Okay, all I'm going to say, is that if people don't start to use the 'search Forums' function...I may have to have a Michael Douglas Whammy Burger moment.

It's not that hard. ALL of the information you require will be there (with the exception of a few, personally focussed nuances and topics).

If your topic is not original, do us all a favour; thoroughly exhaust the search function and if there is something not covered (which I doubt it won't be), THEN ask! Ideally making reference to what you have read so far and how and why, the information presented did not cover your specific area of interest/concern.

If you don't know how to search - please ask us. We will be MORE than happy to help.

Its just and outside of this, the general laziness permeating the threads is starting to get on my mammary glands.

For those of the 'bleeding heart' brigade who will no doubt mew in my general direction: 'But some people are new. Some people need special attention. Don't be mean. You need to be more compassionate. You were new once. This serves no purpose but to scare people away from posting' (etc.etc, ad infinitum, ad nauseum)

Bite me. I have never been 'lazy' in the pursuit of information which will allay my fears and build upon my knowledge for a proposed action which really should not be taken lightly, so why are other people?

If someone is incapable of using the search function through internet inexperience - this is one thing. (See above). But I find for those who have already managed to insert Giff's and tickers to their signatures, this is not applicable - so why haven't they searched first? If you evidence that you've searched (not just stating 'I've searched', moving on to ask the same bleedin' question, thus indicating you haven't actually been bothered to search!) and there's a genuine need for additional and unique information - there's not a person in the world who won't help you.

However and I'm just going to put it out there. If you're this lazy in response to finding out the critical information YOU need for YOUR surgery and post operative care; how does this bode for your attitude post surgery?

If you can't be bothered now, will you be bothered later?

Or is this just emblematic of the attitude 'Its not me, it's them.' Absolving yourself of all responsibility?

So and to summarize; take the initiative people. Use your brains. Read, analyse, compare, contrast, critique - THEN ask questions.

You will gain far more from it and the website will also benefit. I concede that the search function on this site is a bit laborious. However, by showing some effort, the people who genuinely want to help you will be invigorated to do so - valuing the efforts you've already made to push the debate on and contribute to the ever-growing invaluable pot of knowledge on Bariatric Pal. Failure to do so will just fill the the site with repetitive, unanswered questions, because those who are capable of helping have become exhausted and their pot of compassion depleted, by those whom seem to think that THEIR questions are more important/relevant/unique than anyone else's?

The Quest for knowledge should be a daily mission. It is how we learn and grow. Asking people to spoon feed you pap, like baby food, will do nothing for you long term and will do nothing for this community, either.

Maybe have a think about that, before you post another 'done to death' topic; expecting the world to rally to your call. 'Cause after a while, people just won't respond and all thats been affected, is to leave the site a wasteland full of whistling wind and tumbleweed.

Rant over.

<Wanders off grumbling, back to her cave of mean>

Redundancy anyone?

Meaning someone else already had this rant a year ago. You mean you didn't do an exhaustive search to find it, before posting on it again? Tsk tsk

Sorry couldn't resist. :-) ????????

Edited May 15, 201412 yr by PRINCESSM

REALLY!!?? You need to take a chill pill, Madam Reverie. This place is for everyone to learn, vent, talk and enjoy the camaraderie of all of us in this unique situation. Everyone else here is seems so happy to help others as they were once helped themselves. If you don't fit this 'mold' anymore, well...goodbye...

No, Revs stays. She is a refreshing breath of fresh air and a truly unique individual. This would be a poorer community if she left. If you don't like diversity on this site, perhaps you should take your own advice.

@@PRINCESSM I don't think you'd be very surprised to find out exactly how many times this very thought and thread type has come up over the years. Ha!

This topic has been posted several times by burnt out members of this forum and by the this poster. What is this? Number 3, Rev? But they do get hundreds of replies if that's what you're looking for.

Well, from my perspective, posting threads and getting responses helps build relationships and me being a newbie, that is what I "liked" about this site and what I needed. The social networking is what I was looking for in this time of change.. biggest change of my life. What good is having a forum site if you can't discuss things (even when you can use search). If everyone was to use "search", wouldn't have a very popular forum. Just my opinion and everyone has their own.

