Okay, all I'm going to say, is that if people don't start to use the 'search Forums' function...I may have to have a Michael Douglas Whammy Burger moment.

It's not that hard. ALL of the information you require will be there (with the exception of a few, personally focussed nuances and topics).

If your topic is not original, do us all a favour; thoroughly exhaust the search function and if there is something not covered (which I doubt it won't be), THEN ask! Ideally making reference to what you have read so far and how and why, the information presented did not cover your specific area of interest/concern.

If you don't know how to search - please ask us. We will be MORE than happy to help.

Its just and outside of this, the general laziness permeating the threads is starting to get on my mammary glands.

For those of the 'bleeding heart' brigade who will no doubt mew in my general direction: 'But some people are new. Some people need special attention. Don't be mean. You need to be more compassionate. You were new once. This serves no purpose but to scare people away from posting' (etc.etc, ad infinitum, ad nauseum)

Bite me. I have never been 'lazy' in the pursuit of information which will allay my fears and build upon my knowledge for a proposed action which really should not be taken lightly, so why are other people?

If someone is incapable of using the search function through internet inexperience - this is one thing. (See above). But I find for those who have already managed to insert Giff's and tickers to their signatures, this is not applicable - so why haven't they searched first? If you evidence that you've searched (not just stating 'I've searched', moving on to ask the same bleedin' question, thus indicating you haven't actually been bothered to search!) and there's a genuine need for additional and unique information - there's not a person in the world who won't help you.

However and I'm just going to put it out there. If you're this lazy in response to finding out the critical information YOU need for YOUR surgery and post operative care; how does this bode for your attitude post surgery?

If you can't be bothered now, will you be bothered later?

Or is this just emblematic of the attitude 'Its not me, it's them.' Absolving yourself of all responsibility?

So and to summarize; take the initiative people. Use your brains. Read, analyse, compare, contrast, critique - THEN ask questions.

You will gain far more from it and the website will also benefit. I concede that the search function on this site is a bit laborious. However, by showing some effort, the people who genuinely want to help you will be invigorated to do so - valuing the efforts you've already made to push the debate on and contribute to the ever-growing invaluable pot of knowledge on Bariatric Pal. Failure to do so will just fill the the site with repetitive, unanswered questions, because those who are capable of helping have become exhausted and their pot of compassion depleted, by those whom seem to think that THEIR questions are more important/relevant/unique than anyone else's?

The Quest for knowledge should be a daily mission. It is how we learn and grow. Asking people to spoon feed you pap, like baby food, will do nothing for you long term and will do nothing for this community, either.

Maybe have a think about that, before you post another 'done to death' topic; expecting the world to rally to your call. 'Cause after a while, people just won't respond and all thats been affected, is to leave the site a wasteland full of whistling wind and tumbleweed.

Rant over.

<Wanders off grumbling, back to her cave of mean>

Online support groups offer the user the chance at interactive communication that books do not. My point was that social networking is not human contact in the strictest sense of the word. It's a misuse and misunderstanding of a very important aspect of our society. Did you ever hear about the experiment with the monkeys that were given a choice between a fake cloth covered "mother" vs a wire "mother" even though the wire one held the bottle? They all chose to cling to the cloth one for the sake of "comfort contact". Social networking is the wire mother that feeds us...it's communication, not contact.

Like I said it's me being nitpicky about the terminology, that's all.

Edited May 16, 201412 yr by Kindle

I am confused, what is the point of a forum if we dont ask questions. I am preop..so you are telling me that everytime I post I should go and do and search before posting? Most of the time I am on the app so what you are saying is absolutely ridiculous.

-.-

@@Madam Reverie - delightful, yet evil.

lol I'm not evil!

Maybe a bit of a pain in the bum, but not evil x

I spent so much time reading this thread I have worked up quite an appetite. Madame Revs, what's the best tasting protein bar? :)

I spent so much time reading this thread I have worked up quite an appetite. Madame Revs, what's the best tasting Protein bar? :)

Satay chicken flavour

I am confused, what is the point of a forum if we dont ask questions. I am preop..so you are telling me that everytime I post I should go and do and search before posting? Most of the time I am on the app so what you are saying is absolutely ridiculous.

-.-

hence it being firmly situated in the rants and raves section.

