effing believe it?

I realize this is very much an emotional response to a big disappointment, but I feel ready to give up. I deserve a man like this who is actually available and not decietiful would be a bonus.

I did meet someone else recently - I am trying to do what my counselor said which is to not zero in too quickly. My someone else has many great attributes but not so charming, a very lame dresser and as a 50% parent of teen kids not as available as I would prefer - but of course leaps and bounds better than effing married!!! My thoughts right now are... don't be such a sucker and give less charming dude a more serious chance with me. Or else give up entirely.

Can you tell I am pissed?

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@@CowgirlJane I would be pissed off too!!! What a complete jerk. The nerve of that guy. He is probably charming because he has to be to juggle all his women.

If the lame dresser guy works out- you can have some fun shopping for him!!

Sorry your date took a nose dive.

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Let me start by saying kudos to you for getting back in the game of dating. The married guy, well he's an ass. The lame dresser, he might just be the one. He just might need some help in the clothing dept. He might be a shabby sheik prince charming, don't give up on him. And as for getting serious about someone, date around see what's out there, you are still young. Like e life to the fullest.

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That is just unbelievable!! What the hell did you say to him when you found out he is married?? He would have certainly gotten a piece of my mind. I hope you made him feel like the piece of shitt he is.

I can understand why all that is discouraging. But the right one will come along. For what it's worth, I agree with your counselor. Maybe be willing to look past some of the superficial things (you can always help a lame dresser ;)). You are a beautiful person inside and out, and you DO deserve someone of equal caliber. You'll find him.

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