*First is my MAJOR scale victory, I am 100lbs down as of Sunday. Hw 290, Sw 282, Cw 190 from a size 20/22 to a size 8/10. Shoe from size 9W to an 8 regular.

*I no longer snore at all, which is big for me since it recently started and was so loud and disruptive to both my family and I. Now, nothing at all, they say im so silent they wonder if im breathing. I sleep so much better and more comfortably.

*Also, the late night cravings have gone away and I never wake up at night anymore so no more late night snacking.
*I no longer have pain from my Fibromyalgia and have stopped my medications completely!!!! I hate meds!!

******Sad to say that I have had serious negative responses to "MY LIFE" decision, here are some of the daggers in my heart...

-I've had family tell me, I didn't need the surgery, I was pretty enough even though I was "BIG"! As if I am so vein that I would do something so serious to my body just to look good...smh

-I was told, "I don't like this on u, it's not YOU, you're not meant to be this small"...SMH

Then, "I could never make myself sick every day just to look good". WAH? Who's that, I'm not sick at all...uneducated speakers make me wanna vomit if that's what u mean...UGH.

-another family member, "don't lose no more, we have enough crackheads out here, wouldn't want people to get the wrong idea". WTF???

THEN THE ABSOLUTE WORST OF ALL.....

-My husband threw me a big party when I hit my first goal of 200lbs. I invited all my favorite girls to a Glam Session to do makeovers and a photo shoot (my first pics public photos other than on BP) as a girls night but also as a celebration of my successes since at that time, I had also gotten a raise at work (Which is also suspect), a new luxury apt and a new car. I struggled over 2 years to gain these things from a 1 bedroom box apartment and no car to the new life that my hard work paid for. Do you know one friend was heard saying, "Why she gotta show off, now she think she something special because she lost weight, who's gonna shrink her head?" This hurt me the most because my husband offered me anything I wanted to Celebrate and all I asked is that he treat me and my girls, 17 of us to catered food from Carrabbas (My Fav), dj for the room, make up sessions with Mary Kay, we had a pure romance presentation, a man that was selling jewelry to enhance our look and a photographer to document the whole evening and take personal photo shoots as well, all this at no cost to them and this man made that happen just to celebrate me and my accomplishments and I was extremely thankful beyond belief but also so hurt by not only the person making the comment but the 4 that entertained her, 2 by saying, "that's alright, when she fall, she gonna fall hard" "she got a new 2014 car but just asked me for $60 bucks just last week, she's a phony" -this was when I lost my bank card and had to wait for another and she was with me so I asked her instead of calling my husband. Lesson learned!

Basically I learned that people are not always who you think they are. Thank God I did what I did for me and not to impress anyone or seeking anyone's approval. I am happy with my decision and since I've noticed that ppl seem to be down for you as long as you stay down in life...on their level perhaps but the minute you move up, now your not good enough for them. I have since been uninvited to 4 events and the excuse was, " Oh I thought You'd be busy or traveling" REALLY? I was suppose to be celebrating but I literally cried for 3 days. Beyond the gains (materials) and the losses(weight), I thought I had support. I learned an ugly lesson that day and here's some I wish to pass on...

Make your moves for YOU!, Seek only approval from YOU! Make sure you have a true support system. Then my daughter sent me a comment picture that reads,"Don't dim your light simply because it's shining in their eyes" That's for you too. Be positive and don't let the haters tear you down.

I don't have a positive relationship with my family, been on my own since 16, so these women have always been around but now that I can't even share my life losses or gains with them...my husband is taking me away from it all, no more pain, no more tears, no more haters, we are moving to California, his home town and I will make new friends and hope and pray to share a good life together. He even says we will renew our vows so I can get a new dress vs the size 26 I had to wear in Jamaica. After 18 years, we will renew our vows in Santa Monica!!! Haven't told any of them yet but I bet they act like they care... but they probably don't and who cares, I'm over it!! It will be a last minute goodbye and an AWESOME 2015!!!!

I am happy and I will continue to be, I could have uplifted others but I will reach out to the real ones and help bring them up and we can pray together for those too busy hating on others to ever come up in life!! Good riddance to em'...

Love you guys, needed to get that out!! Thanks, whew!

Thanks so much and what stories we all have. Please share. Some ppl think its all good and positive after and i just wanna send my flashing warning and wish u all the best.....PSST, this morning's good news...im finally pregnant after 17 years of trying with PCOS!!! We are wide awake, im jumping around and he's super happy!! God is always on time...looking forward to life more and more every day now!! Have a great week VSG fam, you're the first to know!!

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!! WOW!! what a beautiful surprise! whoop whoop!!! take care...<3

Congrats! You are on the road to the life you deserve.

Some people are happier when they are losers (not our good kind) and they can feel superior. Now that you have taken control of your life, the relationship changes. Let go and move to the next chapter. I experienced this when i started doing animal rescue. Friends didn't want to hear the stories or the work i was doing. They can't handle it. I was told I'd lose friends and i did. My daughter told me people come into your life when they are meant to - a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Time to start over girl. So so happy for you.

Love your daughter's comment

^{My best friend got the sleeve a year ago in March. She has lost 111 lbs and I couldn't be happier and jealous of her! LOL. But she is my inspiration and my motivation. I can't imagine not being there to support her. I know I will have her right there with me to support me. I am sorry that these women talked about you like that, You should be able to celebrate losing 100lbs!! That is amazing! Personally I would have opened the door to my house and invited them to all leave along with anyone else that was not there to support me.}

Edited January 13, 201511 yr by Spicy06

U brought tears to my eyes reading this I know how you feel and reading this lifted my spirit thank u xx

Your story is so encouraging to me. I started my journey at 291 and no after my 6 month waiting period I'm 269lbs going into surgery on Feb 23rd. I suffer from Fibromyagia also and have Chronic back and leg pain. I decided after my 3rd failed back surgery that I was gonna do WLS. I'm so excited and nervous for my Gastric Bypass surgery but your story gives me hope. I want to not have to take Meds for the rest of my life and WLS seems to be something that can help that. Best of luck as you continue your journey.

Take their "hate" and cherish it. You earned it!

You did the work. You made the sacrifice you EARNED the rewards.

Remember.... "Everyone pities the weak.... Jealousy you have to EARN"

You have an awesome husband! I have phony friends and co-workers like that and I just try to separate myself from them!

I'm glad u learned who your true friends are. Thank God for your beautiful family that u r moving away with! The others were just seasonal in your life.