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My hubby and I are both taking this journey together a week apart.. his surgery is today ( 3/26), mine will be 4/1. My question is how soon can begin to have sex again, and are there any expeiences I should be on the look out for??? Good or Bad!!!

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I think the sensible answer to this, is 'when you both feel ready'.

Slow and steady wins the race - in all respects!

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I was back to having sex the night I got back.

I had Surgery Friday I was back home on Monday.

Its no big deal. you should not really be in pain.

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You should be fine pretty quickly. I had sex the following week after surgery.

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Thanks so much for the responses..its good to know I wont have to wait until I receive clearance from the surgeon!! Im wondering did any of you have any discomfort?

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i had sex about a week and a half after surgery. it's really when you feel ready for it/when it's comfortable. it gets a lot better too as time goes on! ;D

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My surgeon said no sex for 4 weeks

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I would really encourage you to keep the surgery of you and your husband more then a week apart. You wanna be there for him and vis versa.. Give yourself 4 weeks between each other. It's still a journey together but it lives some time for a good recovery before he goes through the Zombie stage..

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My hubby and I are both taking this journey together a week apart.. his surgery is today ( 3/26), mine will be 4/1. My question is how soon can begin to have sex again, and are there any expeiences I should be on the look out for??? Good or Bad!!!

I was wondering the same. I have a friend who has had the surgery done a yr ago and she said she didnt think about it or want it for like 6 mo. I hope this surgery dont take away my sex drive that long

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Well don't worry. I had surgery 4-2-14 and had sex yesterday 4-6-14. It wasn't amazing acrobatic sex but still felt good. We were careful and made sure he didn't put any weight in me. It didn't hurt at all except just a little (scale of 1-10 would've been a 2) when I got there just from tightening my stomach muscles. But the after felt so good I didn't mind the little twinge of pain. In fact I felt better the rest of the day than I had since I left the hospital.

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Well don't worry. I had surgery 4-2-14 and had sex yesterday 4-6-14. It wasn't amazing acrobatic sex but still felt good. We were careful and made sure he didn't put any weight in me. It didn't hurt at all except just a little (scale of 1-10 would've been a 2) when I got there just from tightening my stomach muscles. But the after felt so good I didn't mind the little twinge of pain. In fact I felt better the rest of the day than I had since I left the hospital.

Hahahaha..I love your response!! Im 6 days out now and my sweetie is 12 days out, so we decided this morning to see what we were made of!! All went very well, and honestly I feel like I have more pep in my step. There really isnt any time limit, just listen to your body and know your limits...and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!:-)

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My Dr. didn't say anything about a time limit so we just focused on me and me being comfortable. Glad you got a kick out of it.

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This, made me laugh for all the wrong reasons....

'made sure he didn't put any weight in me'

Sorry! :blink:

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Oh haha. I didn't even catch that. I meant "on" me lol

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