I'm almost 3 weeks Pre-op and other people seem much more excited than I do.

[4000smiles 1]

Me too. I keep thinking if i can do this preop diet i dont need the surgery. I keep thinking about all the things i will miss out on. Not a great thing to do though. A lady at my last support group meeting said "nothing tastes as good as thin feels". Ive always been successful on any diet ive tried, until the week is over. Ha! So i know these will help ensure i stay on it

[LisaNLasVegas 91]

I felt that way 11 years ago when I got my Lap Band, and I feel the same way now with my revision surgery in 3 weeks. I think it is just something we feel. I doubted myself back then - why is THIS going to work, when nothing else has? And why can't I just do it and follow the diet without the surgery? Well...

The answer to those questions are - if we could, we would have. WLS is a tool for me that gave me a physical STOP sign when it came to eating. I lost 100 lbs with the band and have gained 40 back. I look at that as a success. I kept 60 pounds off for 11 years - never did that on a different diet before! Now that my band has slipped and is no longer functioning, I need it replaced with a working tool to do the same thing.

But I still feel the way you do now! Why will THIS work? Can't I do it on my own? lol - things never change. The feeling will be there, but know that you are making the right decision. I don't regret my band for one minute. Even though I have to part with it, I loved it. I also looked at the future if i chose not to be banded - I would be at least 100 pounds bigger than I am and still trying to "start Monday" on my diet! Good luck to you!

[Bobby46 327]

Blazzrr, I feel exactly the same way. I am 3 1/2 weeks away from surgery too...August 11. I am not excited. I used to be. But not anymore. About 3 days ago I went from excited to scared and tired of it all. Its consumed my thoughts for months and months. I completely understand what you are going through. I think its the fact that its approaching fast and reality has sunk in. Its a sad thing to let go of something that was there for us thru the good the bad and the ugly for a very long time.

[vincereautmori 323]

Does anyone ever feel some burn out in the pre-op stage? My surgery is in 3 1/2 weeks and today I feel like I'm just not in the mood to deal with this anymore. Today, just as I need to go into high gear to get my life and my work ready, I'm feeling tired of it all, scared and shocked by the reality of the surgery - am I really going to do this to myself???? (I am, but sometimes I can't handle thinking about it too much). It's going to take so much very, very hard work to get from today to 4 months from now - I am going to have to dig really deep in myself to make each day happen and happen successfully. It seems so hard - how do I make sure I have what it takes and can do what it takes.

The people scheduled near my surgery date are all so excited - they can't wait, some wish it were tomorrow - is that the right and better way to be feeling? From everything I've read, this surgery is not magic and it's going to take a heck of a lot of total commitment from me to get through this - I see it more as a long road and hard commitment. I am working on coming to terms with and accepting this overwhelming challenge to make sure I'm ready for it. Anyone ever feel this way? Any thoughts?

I am giddy and happy here and there, but the huge commitment to this change and the growing acceptance of a life without dependence on food is much more of my focus.

(No really harsh responses to my post please)

I've been thinking the same thing but didn't know how to describe it, it is burn out. My surgery is 4 weeks away,but I've been in research for the past year. I keep coming back to read the stories and experiences on Bariatricpal,but I don't know what elseto ask. My motivation is to improve my health, painful joints, OSA, fatigue, metabolic syndrome. So I'm in waiting mode, ready to go, starting to phase in some changes, and looking forwarward to better health and a more active and rewarding life. So, relax, you're getting close, you've prepared and while there are challenges ahead of you, you will prevail.

Edited July 19, 2014 by vincereautmori

[vincereautmori 323]

Blazzrr, I feel exactly the same way. I am 3 1/2 weeks away from surgery too...August 11. I am not excited. I used to be. But not anymore. About 3 days ago I went from excited to scared and tired of it all. Its consumed my thoughts for months and months. I completely understand what you are going through. I think its the fact that its approaching fast and reality has sunk in. Its a sad thing to let go of something that was there for us thru the good the bad and the ugly for a very long time.

