I've been spending a lot of time in Rants & Raves since I joined LBT, partly because it's fun, but also because for the most part it's very GLBT friendly. Unless I haven't looked in the right place, I don't think there's a support thread for us, so I decided to start one!

A little about me. I'm Eddie & I'm a 42-year-old Gay man. I have a partner of just over nine years (henceforth referred to as DH), a 17-year-old son and 16-year-old daughter. DH and I are stupid. Don't believe me, just ask our kids. DH has hypothyroidism and had not been able to lose any weight after his thyroid "went nuts" several years ago. I've just been overweight all my life. He was banded on 2/21/07 and I'm getting mine next Wednesday (5/16). I can't wait!

Anyway, I would love to hear from all the GLBT folks out there. Hopefully this can be a place for us to freely discuss our unique issues and get support we may not be able to get elsewhere.

Ok, ladies and gents...I love that I have finally found the right thread. I posted this on the shrinking violets thread (my April 07 group), and didn't get the responses I was looking for. I actually told my doctor this, he said it was the first he'd ever heard of this.

About 3 weeks, post op, Susanne and I had some "hot and steamy". Each orgasm felt great of course, but weird in the port site. As we continued, I was almost dreading the orgasms. After about 7 or 8 orgasms, I was dying...I finally had to hold up the white flag. It hurt for about 2 days after that. The pain was dull, but constant. This is the first time I've ever heard anyone else talk about discomfort w/ orgasms. Thanks for sharing...now I know that I am ok.

This is a great thread. Thanks for letting me share, and sorry if this is TMI.

Peace out family!

Well, mine wasn't necessarily in the port site. It just HURT! I'm happy to report though, that today (6 days post-op) it doesn't hurt anymore! (I hope that isn't TMI!)

Kity

First off, you bragger! 8+ Orgasms is just greedy. The straight girls on your April thread probably thought you were exagerating. But we girls know it's completely possible. (If you don't then keep trying!)

But it would stand to reason your port area would hurt. As my surgeon told me, the port is stitched to muscle but it "floats" until the scar tissue builds up and anchors it in place. Contracting your tummy muscles would cause pulling in the port area, and left over aching.

I'm sure now that you're 6 weeks out it's all healed.

With stating you're 6 weeks out, how are you doing with fills?

Juli

Juli~You know, I thought they were thinking I was lying. Straight women, unless they are completely multiple don't usually have that many(you know lesbians have 3 hour quickies:biggrin1: :biggrin1: ). Anyway, that is why when I read the thread, I was like, "oooo, this is where that should be posted".

My doctor said the same thing. He blushed and said, "I've never heard of that"...it was pretty funny actually.

I was banded on 4-3, and will get my first fill 5-30. I had a slight infection at the port incision...it just didn't close well, so I had to take antibiotics for 10 days. I am going to my MIL's house this weekend. She makes some kick ass German food. I could've gotten a fill tomorrow, but decided to wait until after the trip!

A friend on the shrinking violet thread said she got her second fill yesterday and felt it!

What about you guys?

Have a great day!

Each orgasm felt great of course, but weird in the port site. As we continued, I was almost dreading the orgasms. After about 7 or 8 orgasms, I was dying...I finally had to hold up the white flag. It hurt for about 2 days after that. The pain was dull, but constant.

OH how I envy thee of the 8 orgasms! Not all women are able to have multiples, though I know alot are capable. Even the most liberal/sexually free/experimental among us are sometimes just physically doomed to "one and done".

As for the hurting, yes I would say it was several weeks before the port area (whole stomach actually) stopped hurting. I guess all the muscles contract there too. At least we know we're having "whole body" O's!

Anyway, good for you on the multiples and hooray for lezzie sex!

oh the joys of lesbian sex! lol

Wow Kitty, I wish I could have that many. I am sooo envious. Sex after the surgery has been a lttle awkward for me. I am so worried about my port and my DP likes me to do all different types of positions..(yeah i'm big but I'm flexible).

Anyway, I think all that worrying is making me a little uncomfortable with having sex. We don't go as llong as we normally would. I feel bad.

Each orgasm felt great of course, but weird in the port site. As we continued, I was almost dreading the orgasms. After about 7 or 8 orgasms, I was dying...I finally had to hold up the white flag. It hurt for about 2 days after that. The pain was dull, but constant.

OH how I envy thee of the 8 orgasms! Not all women are able to have multiples, though I know alot are capable. Even the most liberal/sexually free/experimental among us are sometimes just physically doomed to "one and done".

As for the hurting, yes I would say it was several weeks before the port area (whole stomach actually) stopped hurting. I guess all the muscles contract there too. At least we know we're having "whole body" O's!

Anyway, good for you on the multiples and hooray for lezzie sex!