Meaning someone else already had this rant a year ago. You mean you didn't do an exhaustive search to find it, before posting on it again? Tsk tsk

Sorry couldn't resist. :-) dde07dde07

BAHAHAHA!!!!! good one.

****sprinkling lots and lots of "dont take yourself and everything else so seriously" fairy dust everywhere****

<is mulling over whether she can be arsed to go through every reply and respond to each 'charge' individually..>

<and she realises she can't be arsed, because it would be futile to>

Oh the drama! Puhleese!

Now really, what possible good can be gleaned from this over baiting, over biting, over bitchy rant? Me thinks someone may be craving attention SO badly that they now believe it's perfectly acceptable behavior to attack anonymous WLS patients over whatever real or imagined, half witted, half baked, pet peeve of the moment.

We're a vulnerable and exclusive group of folks so let's stand together, not apart!

I too have been amused by the Divine Miss R's posts in the past. This one, not so much.

Breathe in... breathe out baby!

The only question that really gripes me is why am I hungry. You are hungry because its the bodies natural response to needing food. Other then that I am good.

Being new here the OP almost makes me not want to ask anything in fear someone is going to talk behind my back ranting about my concern/question.

I'm sorry if I post duplicate questions but the way MY mind works is that if I have a question on my mind I need to immediately ask it or I'll forget. If I have a pen and paper I could write it down and then do a search but many times I'm on my phone and looking on the board and don't have access to a pen and paper.

To the OP- I'm thinking that you may be burned out with this site and need to move on perhaps?

Oh the drama! Puhleese!

Now really, what possible good can be gleaned from this over baiting, over biting, over bitchy rant? Me thinks someone may be craving attention SO badly that they now believe it's perfectly acceptable behavior to attack anonymous WLS patients over whatever real or imagined, half witted, half baked, pet peeve of the moment.

We're a vulnerable and exclusive group of folks so let's stand together, not apart!

I too have been amused by the Divine Miss R's posts in the past. This one, not so much.

Breathe in... breathe out baby!

To be fair, I couldn't give a rats arse whether anyone is enamored with this post or not. As with most things and as I have been repeatedly told - if you don't like something, move right along!

It is, after all, in the 'rant and rave' section of the program! So and if this point has escaped some, it avoids singling people out in their own threads (because that's attacking an individual ) but just 'sows the seeds of thoughts' for an individuals own reflection...

It is, rightly or wrongly, my viewpoint. Although most don't agree - most have overlooked the core tenet. Which is, for those who missed it, that if an individual can't be faffed to do in-depth research for themselves - wishing people to 'spoon feed' them repeatedly - then how does that bode for their levels of personal accountability post surgery? How does it benefit them or the site? It doesn't.

Now, if it's my mistake to assume that surely people want to 'add' to the pot - not just go through the motions time and time again - then I clearly miss the point of a forum of this nature and I'll hold my hands up to that.

I see the value in 'reaching out' - I really do. I have acknowledged and said it many times before. I am also in awe of the people who are not tired of responding to it. I, too, ignore what annoys. Sometimes, however, it gets my goat so I thought I'd state that.

I don't, however, see the purpose of people not taking accountability for their own information needs and also being a bit lazy in how they go about it. I do, however, concede there are often difficulties in this, when using the phone app and with the search function itself.

As for the drama... One might want to review ones own last post and make an evaluation from there on that one...

Attention seeking? Ha! As above.

I could always take it down to base level for you; start posting topics entitled 'OMG HELP!!!!' for it then to be an exposition of eating half a lettuce leaf with a molecule of ranch dressing on it. Asking people to anticipate down to the millisecond when it is they will likely expire...

But no, to make everyone feel 'better', I shall simply state that I love you all and am available, day or night, for cuddles, tear-wiping, forehead soothing and speaking in hushed, baby-like monosyllabic tones.

That, if unsure, would be the 'half baked', 'half witted' portion of the program

To the OP- I'm thinking that you may be burned out with this site and need to move on perhaps?

My response to that is, IMHO I think this would apply to each and every one who is irritated here. We are all adults. No one made you or me read this thread but lets face it - "for the sweet love of Jesus" Madame Rev reeled us all in LOL!!! None of us had to look but we did. It might be a good idea sometimes to stick to the thread that asks "What flavor of Protein shake is best?", but that bores me to death.