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I would like to hear from people who intentionally finally took the WLS plunge BECAUSE they knew it would give them strength and confidence to leave an unhealthy marriage.

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While this may be true I would like to know the sources used for those stats. They are not referenced. Also the grammar, spelling and sentence structure of that article was not very good. She would make a statement then support that statement with a sentence beginning in However which does not make sense

Sorry to be picky. Her info may be true but not a well written article! Guess I had strict nuns back in school.

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i too would question the authenticity of the research, but on another note, my hubs and i were both thin when we married and turned into food buddies together.

we are both now ready to change our lives so that we can enjoy the second half of our lives together. he doesn't qualify for surgery but will be embarking in his own journey right along with me.

we are excited that these changes-his program and my surgery- will bring us closer, allow us to do more together (can't do many things now because i am chronically short of breath from being so overweight), and allow us to be more active with our kids.

We have a wonderful parish church where the priest has you stand up on your anniversary and do a short vow renewal. we have had several of those, and it will take much more than a little surgery and some pounds to undo those words we promised each other before our Lord.

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interesting read. I will share this article with my spouse.

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No sources are given. The divorce rate in general is high. I divorced because my husband was a man whore. That was 15 years ago. I was normal sized then. Gained a lot of weight with the divorce and depression. He has over the years tried to get back with me many times. I'm sure he is dying now that I am normal sized again. Haha. Sucks to be him.

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When my husband and I met I was overweight but since we have been married I have put on a lot of weight, He loves me anyway. He has had a lot of serious health issues that we got through together. When I first talked about having WLS he was not totally on board because he was worried about the risks but after our first visit at the Bariatric center he felt much better. He has been right by my side through it all,I had RNY on 6/24, and I do not see that changing.

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My wonderful hubby met me at 115 lbs seventeen years ago. When we married almost eleven years ago, I had already put on some weight. Now that I'm getting back to a normal weight, we can't WAIT to start dating other people. LoL

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I am in several other support groups and there are a lot of people that have gotten divorced. Although I am sure that there are many reasons that led to that point. My husband and I have been together for 20 years since I was 15(not overweight) and he was 16, my mom had to take custody of him when we were younger and I still made sure to talk with my husband about the possibility since our relationship will change because I am changing. Even though deep down we both know we have a strong marriage.

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I hope it makes my marriage stronger. My husband loves to ride motorcycles and he's really excited that I will be able to ride along. Because right now there's no way at 347 lbs. My surgery date is July 16 th. So by spring I hope to be ready to ride some. Can't wait !!!!

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