help, im gaining, and im feeling down

[finediva 979]

@rosebud1258. " food choices are a problem lately". I find the best way to handle that is make all my meals ahead and either freeze them in small portions and keep a small supply in the fridge. That way when it's time to eat I just reach for what I want. No chance for me to pick the quick, available, calling my name, less healthy stuff. I'm only three months out, but as a foodie I know I'll need to keep this habit up to prevent myself from falling back into bad habits.

[thesuse2000 698]

food choices are probably more important even than the exercise. If you're gaining that means you're taking in more calories than you're burning. I think it would be good for you to track what you're eating - if only for a week or so, to get a realistic understanding of what your habits are and the impact they have. That may help you figure out what changes to make. Focusing on Protein helps me stay full longer. You may notice the same thing when you track - that you're hungrier sooner after eating a high carb meal and that leads to more calories over the day.

It sounds like you have a lot of responsibility and some limited freedoms. That's a lot of challenges! I can understand that it's hard for you to make yourself a priority - but you deserve to do that for yourself. You will be a better grandmother, teacher, wife, etc if you are making yourself stronger, healthier and happier. I think you should decide that you deserve this. You took the step of having the surgery. Now continue that investment in yourself and keep the progress going. Reaching out here was a good first step!

[rosebud1258 2]

If it was just me i would have no problem. Problem lies in the cooking for 2 others. They love the carbs, even if i try to make healthy choices there isnt enough support by them to not eat it. Its hard. My grand is a toothpick( like her mother) and my husband is in the denial stage of losing. Its so darn fustrating.

[Pkdvm 175]

You are worth making your health a priority. Reaching out here was a good step in the right direction. Not sure if there's anything I can do, but want you to know that I wish you success.

[thesuse2000 698]

You may have to look deep inside and find the strength that's in there. You don't need the support of your family to make better choices for yourself. If anyone gives you a hard time just let them know that you are taking steps to take care if yourself and this is what you need. You need to take back the reins of control. Again - you are worth it!!