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Something that has really come to light for me during this pre op prep is how much food has ruled my life to this point...during Breakfast thinking about what to have for lunch and dinner, while running errands thinking about what I'm going to eat when I get home, during a stressful day imagining what I'll eat to relax with afterward, what Snacks I need to properly enjoy a sporting event on TV or what to order at the movies.

None of these instances was I looking at food as fuel but as a "friend". Now, having made it to day 6 of prep, I find I can do all of these things without needing my "friend". That may be the biggest "get" of this entire process!!

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Congratulations on doing so well. And Congrats on your 1st NSV!! :-P

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food losing it's domination over my thoughts was the best part of VSG WLS. Thoughts about what/when I was going to eat ceased the day after surgery. Up until then, I was always planning my next meal because I KNEW I was going to be hungry in 2 hours, no matter how much I had just eaten.

So, I feel uneasy when I read questions about "When can I eat _____ again?" or "I am worried I can't eat ______ ever again." When I read things like this, I am worried the person who posted isn't ready for WLS because it does take a commitment on their part to change their eating habits. And they may still be too attached to certain foods.

I was soooooooo ready to be DONE! with the control food had over my life.

It looks like you are too! I am so happy for you for taking control of your life.

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3-C plan for success!

Control what you can (your actions and thoughts).
Cope with what you can’t (external emergencies and other’s behavior).
Concentrate on what counts.

Stay positive. Believe in yourself. Focus on your progress, not perfection.

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That is an epiphany that will serve you very well throughout your journey. Congratulations!

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Something that has really come to light for me during this pre op prep is how much food has ruled my life to this point...during Breakfast thinking about what to have for lunch and dinner, while running errands thinking about what I'm going to eat when I get home, during a stressful day imagining what I'll eat to relax with afterward, what Snacks I need to properly enjoy a sporting event on TV or what to order at the movies.

None of these instances was I looking at food as fuel but as a "friend". Now, having made it to day 6 of prep, I find I can do all of these things without needing my "friend". That may be the biggest "get" of this entire process!!

Me too! It's amazing isn't it? I'm on my last day of my two week prep and surgery is tomorrow. It's been difficult but I've done well thanks to everyone's posts. You really have to get your head in the game and change how you view food. Very difficult for me but I'm taking it one minute at a time. I've realized that every meal is a choice. You can either choose to eat well or you can choose to eat poorly. These two weeks have shown me that I have the control, not my food. ????????

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@@Profkf

I wanted to commend you on such a thoughtful and insightful post. food has been my best friend for so long, and getting sleeved has been such an eye-opening experience. Good job so far!

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Thanks much to everyone for the support and comment. It REALLY a helps to know I'm part of a community on this journey and not living in splendid isolation!

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Congrats on your epiphany. I too had to realize that food was something I need to survive not something that I needed to put my life around.

A quote I put on my mirror so I see it every morning is "Focus on what you want most, not what you want right now". I am working every day on a NEW relationship with food. Those thoughts still creep into my head but I have gotten much better at seeing them for what they are.

Sounds like you are on your way to success! Go you!!

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Yes, when I spoke with my father after surgery he said "Why wouldn't you feel depressed? You shot your best friend..." I suppose that is it in a nutshell. Time to find new friends...

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