I hope this doesn't come across the wrong way, but why are you going though the surgery? To get into the game? Improve health problems? To feel "normal"? It's notlike we're getting rid of a family heirloom, it's something holding us back from living the way we want to or wish to. Think positive, stay the course, good luck.

[Bobby46 327]

Hello Vincerautmori, I didn't take you the wrong way at all! I think I just didn't explain myself very well in my post before. I am just worn down by the process to get to the point of surgery. I basically just want to get on with it. I was extremely excited in the beginning. It was all new. But, over time it has become the norm to head to doctor appointments and such and to think continuously about it. I'm tired of thinking about it all the time. I think that has taken a toll on the excitement. The reality of surgery has set in...this is serious stuff! I have worked thru ....still am....and I have accepted that my life is changing and will continue to change in the coming months. For the better! Absolutely! Its just kind of scary to make a drastic change in the way I eat and live my life.....for 39 yrs I turned to food to get me thru a lot, to protect me, comfort me and to bring pleasure. Are there other things that protect me, comfort me and bring me pleasure? Oh, Absolutely! But food has been a huge part of me and my family life. Its going to change. Giving up food, the way I enjoyed it and used it up to now, is very sad to me. I am not excited about that. I am, however, excited about my future! That is why I am having surgery.

Blazzrr, I feel exactly the same way. I am 3 1/2 weeks away from surgery too...August 11. I am not excited. I used to be. But not anymore. About 3 days ago I went from excited to scared and tired of it all. Its consumed my thoughts for months and months. I completely understand what you are going through. I think its the fact that its approaching fast and reality has sunk in. Its a sad thing to let go of something that was there for us thru the good the bad and the ugly for a very long time.

I hope this doesn't come across the wrong way, but why are you going though the surgery? To get into the game? Improve health problems? To feel "normal"? It's notlike we're getting rid of a family heirloom, it's something holding us back from living the way we want to or wish to. Think positive, stay the course, good luck.

[vincereautmori 323]

Hello Vincerautmori, I didn't take you the wrong way at all! I think I just didn't explain myself very well in my post before. I am just worn down by the process to get to the point of surgery. I basically just want to get on with it. I was extremely excited in the beginning. It was all new. But, over time it has become the norm to head to doctor appointments and such and to think continuously about it. I'm tired of thinking about it all the time. I think that has taken a toll on the excitement. The reality of surgery has set in...this is serious stuff! I have worked thru ....still am....and I have accepted that my life is changing and will continue to change in the coming months. For the better! Absolutely! Its just kind of scary to make a drastic change in the way I eat and live my life.....for 39 yrs I turned to food to get me thru a lot, to protect me, comfort me and to bring pleasure. Are there other things that protect me, comfort me and bring me pleasure? Oh, Absolutely! But food has been a huge part of me and my family life. Its going to change. Giving up food, the way I enjoyed it and used it up to now, is very sad to me. I am not excited about that. I am, however, excited about my future! That is why I am having surgery.

Blazzrr, I feel exactly the same way. I am 3 1/2 weeks away from surgery too...August 11. I am not excited. I used to be. But not anymore. About 3 days ago I went from excited to scared and tired of it all. Its consumed my thoughts for months and months. I completely understand what you are going through. I think its the fact that its approaching fast and reality has sunk in. Its a sad thing to let go of something that was there for us thru the good the bad and the ugly for a very long time.

I hope this doesn't come across the wrong way, but why are you going though the surgery? To get into the game? Improve health problems? To feel "normal"? It's notlike we're getting rid of a family heirloom, it's something holding us back from living the way we want to or wish to. Think positive, stay the course, good luck.

I hear you Bobby, I've thought alot about what I'm going to do after a bad day, how I'm going to handle long boring winter days, how different I will feel at family gatherings? The answer keeps coming back the same, I don't know. The emotional eating is the tough part that surgery can't fix, and unfortunately that's our responsibility. I'm hoping the sleeve will handle the appetite and control portions so that I can focus on controlling the head hunger. From what I've read on this site and people I've talked to, things feel pretty natural at around a year post op.