Today is my 3 month post-op visit with the surgeon and the nutritionist. I am so nervous. I am worried that they will tell me that I have not lost enough, that I am doing it wrong, and that it is all stretched. I know I am wrong and that I am doing well, but these feelings are real.

Anyone else have these feeling? I think everyone might. We have spent years judging ourselves by number on a scale, feeling inadequate, and self-conscious in almost every area of our lives due to our weight (OK, I know I am taking a lot of liberties with others feelings, but I think 99% of us are all hear for the same reason in one way or another.)

If all goes well today, I am going to work hard at reprogramming the "fat" brain I have. I want to be proud (and I am) and not discourage by what my "fat" brain is telling me.

Any ideas, tips, or tricks on how you learned to love yourself...or at least like yourself? How do you reprogram the voice in your head that says you are not good enough and you are always "too fat" for this or that? Did buying new smaller sized clothing help? I think it would, but I have realized that even with a 59.8lb weight loss I am still in the same clothes; imagine how tight these clothes that not FIT were 3 months ago!

Send good thoughts my way my friends!

I understand the feelings you have--The weight loss journey we cannot do alone (hence why we are all here) I also feel the self-loathing and deprecation is something we shouldn't do alone either. I would strongly suggest hiring a therapist or finding a professional that can help.

I have seen a psychologist and she has helped immensely with many of the thoughts of self hatred and why I feel the way I do.

Good Luck

I'm pre-op but I have started to "argue" with myself... when I feel defeated and start saying "I can't do this" I immediately try to talk back to myself and say "I CAN do this!" This morning's argument was "I don't want to go to the gym" which I turned around to say "I LOVE to work out... it makes me feel so much better." This morning it actually worked and I got out of bed and hit the gym!

Best wishes -- it looks like you're doing great on the weight loss -- now time to work on the brain! lol