I have used the search often and come up with "no results found". I don't know....maybe I'm putting in the wrong words. None the less, I approach this forum kind of like any other social media forums (ie. facebook). If I don't want to read it I just move on or remove myself. Really isn't that big of a deal.

Madam Rev rocks! I only wish I could say it so eloquently. I think under the glossary such as IMHO the initials STALL should be listed with a definition of "an undetermined time period where you don't lose pounds which can start and end from day of surgery til death".

Furthermore, I admit this week I am traveling cross country by car, obsessing about my hair falling out but not starting a thread on it (because I have researched it, when the post "Am I DOOMED???" just about sent me over the edge. I apologize but ya know, we are all human. This group is the best thing going and I would not trade any of you! Hello, we share stories of our poop, sex, weight, hormones, men, hair, boobs, plastic surgery. etc. Where else can you be so honest about our lives with complete strangers and not get in a rant or two sometimes. Relax friends, and enjoy Madame Rev because she is the funniest person we have here. Gotta love her!

Madam....bravo!! Just when I'm ready to hang up my BP membership, a great post like this comes along.

Actually, since the search feature hasn't gone over too well on here I was thinking of petitioning the web designers to come up with a blocking feature.... If a post mentions any of the key words or phases I enter (I.e. Stall, frustrated, is this normal, cheated, not losing, hungry, ate pizza day after surgery, etcetera) it would be not show up in my New Content list.

Edited May 16, 201412 yr by Kindle

Allow me to take a moment and join in the "I Heart Madam Reverie" group.

I can't put my thoughts down nearly as well as most people on this site, and I always admire those who have that skill. And to do so, and elicit a chuckle or three, kind of makes my day sometimes.

Be well…

Why stress and get upset about things that are out of your control? Not worth it, especially over things that are inevitable. Although some topics may be repetitive, each thread is unique and just as valuable as the first. Offering new, old, good, bad and ugly information. Everyone has their own story, everyone is unique... Which I do believe qualifies them for there own unique (or not) topic. You will not find any support group, club, forums...that do not have repetitive threads and information.

Meaning someone else already had this rant a year ago. You mean you didn't do an exhaustive search to find it, before posting on it again? Tsk tsk<br><br> Sorry couldn't resist. :-) dde07dde07

I was totally going to post the same thing! Some people feed on drama. Posts like that are yet another reason why I haven't checked this site in months.

I don't recall anyone in the thread saying they don't like the OP anywhere and I've read every response. I believe in freedom of speech, but with that freedom comes consequences because everyone else has a right to exercise their freedom and disagree or agree with any statement.

That said, I would like to say that when I see threads like this, here is what I really see: "Hey fatty, why can't you just eat right and exercise?!?" Haven't we all been ridiculed enough in our lives? Why do we need to do it to each other? It's not funny to me at all, and this place is here for support, and these types of posts, this one and the hundreds before it are far from supportive in any nature. Whether some find it funny, refreshing (and if you've been here as long as I have you wouldn't find these refreshing anymore) or any other way it just isn't for the hundreds of others in the line of fire. For anyone who does find this sort of thread funny or otherwise, I invite you to take a look in the mirror and reflect on why you do.

One last thing, these threads are actually not allowed here whether it be in Rants and Raves or anywhere else...

Forum Rules In addition, “bashing” of individuals is prohibited. This includes, but is not limited to, statements that a person is:

• Lazy for choosing one type of weight loss surgery over another
• Unprepared for or undeserving of weight loss surgery because of
• Deserving of complications or disappointing weight loss because of their choice of weight loss surgery

Whether or not we agree with sentiment, one can not help but enjoy Revs' writing "I may have to have a Michael Douglas Whammy Burger moment." or "wanders off grumbling to my cave of mean". Makes me laugh. So I don't really need to "take a look in the mirror". I'll keep posting questions and responses the same way I always do. It helps me get through my post-op journey. And I'll continue to look forward to Revs' rants.

I finally see the nastiness in people right here...I do not find this thread to be funny but instead find it degrading, rude and obnoxious. Now I know people are nasty no matter what shape and form they are in and here I thought wow this is a great place to get support and meet people that are like minded. I guess I am wrong...and I am glad I don't know anyone here in person and nor would I care to. I rather surround myself with people that are nice and kind. Just my 2 cents!

Edited May 16, 201412 yr by RNBSN786