In terms of your weight or appearance...what have been the doozies?

I'll start with this one, it's a double wammy!

Three weeks ago, DH and I visit his family. His grandfather sees my DH in his new outfit I got him for his birthday and sporting his new "do" that sort of gives him a bed head look. He says to me "If he keeps looking younger, people are going to think he's your son!"

Mind you, my DH is 5-6 years younger than I am.

I go home in a slight huff but try to figure it's just an old man not aware of what he says all the time, because he's never had a mean bone in his body that I've ever been aware of. I tell my mom about this and she says "ya...the more overweight you get, the older you're going to look."

My point being...I know I'm older than DH. I know I'm fatter than DH. Everyone else that has eyes can tell both of those too, though the age thing might be just a tad harder ( evidently not after DH got his new hip haircut)...why did they have to say anything....

I'm going to go shave my DH's head bald and get him some used sweatpants and a sloppy tee-shirt to wear to family functions from here on out. Maybe then, someone will think I've had plastic surgery and that it's doing me wonders! Course, I think having this LB is going to make them start to shush about my weight problem. I'm not telling them I've gotten one....I'm just hoping that they'll notice my efforts.

Now, help me find a few laughs out there. What have you heard that's been sort of "off-handed" or "back-handed" compliments? Lets try to make it more funny than bitchy if you can. I've got a few more that I'll post if this one takes off.

CeCe,

I know about the little ones not meaning to be hurtful, but it happens anyway.

I have a kid at my school, it's a school for the Deaf, this little dude, was signing...you're fat, you're fat, why, why, why? Why are you fat?

I signed back, because I am...but jeez. I knew he didn't know better, but....

I am hearing impaired, deaf people and hearing impaired tend to be blunt as I am sure you have noticed.

Derick,

I know very well how blunt Deaf and HH people are. I actually appreciate not beating around the bush to make a point. And I know the little guy was being a little kid. I guess it's the piece of ASL where concepts repeat for clarity crossing over with spoken English where if you say something over and over again it's emphatic.

That's all.

J

Believe me, fat does make you look younger. I'll be 60 this year and after losing 40 pounds, I'm much more wrinkled than I was. I want to lose 20 more pounds, but no more because I'll look like dried fruit if I lose more.

Believe me, fat does make you look younger. I'll be 60 this year and after losing 40 pounds, I'm much more wrinkled than I was. I want to lose 20 more pounds, but no more because I'll look like dried fruit if I lose more.

I hear ya! At 53 I had people constantly surprised at my age. They often thought I was 10 years younger. Now at 54 and a year with the band, my wrinkles are getting really pronounced with the weight loss.

Plastic surgery for this girl for sure!

I always thought fat made you look younger. A lot of times the puffiness of being fat goes away and then there are wrinkles where there never was before...I guess maybe it all depends on the person.

Oh, sob sob. I can so identify with this. I thought at 37 I looked amazing for 37, now at 39 and 80 something pounds lighter, I do look like someone who's about to turn 40 in six weeks. Even got the teeniest tiniest beginnings of a turkey neck. It makes me feel sick, lol. And talk about dark undereye circles, I had deep set eyes to begin with, now they're soooo hollow as there's just no fat left on my face at all.

But my overall persona is younger looking, definitely in terms of I no longer have to hide between long boring heavy curtains of hair, and can carry funkier shorter layered styles, I can wear funkier clothes, I'm brighter and happier etc.

I went to a new GYN when I moved years ago. She (the only 'she' doctor I've ever gone to) came in, did the exam and casually said in her conversation, "Have you ever considered losing weight?"

Hmmmm, considered losing weight. What a novel idea! Why, no!

A-hole.

No, I like to carry this weight around so people like YOU can ask me if I ever considered losing the weight. What a bunch of morons....people who have never had a weight problem are such morons when it comes to overweight people.

I hear ya! At 53 I had people constantly surprised at my age. They often thought I was 10 years younger. Now at 54 and a year with the band, my wrinkles are getting really pronounced with the weight loss.

Plastic surgery for this girl for sure!

Yah! I am no longer being mistaken for being a decade younger either and this is quite a shock. :phanvan Good thing I am getting my face renovated/restored this fall. The downside is that it is gonna hurt a lot more than the band installation did. :omg:

I was bringing back my best friend from his quasi-bachelor party...(yes, I'm female and was the "best man" lol) and in the car with several people, he busts out with that his buddies all really "liked my personality and that they were saying how pretty my face was but..."

So I finished it..."but my body sucks?" He replied with "Well, yeah. But at least it something that you can change...not like being flat out ugly to start with right?" Riiight...like I hadn't tried losing the weight before.

Oh FarmerE...I am sorry. That just sucks....sometimes guys say the stupidest things...and they don't even know it....and then sometimes they do know it and STILL say it!!!

Gee FarmerE, that's rough!! Sometimes people who think they're your best friend believe that your friendship comes with a license to be brutally honest. No thanks. I'd rather we just be supportive of one another. Who needs friends for reality checks when you got enemies to do it! :faint:

One of my very best friends for years decided that she needed to tell me that I should just "get over" my sister's and mom's deaths. After all, everyone experiences the death of a loved one. We all just have to get over it. Hmmm. Nice. Thanks for your compassion and understanding, pal. :huytsao

I am so sorry for your loss! What a terrible thing to go through....((hugs)).

Are you still friends with that insensitive b#@$%?????

Actually it got very complicated after that. She went into a big thing about turning it over to God and just praying on it. What she didn't understand, or even try to understand, was that I wasn't sorry for my mom or sister to be in a better place (especially since they both died a painful death from metastatic breast cancer) but that I missed them and the love and good times that we shared. It was comforting to me to recall some of the wonderful and funny things that they did. She was uncomfortable anytime I mentioned either of them and I generally only mentioned them in the context of relating a funny incident or sweet gesture that they made on my behalf. They were both very great women.

The short answer is, NO. We are not still friends. Well, she still calls from time to time, but I learned that I am a much happier person without her in my life on a daily basis. I am sure that I learned a lot from our relationship, but we took the friendship as far as it could go. There was just nothing left to love about it.

It's interesting that there is a person here at LBT whose posts often remind me very much of my former friend. The LBT poster and I are politically polar opposites and most of what she posts sounds just like my former friend. She seems to believe that she is "holier than thou" but in reality, she seems to have a pretty black heart. I am sure that is why her threads and posts irritate me so much.

I appreciate your empathy!

I went to a new GYN when I moved years ago. She (the only 'she' doctor I've ever gone to) came in, did the exam and casually said in her conversation, "Have you ever considered losing weight?"

Hmmmm, considered losing weight. What a novel idea! Why, no!

A-hole.

lololol Oh man, you are too funny! I had a similar thing happen to me with a doctor, "Have you tried dieting?" "Dieting? Wow. No, I would have never thought of that! Hallelujah I've had a revelation!!!!!! "