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[sgc 538]

Up over 50 messages and no responses. Only like I have gotten is from a dominatrix.

[sgc 538]

I think I will take a hiatus for a bit. 60+ messages and not a single reply. I'll take some time off and see if matches come to me. I've lost energy trying to come up with good emails so I'll take a break and try next week.

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

On 3/25/2017 at 11:11 PM, sgc said:

From the pics she has a goth thing going on it looks like. She doesn't look like she is a pleasant person. This is a part of her profile. She doesn't come off as the sweet, gentle, nurturing type I'm looking for.

I feel like responding and calling her Jess and that may end things. She also lives in the same city as me, and judging by one of her pics, I may know the street she lives on.

Okay so she comes off really strong lol. You also have to understand that she has been treated badly by men on the online dating scene. Maybe she is nice but she doesn't want to deal with the nonsense.

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

6 hours ago, sgc said:

I think I will take a hiatus for a bit. 60+ messages and not a single reply. I'll take some time off and see if matches come to me. I've lost energy trying to come up with good emails so I'll take a break and try next week.

Wow that many and not a response? Hmm. You may have to wait it out for now. Give it about a week and then try again. Sometimes we look at things and want things a little to hard. Good things come to those who wait.

[sgc 538]

So far the likes on my profile I have gotten are from the crazy one, a professional dominatrix, a woman whose profile picture is of her holding some sort of assault rifle, and a woman who spent a paragraph detailing the race of people she will not go out with but fortunately for me I am one of the few races she will go out with. I think I need a break. Maybe next week there will be a fresh crop of matches.

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

1 hour ago, sgc said:

So far the likes on my profile I have gotten are from the crazy one, a professional dominatrix, a woman whose profile picture is of her holding some sort of assault rifle, and a woman who spent a paragraph detailing the race of people she will not go out with but fortunately for me I am one of the few races she will go out with. I think I need a break. Maybe next week there will be a fresh crop of matches.

Those sound like some kind of nutty people lol. I am so sorry. Yeah I would say take a break. All these women are not the best choice for you.

[sgc 538]

I can't really say I'm too surprised. I figured after 62 emails I would get one response at least. I can tell most of them have read the emails and checked out my profile. I decided to completely redo my profile and been looking at theirs again to get them to check my profile out one more time.

[sgc 538]

I must be a glutton for punishment. I keep emailing to no avail. 78 emails and not a single response. At this point, I want to try for 100. It's either got to be my profile, emails or I'm not that attractive. I kind of lean towards the latter because most read the emails and then view my profile.

[sgc 538]

After 85 messages, I finally got a response. It wasn't very enthusiastic so I'm not hopeful.

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

That's awesome. Well Charm her but keep your options open.

[sgc 538]

I sent a reply. I'll see what happens. If all goes well, I'm not how and when to advance this to an in person meeting?

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

If it goes well, give it about 2 weeks of consistent talking. Once the two weeks is up, say hey do you think we could get some coffee one day? I would really like to hang out with you and get to know you more.

[mlbdl 86]

My experience on eHarmony has been lousy. I've been matched with a ton of guys. I've contacted most of them and I think I've received 2 replies in 6 months. It's not you. I think they have a lot of nonpaying members, so they can't respond. I also think quite a few of the profiles are fake. My friends have had similar experiences. Just my opinion, whatever it's worth.

[sgc 538]

I'm on eHarmony and Match. I've actually sent 48 emails on Match, 33 on eHarmony and 4 on OKCupid. The only response was on OKCupid. Non paying customers on eHarmony can respond. They just can't see pictures or respond after the first couple interactions. When I first started this thread over a year ago, I weighed over 400 pounds, had no pics on eHarmony, and yet got a couple dates within a month or two. Now when I'm actually trying, I can't. eHarmony you can't tell who is active. On Match, I send emails mostly to people who are active at that time. I can see about 98% of them have been read.

The one who responded to me on OKCupid doesn't seem promising. Conversation doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Not sure she's interested.

[sgc 538]

AsI suspected, the conversation fizzled out. I didn't think she was that as interested and then I started to lose interest.

I got an email from Match about a 7 day progress report. Apparently I sent 32 more emails that successful Match users, and receive 4 fewer emails than successful Match users. By their math, I should have received 16 responses if I were successful.