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Weird look at restaurants

Kathytej

By Kathytej, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Kathytej    134

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Lately I've been getting this weird look from servers when I eat at restaurants and I start asking for healthy options, which they have available, it seems they don't understand how an overweight person wants to eat healthy. They can not imagine the struggles we go thru everyday. Then they will pass by the table thousands of times asking "is everything ok?" Is the food ok? Yes people I am eating slowly, i am chewing not swallowing my food. The face that I love is the one they put when I am not able to eat everything in my plate and i ask for a box. I am a regular at the neighborhood Olive Garden i use to order Soup and salad and i can easily used to eat 6 bowls of soup, now they are worry because I only eat one, they always give me one to go. I am loving this!

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Leepers    1,195

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I used to think they looked surprised when I would ask if they had nutritional info. Now that I'm thinner, not as much.

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NolansNana    210

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I know this feeling. I was eating last Friday night and this lady kept staring at me.

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JustWatchMe    7,117

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Good for you and for all of us for speaking up for our needs, no matter how others choose to respond. As time goes by and WLS gets more attention as the lifesaver it is, those stares and curious looks may lessen. But no matter. We are saving our lives and that's what is important.

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NolansNana    210

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So very true!

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cutlass6521    124

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my favorite is when you ask for the healthy side to go with your meal and they look at you and go UGH!, We charge extra for thaaat! LOL

Hell, if you want 2 orders of fries on your plate it is no problem (would you like them deluxe with cheese and other crap?)

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NolansNana    210

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Lol I know.. Try this one..went to IHOP with the bf, asked for 2 plates. Waitress didn't like that at all!!!

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B-52    7,113

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I used to love to go to restaurants and watch other people eat...after surgery it was an entirely different perspective. I could not believe what I was seeing.....

Take it another step forward, you begin to see how society, marketers, or somebody, (the devil) is encouraging you to eat more and more...

restaurants brag about the "never ending all you can dare to eat" menus. as though that is a big attraction???

Burgers on TV commercials just keep betting bigger and bigger (and more disgusting) adding more and more combinations. I think the latest is "Pretzel bread" Really?

And the pizza commercials...

So rejoice that you have crossed to the other side, away from all the madness....

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JustWatchMe    7,117

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"So rejoice that you have crossed to the other side, away from all the madness...."

That's how I feel. The madness is over.

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dylanmiles23    2,198

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Lately I've been getting this weird look from servers when I eat at restaurants and I start asking for healthy options, which they have available, it seems they don't understand how an overweight person wants to eat healthy. They can not imagine the struggles we go thru everyday. Then they will pass by the table thousands of times asking "is everything ok?" Is the food ok? Yes people I am eating slowly, i am chewing not swallowing my food. The face that I love is the one they put when I am not able to eat everything in my plate and i ask for a box. I am a regular at the neighborhood Olive Garden i use to order Soup and salad and i can easily used to eat 6 bowls of soup, now they are worry because I only eat one, they always give me one to go. I am loving this!

Good for you eating healthy. I eat out almost every day. I always say no drinks. That throws them off. I order from the kids menu mostly and have no problems.

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BandedInBama    58

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My husband took the family out to Carrabba's Italian Grill tonight. And our poor waiter was SO confused when I ordered the chicken Trio (Chicken Marsala, Chicken Bryan, and Chicken... Rosie? Maybe?) and told him I'd be sharing with the kids (aged 5 and 7). He was like, "Ma'am, the 3 portions are perhaps 1/3 the normal size since it's a trio" and I was like, "It's fine. If you could just bring 2 plates for me to share with the kids, that'd be great." He look dubious. And then, when I still needed a to go box for about half of what I had left after feeding my kids way more than 1/2 of the plate the poor guy just looked SO confused. It's far more than enough for me to enjoy for lunch tomorrow!

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