My surgery is scheduled for 9/29 in Mexico. My husband is coming with me and he is the only person I am telling about the surgery. It's mostly because I don't want to answer the questions - it's exhausting! I've dieted most of life and been up and down over and over. I hate that people tell me I don't look "that bad". I wear a size 12-14 for bottom and 14-16 for tops or dresses.

I'm very nervous especially since I don't have a support system. My husband isn't even in agreement -- he's going only because I'm making him go. Anyone else out there doing this alone?

I am usually very open and share things. I kept my surgery a secret. My daughter is a nurse and she didn't want me having any major wls. She doesn't know about the lapband. I talk about my hernia repair and my fitbit and walking. Hopefully have something to show off when she gets here for Christmas

AngelDivine -- I was banded on 9/5. I told my immediate family & my three best friends. I'm not ashamed of my decision, I simply want to enjoy my journey & not have everyone's eyes on me. Right now it's all about me -- and I think that's okay. Whatever you decide to do & whomever you decide to tell -- I'm sure it's what you need to do for yourself. Best of luck to you!

no one knows except my best friend who is driving me to the hospital and my partner. not even my family knows..

im still contemplating whether i should tell my family. 10 days to go till my OP ..

My opinion... I think WLS is a very personal decision, and one is that is not made easily or taken lightly. It is major surgery. I decided from the Get-Go that I would only tell my wife and maybe a few other folks that I was having it done.

There are too many people who will tell you to "do it on your own" or make comments similar to "I'd never go that route..." Who needs negative influences? The procedure might end up with less than expected results, and then you'd have to deal with the "I told you so" or other negative comments. Who needs that CRAP???

My wife was a bit leary and concerned, but in the end she ended having a sleeve (which she wouldn't have even CONSIDERED before I had the lap band. Strange how it all works out. Thankfully, we've both have had good results and outcomes. She is more open than I am. When and if I ever get my weight back to where it was in my early 20s, I may decide to share my little "secret." For now, I tell everyone (and quite honestly!!!) that my weight loss is due to strenuous exercise and eating properly. It is the truth, and all they need to know.

@@labwalker Yes that is exactly why i didnt tell anyone, especially because of my size im not that fat and even the receptionists for my surgeon said i dont even need to get the lapband done because im not fat. Times like this puts me in doubt whether to go along with this or not.

You are not alone my friend.

I've been looking into getting LapBand for 5 years now. People in general are very negative towards WLS calling it the "easy way out." Friends have said you me "you're not that big" or "If you focus you can lose the weight"....well fuck them! The only person I am telling is my big sister...and that is because she is considering WLS also.

I am going in for my consult next week and I am so excited!

Folks who say that it is the easy way out generally fall into two categories:

Folks who never had a weight problem, and don't understand what it is like living/dealing with it.

Or, folks who have had weight problems all of their lives, and who don't want to deal with. Or in some instances don't want to see others succeed where they failed.

And then I might add there is a subgroup in A (above) that will tell you to stop shoveling food in your mouth and the problem will go away.

All in IMO.

Edited October 2, 201411 yr by labwalker

@@labwalker Yup...you are so right.