Damn you Lesbians and your Lesbian sex! Well, actually I suppose it's women in general. We guys get once a DAY, maybe 2 or 3 if we're REALLY lucky! DH is actually out of town until Friday so I've got a couple more days to heal, but you can believe I'll be trying some real action Friday night! In fact, look what I found to commemorate the occasion: (OH Juli, you've got nothing on me now!!)

ok so now i'm laughin so hard i'm crying!!!!! my co workers are looking at me like this B*tch is crazy! i really needed this laugh today MsDad! thank you so so much! only 5 more hours in this hell hole of a job! then i'm free!!!! and on my way to bandland! woot woot!

oh my my my. LOL

My port hurts right now just thinking about having 8 orgasms:eek: (..and from busting a gut laughing ) You guys are killin' me.....

Thanks for sharing, Kity. It wasn't TMI. It was just enough information to make me supremely jealous:thumb:

Ok, ladies and gents...I love that I have finally found the right thread. About 3 weeks, post op, Susanne and I had some "hot and steamy". Each orgasm felt great of course, but weird in the port site. As we continued, I was almost dreading the orgasms. After about 7 or 8 orgasms, I was dying...I finally had to hold up the white flag. It hurt for about 2 days after that. The pain was dull, but constant. This is the first time I've ever heard anyone else talk about discomfort w/ orgasms. Thanks for sharing...now I know that I am ok.

This is a great thread. Thanks for letting me share, and sorry if this is TMI.

Peace out family!

Should I be embarrassed???? You know how it is w/ girl/girl sex...it goes on and on. Like I said, it was a 3 hour quickie. Anyway, I know the girls over here know what I am talking about. So much sex you can't walk sometimes. (LOVE IT)

Speaking of which, my honey comes home tomorrow!!!!! I am so excited! We didn't get to see each other last weekend (only missed about 6 in over 2 years). We are going to Phoenix to see her mom this weekend.

Anybody have fun Memorial weekend plans?

I love this thread!

Should I be embarrassed???? You know how it is w/ girl/girl sex...it goes on and on. Like I said, it was a 3 hour quickie. Anyway, I know the girls over here know what I am talking about. So much sex you can't walk sometimes. (LOVE IT)

Speaking of which, my honey comes home tomorrow!!!!! I am so excited! We didn't get to see each other last weekend (only missed about 6 in over 2 years). We are going to Phoenix to see her mom this weekend.

Anybody have fun Memorial weekend plans?

I love this thread!

Woo hoo! You and Yenken are getting your spouse fix! I'll be getting mine Friday after Sean gets home.

We're taking the new motorhome out for a "shakedown cruise" this weekend. For any non-RVers, that's where you take a new RV out for the first time to make sure you get most of the bugs worked out before you go out in it for real. The for real trip is the following weekend - we're taking it to Ft Wilderness at Disney World for Gay Days!! None of our Rainbow RV friends know we got it yet, so we get to show it off. It seems like every time we go to a rally, someone has a new rig. This time it just happens to be us! :biggrin1: Of course, we'll hear a hundred times how we just got the last one less than a year ago, blah blah. Then we'll have to expain a hundred times how we got a lemon and just couldn't take it anymore. Oh well.

Band update: I go back to the doc tomorrow for my post-op checkup, then I get to go back to work. Oh, joy. :tired Can you feel my excitement? Anyway, I knew he was going to take off the Steri-Strips so I went ahead and took them off in the shower tonight. Wow! I can't believe how well the incisions are healing already. They're completely closed, no sign of infection and just look really good. I was really worried about healing because of my diabetes. I tend to heal very slowly, but now I can start rubbing Vitamin E oil and cocoa butter on them. I'm also on some really mushy food (baby food, grits, soft scrambled eggs), tolerating it very well. My doc told me that the sooner I can tolerate real food the faster I'll heal and the faster I'll lose weight. I'll check with him tomorrow to see if I can advance to soft foods. I just don't want to keep eating the carb-laden mushies. And all the Protein shakes are getting old. I'll be glad when I can just drink one or two to supplement.

I went to the gym yesterday! Did a full circuit, all the machines. The ab machine was a little rough, but...HAHAHAHA!!! Bet I got a bunch of you with that one!! Seriously, I did go to the gym, but only to walk on the treadmill. I did 10 minutes yesterday, and went back today and did 15! I was a little tired afterward, but I'm going to keep going back every day and increasing until I can do 30. Then I'm going to up the intensity so I can get the cardio going good. I'm not even going to try anything else for at least 4 or 5 more weeks unless the doc tells me otherwise. I have lost about 5 pounds since surgery, so with the pre-op diet I've now lost about 16! I'm under 250 now! Woo hoo! DH is at 251, so the race is now officially on!!

Ok, why the hell can't I edit?? I get a window full of smilies! Anyone else having this problem? Anyway, I forgot to put this in my last post: Check out my new avatar...it's the new RV!

Nice Rig Eddie, enjoy your shakedown weekend, is your rig a gas or diesel pusher and how many slides.

Yes I have had problems in editing, I got so pissed that I deleted the post and started over, and this is the second time that I have tried to add this post.

Amazing Rig Eddie & I love the bonking bananas.

The Vit E oil straight from the capsules is doing wonders for my scars aswell... some of the smaller incisions I can bearley find now.

Have a great weekend - if I don't talk to you before then. I really enjoyed chating to you via email today